Caring for disabled siblings - Page 6

Lilysmom1 · ‎11-08-2020

I am with @Mom2Dogs on this one. No children and no one knows what is in our Wills. My Executor knows where the documents are, that's it. I see no need to share that information.

Sooner · ‎03-10-2010

@moonandthestars wrote:
I'm guessing the parents just assumed that family takes care of family. More of an old fashioned assumption. At least they think that the proceeds from the house will finance caring for the sister so they had that thought out to some extent. I can understand the other children not wanting to take on this burden, but personally I would have been happier to hear that they would be helping the parents research and come up with "the plan".

@moonandthestars A lot of people don't accept "help" and therein lies the problem. Sounds like they favor one child and that's that as far as they are concerned.

moonandthestars · ‎03-11-2010

@Sooner

@Sooner wrote:
@moonandthestars wrote:
I'm guessing the parents just assumed that family takes care of family. More of an old fashioned assumption. At least they think that the proceeds from the house will finance caring for the sister so they had that thought out to some extent. I can understand the other children not wanting to take on this burden, but personally I would have been happier to hear that they would be helping the parents research and come up with "the plan".
@moonandthestars A lot of people don't accept "help" and therein lies the problem. Sounds like they favor one child and that's that as far as they are concerned.

@Sooner I understand what you mean, but I don't know the people involved in this so I made general comments based on what I read from the op. And also I guess from my own experience and observation in life that many times family members don't even offer to share some of the hard work like this or help with decisions or planning. Thinking about it again now, it seems odd to me that the other children, knowing the situation with their sister, did not repeatedly inquire over the years about what the plan would be for her. Or maybe they did! (I don't know these people.....)