Re: Consistent Negative Comments ~ Do They Bother ... - Page 7

NYC Susan · ‎03-13-2010

@TaylorBrown wrote:
I cannot agree that it is jealousy related. I do agree that there are negative people in the world. It truly takes all kinds to make the world go 'round.

I agree with you. Negativity and jealousy are not automatically connected. Lots of people are just negative by nature, and jealousy has nothing at all to do with it.

I also think that what one person perceives as negative might very well be perceived differently by someone else. Honest opinions are not always welcome here, and several posters accuse others of being overly negative if they have a different idea or point of view.

Many "negative" comments are in the eye of the beholder.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@NYC Susan wrote:
@TaylorBrown wrote:
I cannot agree that it is jealousy related. I do agree that there are negative people in the world. It truly takes all kinds to make the world go 'round.

I agree with you. Negativity and jealousy are not automatically connected. Lots of people are just negative by nature, and jealousy has nothing at all to do with it.

I also think that what one person perceives as negative might very well be perceived differently by someone else. Honest opinions are not always welcome here, and several posters accuse others of being overly negative if they have a different idea or point of view.

Many "negative" comments are in the eye of the beholder.

As negativity and judging are often used to accuse as well. . . odd isn't it?

qbetzforreal · ‎08-28-2010

I try to glaze over the negative comments. Try is the operative word. What bugs me are the posters who intentionally things to start a fight. I've seen a couple of much beloved posters do this, threads was going well then boom. It's on.

skuggles · ‎11-20-2013

There is a lot of negative in the world and in people's lives. They look to share and unburden themselves of their problems both consciously and unconsciously. I don't think they should be encouraged to hide it because that would not be realistic or healthy, but I agree with your point about there being so much of it that it seems contagious. If you're that secure in your own positive take on everything, someone else's negativity should not be able to impact you. I disagree that much of it is jealously related, but I'm sure some of it is. There are just too many other reasons for people to be constantly negative.

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

I don't consider someone saying they just can't stand a certain style of clothing as a negative - just an opinion - but when they also say everyone looks awful in them and guillable for falling for the sales pitches or everyone who wears this style looks awful and trashy, etc, it is negativity. Nothing wrong or negative with saying it is their opinion that a host's clothing or hair style doesn't complement them or talks too fast or too much about their personal life while not presenting enough information about the product but when someone states that a host wears inappropriate clothing and looks trashy and is narcissistic and should be "told" or fired, etc then that is negativity to the max and bully behavior! That is behavior that is just wrong! It does bother me that these people obviously are very unhappy with their lives (by their own choice) and want to drag down everyone else to their level to put them down and feel superior (which will never work because they are so negative). Yes that is a form of jealously because others have chosen to be postive and as a result they are happier and more content. Nobody has a life free from problems but we all have a choice to make our lives positve by how we deal with them or just see the negative and wallow in it!!

Skyegirl21 · ‎03-20-2010

If you post to a public forum such as this one, where people will post their opinions, your gonna get both positives and negatives ( opinions, comments, people), so you either have to have a ‘thick skin’, or don’t read them- if the negatives bother you.

Pook · ‎03-20-2010

@Skyegirl21 What bothers me is that some do it to get all the negatives to come out to join in. Another thing is they are their own problem and only they can change their lives by choosing to look at the good in their lives rather than zeroing in on the negatives so their need to drag others down in an effort to boost their own self worth would not be necessary! Ignoring it is accepting their inappropriate behavior! I have found in life that the ones that really have awful things happening in their lives are also the most positive ones who would never think of putting others down to try to make themselves fell better. The negatives have made the choice to make every negative (real or perceived) an issue and enough is enough. I will and do speak out about it and they need to know their behavior is not accepted by most. Those that constantly are spouting the nasty negative things are the minority and most do not agree and it's a good thing to speak out. Ignoring doesn't work as their behavior just escalates. I am not affected by their comments so they do not have the results they want/need to boost their own lack of self esteem!!

dex · ‎03-09-2010

@september I feel a little differently about the people who think that nothing can help them.I think they are the ones who need help the most.They can’t see beyond their troubles and are so overwhelmed that they feel there is no end or fix.I think those people need kindness and understanding beyond what most of us have the patience to give.Therefore they always feel no matter what,they will be let down and it is true they most likely are.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

@Sooner wrote:
@occasionalrain wrote:
There is nothing positive or uplifting, nothing sweet about this OP's thread. What's not mean spirited about judging fellow posters comments as jealous?

No. I'm not bothered by what others post, both negative and positive; sometimes amused, sometimes bored, sometimes enlightened, sometimes miffed but never bothered.
@occasionalrain Well, when someone consistently bashes others for what they buy, belittles others for what they spend money on and demeans posters who disagree with them, we can assume it isn't from love and kindness.

There is a difference between "judging" people and forming a sensible opinion based on their actions.

Early on I was guilty of assuming other poster's lives were similar to mine, carefree, and judged them unfairly. We can't know what is behind any post, it could be pain, loss, disappointment, illness...

Noel7 · ‎03-09-2010

There are people here who go after others who are having a tough time. I heard so much about the poster Aunt (?) Bertie. She was sick but always kind and she became a target.

That kind of thing still goes on.