I understand what you are saying about apartment living. If I was younger I'd build me another house, but at 70 I don't have time and there are very few one level small houses where I live. My oldest daughter has 4 children in 4 different schools so she stays busy. Yesterday I had a nice visit with her. She called the night before and asked if I'd like to have lunch with her and my youngest grandson (4). He and I are buddies and sometimes he asks for me. I always laugh and say, "He sees me as a walking talking french fry" because I always bring him the McDonald's happy meal.. I'm very close to this daughter's children (14, 13 and 9 also) because I see them so often and we go on "trips", just us to the bookstore, shoe store, etc. It's fun when we sit in the car after ordering fast food and they talk about everything (no iphones, no music, just us talking and talking).
@JammaThey've taught me so much and I like to think I've taught them some things. They are very intelligent and are in gifted programs at school so we have some 'lively' conversations.
This same daughter handles all of mine and my husbands's business accounts so we get together for that too. Periodically, they come over and her husband does the electronic and heavy labor things I do.
I mention all of this because there might be someone in your life that maybe you aren't even thinking about who would like to help you. If you belong to church (if you don't you might think of joining one or a woman's group). There are so many people like both of us who are widows and are downsizing, etc.
Right now I'm dealing with the process of getting new knees and I've had terrible back pain for years. It's gotten to the point where I can hardly walk anymore. I get invited out but I often have to decline due the pain. (I'm working on that). Ha!
I wish you lived near me. I'd hobble over there, put you in my car and we'd go off in what my grandkids call our 'journeys'. We laugh and say we know where we're going we just go a different way every time...(Life is a journey in itself).
I don't know yet where I'll end up living. I don't like the idea of living in a condo (which to me is an apartment). I guess I'm lucky because I can afford to live anywhere in anything I want. But it doesn't matter because I'm still limited on where I can live due to my physical health and age, so it isn't any different...right?
Take care of yourself. I'll be praying that you find a way to make your life more fulfilling. You might talk to your daughter and maybe you could just come over and visit some for a quick lunch, etc (like I do).
Unfortunately we (and many like us) are in a time of our lives where we have ourselves mainly to count on. Your daughter and my 3 daughters and sons-in-law all love us, but they have their lives (which is what we want, right). So, it's up to us to take hold of our lives.
You take care, you sweet lady and please let us know what you decide to do about the wreaths. I'm sorry I got off topic (I am terrible that way). I just sensed that maybe you could use a friend so you knew you weren't alone in what you are dealing with. There are plenty of us here who are in the same boat. Fondly, Annabelle/Linda
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