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[Nightowlz]

Just need to vent. Bought a ham to turkey plus some other things to make to take to the in-laws for Christmas dinner. I know at DH's mom age she is tired of the cooking & mess that goes along with Holiday dinners. I don't care for it either. Told DH to call & tell her we would cook the ham & turkey. She informs him she talked to his sister & they decided his mom would make chicken & noodles for Christmas. DH told his mom we would bring the ham & turkey anyways. I said to DH we are going to your parents house with ham & turkey to eat that with chicken & noodles. I think not. I'm all for a Traditional Christmas dinner so I will be staying home on Christmas. DH & his famiy can do what they want. His mom's chicken & noodles is nothing more then a pot of noodles with a whole chicken in it. I guess she uses the chicken for another meal. I'm not eating a bowl of noodles for Chrismtas dinner. I should just tell DH to tell his boss he will be gone from the 19th thru the 4th for the holidays & go to my sisters in Fl.

[Bird mama]

Since you are already eating some kind of poultry (chicken), could you compromise and take the ham?

Maybe you could cook the turkey for New Years?

[Nightowlz]

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@Bird mama wrote:

Since you are already eating some kind of poultry (chicken), could you compromise and take the ham?

Maybe you could cook the turkey for New Years?

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What will we do with the ham. There are no fixins. DH wants mashed potatoes, gravy, turkey, ham, homemade rolls, watergate salad, green bean casserole, pecan pie.

[nana59]

can i go to florida with you.....

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@Nightowlz wrote:

Just need to vent. Bought a ham to turkey plus some other things to make to take to the in-laws for Christmas dinner. I know at DH's mom age she is tired of the cooking & mess that goes along with Holiday dinners. I don't care for it either. Told DH to call & tell her we would cook the ham & turkey. She informs him she talked to his sister & they decided his mom would make chicken & noodles for Christmas. DH told his mom we would bring the ham & turkey anyways. I said to DH we are going to your parents house with ham & turkey to eat that with chicken & noodles. I think not. I'm all for a Traditional Christmas dinner so I will be staying home on Christmas. DH & his famiy can do what they want. His mom's chicken & noodles is nothing more then a pot of noodles with a whole chicken in it. I guess she uses the chicken for another meal. I'm not eating a bowl of noodles for Chrismtas dinner. I should just tell DH to tell his boss he will be gone from the 19th thru the 4th for the holidays & go to my sisters in Fl.

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[gmkb]

Ouch!  Not the Christmas spirit.  You didn't ask, but my advice is bring a couple of side dishes (green bean casserole, cold sliced ham, green salad, jello salad are some suggestions), smile, enjoy and next year plan a trip to your sister's in Florida.

No reason to have anger over a bowl of noodles.  People are more important.

[Bird mama]

@Nightowlz

Oh hon, forgive me.  I misunderstood.  So you are looking at a pot of chicken and noodles and that's it?!?

Jesus - I can see why you want to take your bird and ham elsewhere.

[Keeper of the koi]

Just a thought... It's only a meal. Could you cook your ham and turkey day before, pick at in-laws and come home and enjoy your meal then or enjoy leftovers next day. Seems it is only food. Don't let it ruin your Christmas  cheer! Either way ,Happy holidays if you can! Maryanne

[Another new name Sue]

Wow.  There is a lot more going on here than noodles as you seem to be harboring a lot of anger.  How sad that you would miss a family dinner because don't like the food. 

Think about it--Christmas is a holiday when we get together with family.  What is eaten is relatively unimportant.  You can eat the food you like ANY time, so do a little attitude adjustment and go along with the plans.  If you stay home, it will just create more hard feelings, more negative family history.  Everyone will remember the year when Nightowiz didn't come to Christmas dinner and went to FL!!!  Seriously, rise above this, smile and go.  Or start thinking about what is really bothering you and why you anger so easily over food.

My 2 cents.

[Bird mama]

Maryanne has a point.  I don't know how far they live from you.  Maybe you could do a pre-emptive visit on Christmas Eve or do a hit and run visit on Christmas Day and come home and eat what you want.

[cookie16]

Personally, I wouldn't want to cause problems in the family, especially on Christmas.  I would make my traditional Christmas dinner (I.e. the ham/turkey or whatever you want to make for Christmas Eve dinner)  and suck-it-up and have whatever is served with the in-laws on Christmas Day.  You said his Mom is older so why be so difficult.  Enjoy the time spent with his family and when you get home, chow down on your left-overs.  Have a wonderful Christmas and it isn't about the gifts or the food.