Attended a “Sprinkle” Advice Needed!! - Page 6

Stevie Nix · ‎03-09-2010

I would send a check for the difference - What she was asking for less the amount of my gift card - along with a note explaining exactly what it was. The friendship is gone anyway - why not get in a little snark.

ScarletDove · ‎07-11-2010

@NicksmomESQ wrote:
A couple of weeks ago DH & I attended a Sprinkle for a friend’s daughter.She is about to give birth to her second girl.The event was held in a private dining room in a local restaurant.It was a lovely party.There was a lavish buffet,a Viennese table & an open bar.The party was hosted by the BFF & mother of the mom to be.
We sat at a table with other friends.We all gave generous gift cards as we were told “they have everything “.
A few days after the event.I got an email from my friend asking me to send her a check in the amount of $58.35 to cover the cost of our meals, drinks,& tip!!! About the same time my cell phone blew up with texts from my other friends that attended.
We are all angry as heck.We called our friend individually & her response was pathetic. She said”The party was very expensive.It was more than we could afford.You should be willing to help out.To make my daughter happy!!”. No mention was ever made in the invitations that we would be going Dutch!!
I had breakfast this morning with my friends who attended the Sprinkle. None of us has written any checks. We are all upset by this.Our friend, refuses to let it go.She keeps texting & calling us asking for the money.So far we have not taken her calls.We Let our machines answer.
DH is suggesting that we send her a check & tell her that this closes the chapter on our friendship!! We’re seriously considering it!!

@NicksmomESQ I just googled the meaning of "Sprinkle". Now that I know what it is, for me I would never attend anything of this nature, but that is me! The occasion does not matter, the manner in which your friend handled the occasion does matter! Although you and DH were kind enough to give a very nice $gift card, your DH is a very wise man and I would do exactly as he suggested!

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

@NicksmomESQ

Ok...I had to ask. This is odd.

Throwing this out for everyone opinion:

What would it be like if everyone got together & met with the friend

at a coffee shop to discuss? A safety-in-numbers type of confrontation,

so everyone has the same story & outcome. I would like to hear

her reasoning behind this.

NicksmomESQ · ‎08-19-2014

@sidsmom wrote:
@NicksmomESQ
Ok...I had to ask. This is odd.

Throwing this out for everyone opinion:

What would it be like if everyone got together & met with the friend
at a coffee shop to discuss? A safety-in-numbers type of confrontation,
so everyone has the same story & outcome. I would like to hear
her reasoning behind this.

@sidsmom I get what you’re saying but I’m really not interested in cornering her & having a group pile on.

My friends just sent her emails. One called her & had it out with her.When asked why she didn’t inform the guests of this in advance her response was nobody would have come!! She thought her friends would understand.

She said she was disappointed in us!! She brought up how last year she chipped in with a few of us to help one of our friends give her daughter a bridal shower. She was told that was different .We all offered to because our friend fell on financial hardship.She didn’t ask.We volunteered to help out of love & friendship.It was held at the friends house.We all supplied the food, drink, & favors.She obviously doesn’t get it & never will.

I’ve decided to email her.I really don’t want to talk to her after her conversation with my friend. I will not be sending her any of my money.

After I send the email I will completely ignore her texts, emails & calls. The Holidays are coming & I intend on enjoying every single minute!! I don’t need her drama!!

Thank you all again for your perspectives!!

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

I would't go by what the friend who spoke with her said she said. I doubt it's anything but a truthful unbiased account.

StraytoStay · ‎07-18-2016

@Stevie Nix wrote:
I would send a check for the difference - What she was asking for less the amount of my gift card - along with a note explaining exactly what it was. The friendship is gone anyway - why not get in a little snark.

Lol @Stevie Nix! That's too funny. She could also subtract gas/transportation costs getting there, make up at attendance fee for being there & tax on the gift, too. After all the hostess included the 35¢ down to the penny. It's so tacky, yes, see how she likes it. Ha ha

StraytoStay · ‎07-18-2016

@StraytoStay wrote:
@Stevie Nix wrote:
I would send a check for the difference - What she was asking for less the amount of my gift card - along with a note explaining exactly what it was. The friendship is gone anyway - why not get in a little snark.

Lol @Stevie Nix! That's too funny. She could also subtract gas/transportation costs getting there, make up at attendance fee for being there & tax on the gift, too. After all the hostess included the 35¢ down to the penny. It's so tacky, yes, see how she likes it. Ha ha

Better yet--make your attendance fee so outrageous that she owes you money now.

Q4u · ‎03-17-2010

Wow just WOW.... Every time I hear about a lower than low interaction, ANOTHER one comes up even lower that blows the rest if them out of the water.

Your kind husband suggested a very nice solution...IF you want to salvage the friendship. Even if you don't, it's very kind.

I personally wouldn't pay this woman anything. She's already admitted that no one would have come to the party had they been tipped off in advance. She has no concern regarding her friends, it's all about her and her daughter. This would be it for me, no payment, no friendship.... sometimes you just have to cut these people loose....

*~"Never eat more than you can lift......" Miss Piggy~*

ScarletDove · ‎07-11-2010

@sidsmom wrote:
@NicksmomESQ
Ok...I had to ask. This is odd.

Throwing this out for everyone opinion:

What would it be like if everyone got together & met with the friend
at a coffee shop to discuss? A safety-in-numbers type of confrontation,
so everyone has the same story & outcome. I would like to hear
her reasoning behind this.

@sidsmom Not necessary...who needs safety in numbers?

sidsmom · ‎11-25-2011

@ScarletDove wrote:
@sidsmom wrote:
@NicksmomESQ
Ok...I had to ask. This is odd.

Throwing this out for everyone opinion:

What would it be like if everyone got together & met with the friend
at a coffee shop to discuss? A safety-in-numbers type of confrontation,
so everyone has the same story & outcome. I would like to hear
her reasoning behind this.
@sidsmom Not necessary...who needs safety in numbers?