Among Friends

[LilMadi]

LOL!

[ROMARY]

They should have saved their money and hired a budget counselor instead.  Again, a nice, small get-together at home with cupcakes and coffee would have been a nice 'Sprinkle'.  (Easy on the budget.)

[Hayfield]

I wouldn't give her a dime!  She told you that nobody would've come if they would've known up front that they had to pay for their own meal?  Most likely not, but if you would've attended knowing you had to pay for your own meal, you might've not spent the same amount on the gift.  She was more worried about the gift than you, how horrible!!!  She could've hosted a nice "sprinkle" at her house for her daughter, why did she have to make such a big deal about it?  How long have you known this woman?  She's no friend!  I have been invited to many showers, bridal, baby and I have never, ever been asked to pitch in or pay for anything.  

[Financialgrl]

I wouldn't send a cent and wouldn't answer any future communications.  To say, nobody would have come had she notififed you all, I'd say, "true, and why I'm now not giving any money toward it now".   

Sometimes I agree with the "take the high road" approach but not on this!  This is no different than a strong arm attempt for money!  I don't reward tacky!

[mzlg]

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Nicksmom wrote:

 (beginning of this quote was omitted & I went straight to the last paragraph)  

   DH is suggesting that we send her a check & tell her that this closes the chapter on our friendship!! We’re seriously considering it!!

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@NicksmomESQ, if you do plan on discontinuing any relationship with this individual, I believe I would take your husband's advice and send her a check to keep her from saying (gossiping) you were one who didn't pay - Romans 13:8 Owe no one anything except to love ...

In the memo line I would write: Friendship paid in full.

[Sage04]

@IamMrsG, your husband reminds me of my dad. That's something he would have said. I didn't just lol,  I actually LAUGHED OUT LOUD and I can't stop.

[IamMrsG]

@Sage04  I thought his comment was clever, too, which is why I shared it.  He generally calls 'em as he sees 'em without wasting too many words. 

BTW, he's getting a big kick out of all the hearts y'all have given him.  I might have unwittingly created a monster.  

[libbyannE]

Shockingly rude. I am almost speechless. It's up to you whether you ante up or not, but I would steer clear of that so-called "friend" forever. Inviting you and then billing you is in such unbelievably bad taste. Walk away. 

p.s. I have never heard of a sprinkle! I am a generous giver, but I avoid phony parties created for the purpose of getting gifts and money, often from people the party's honoree barely knows, such as not-so-close acquaintances of the mother.

[Lindsays Grandma]

Oh my, I just finished reading all the posts, my hand hurts from giving everyone a heart and my eyes are burning from all the reading.  How about sending me a check after counting all the posts and what it adds up to?  Just kidding of course and I have never heard of a sprinkle, just learned something new.   My, my, the woman who gave the "sprinkle" surely needs to learn about etiquette because she is sure lacking in that department.  I agree with the majority, do not give her any money.  What she did was uncouth and insulting.

[viva923]

this takes the cake.

if the people who gave the party couldn’t afford the party why in the heck did they give it. 

It should have been mentioned on invite this was Dutch treat, not oh yes by the way a week or two later you owe us so much.

Very cheap, very bad on the givers part.