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[SeaMaiden]

My  childhood picture album starts with a picture of me at age Two-ish on the beach.  I have NO pictures of me as an infant....or with my Mother holding me etc  or any pictures as a little baby.  ☹️

My Husband's album is full of baby pictures....  new born pictures....first  walking pictures...... as both my sisters albums  have as well who are a few years older than I have lots of baby pictures.

I never asked my parents what happened...( they are both gone  now)....where were my baby pictures?  I was third and last child of three girls.  Could that be it?   I was  that unimportant?  I always felt a bit left out and hurt by this.   My one sister when we were young use to tell me that I was adopted....it was just to make me cry.   I know I was not as I have my birth certificate.... but it just bothers me that my parents forgot to take a baby pictures of me.

Did any of you who was  a last born child  get shafted with the baby pictures?  Maybe it is just me?

[CrazyDaisy]

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I am the oldest of 5.  There are lots of pictures of me and my younger sister, we are close in age.  After that there seems to be fewer and fewer of the others.  There was always the important dates and group shots but not many of the "individual baby" pictures.  My mom said something once about it was expensive, there was not much money growing up.  That and how she was always to tired to take pictures.  Wouldn't that it personally, sometimes life just gets in the way.

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[threecees]

I am the youngest of five children (2 boys then 3 girls). I have lots of pictures from an early age. What I don't have is any pictures of my mother and me.

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Since my dad was always at work and she took care of all us kids, she took the pictures and I wish I had some with her before I was a teenager anyway.

[drizzellla]

Maybe it isn't that they didn't take pictures of you. It is that when your Mom started to put together your photo album she could not find the earlier pictures of you.

I thought I had all the envelopes of my son's baby pictures when I started to put his baby album together. Then of course, I would get pictures from other people or find a favorite picture I had taken out to show people. Or I would even find an envelope that included a special trip put away with other things.

So my son's album is not in order. AND sadly my son is an only child. There is probably a reason you don't have your first year but sadly you may never know what was going on that first year and why they aren't there. Hopefully the pictures will turn up.

[Kachina624]

For new parents, the first baby is a novelty and they do many things in excess including picture-taking.  This tends to diminish with each additional child.  I'm sure they're very busy after several children and just don't think about it so often.  @SeaMaiden. I'm sure your parents adored you but at the point you arrived they had priorities other than photography.

[Annabellethecat66]

People who have pictures of themselves when they were born and through the years are so lucky.

I have no pictures at all of me from the time I was born through the years.  Never had them.  Never saw them.  Never lived with my mother.

So, people I'm just saying don't ever take it for granted any pictures of you or your family through the years.

I have albums and albums of my daughters and so many pictures of my late husband from birth but none of me.  Not feeling sorry for myself....just the way it is.

[just bee]

My mother kept a large cardboard box in her closet and it was full of family photographs.  My sister, who was my mother’s caregiver, died unexpectedly shortly after her 50th birthday and my other sister and her husband, after sending my mother to me, cleaned out and sold two properties.

A lot of items were donated and a lot of items ended up in the dumpster.  My mother passed away in 2008 and my sister still had many items in storage.  I asked about the box in my mother’s closet.  She asked, “What box?”

The box that held all the photos of my mother, my father, my siblings, where we lived, our pets (including my beloved raccoon), other relatives… our entire family history.

I figure it ended up in landfill.  I have no photos of my father, my siblings when they were young, my mother when she was young, me when I was young… even the photos of my parents when they were very young.  Baby pictures?  All gone.

Better-half doesn’t see a problem.  What were you going to do with them anyway?

True, we have no kids.  They’d probably end up in landfill eventually anyway.

[Laura14]

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@Annabellethecat66 wrote:

People who have pictures of themselves when they were born and through the years are so lucky.

I have no pictures at all of me from the time I was born through the years.  Never had them.  Never saw them.  Never lived with my mother.

So, people I'm just saying don't ever take it for granted any pictures of you or your family through the years.

I have albums and albums of my daughters and so many pictures of my late husband from birth but none of me.  Not feeling sorry for myself....just the way it is.

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@Annabellethecat66  This is so true.  My grandmother ALWAYS had the camera in her hand and I couldn't stand it as a kid.  Always standing and taking a picture for her.  She is long gone now and I have 30 plus photo albums of our family on that side and a whole one dedicated to just me.  They are my treasures now.    

[SeaMaiden]

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@just bee wrote:

My mother kept a large cardboard box in her closet and it was full of family photographs.  My sister, who was my mother’s caregiver, died unexpectedly shortly after her 50th birthday and my other sister and her husband, after sending my mother to me, cleaned out and sold two properties.

A lot of items were donated and a lot of items ended up in the dumpster.  My mother passed away in 2008 and my sister still had many items in storage.  I asked about the box in my mother’s closet.  She asked, “What box?”

The box that held all the photos of my mother, my father, my siblings, where we lived, our pets (including my beloved raccoon), other relatives… our entire family history.

I figure it ended up in landfill.  I have no photos of my father, my siblings when they were young, my mother when she was young, me when I was young… even the photos of my parents when they were very young.  Baby pictures?  All gone.

Better-half doesn’t see a problem.  What were you going to do with them anyway?

True, we have no kids.  They’d probably end up in landfill eventually anyway.

@just bee  Yes. We have no children, so they would just end up in the trash anyway.  I guess I just would have liked to see something OUT OF CURIOSITY. It really is UNIMPORTANT.  🙂

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[just bee]

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@SeaMaiden wrote:

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@just bee  Yes. We have no children, so they would just end up in the trash anyway.  I guess I just would have liked to see something OUT OF CURIOSITY. It really is UNIMPORTANT.  🙂

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@SeaMaiden

It's funny, I hadn't seen those photos in decades, but I remember many of them so clearly.  I just "picture" them now and I'm amazed that I can.

I'll probably lose those images, too, in time.  But I'll try to hold on as long as I can.