I am frugal about a few things. We bought a house that's nice, but we could have afforded far more home. Hubby and I didn't want to be house poor. We paid if off at about 45 years old, and I love not having a mortgage as there are plenty of monthly expenses without a mortgage. That being said, we had 2 incomes and no children so it almost would have been fiscally irresponsible to not pay it off.
I agree with much of what Dave Ramsey says--why have a mortgage if you don't have to have one? The stock market is so volatile that one is not guaranteed any return greater than not having a mortgage. Peace of mind is also a huge benefit! You may be getting a % back from the govt., but you are giving the govt. far more to get that % back. It makes no sense to me to unnecessarily carry a mortgage or debt.
When we go on vacations, we don't spend the night at $350 plus hotels. We usually choose some form of a Marriott and not a Four Seasons or a Ritz. If we wanted to do that, we could as we don't go on too many vacations.
Hubby bought a Ford Escape. He drove his Cavalier into the ground--had over 120 k miles on it.
I don't shop at super expensive boutiques. Yes, I buy from Anthropologie and LLLemon a lot, but I don't go to boutiques that charge $350 for a top. I also don't shop at Nordstrom in the designer dept. I go to the Free People area and look for sales. We have a Saks Fifth Avenue 15 minutes from my house, and I rarely buy from Saks. I won't pay $500 for a dress or over $200 for any top. My one sister routinely shops there and has beautiful suits costing far more than I'd feel comfortable spending money on.
I won't be cheap with food. But, that being said I'm frugal when it comes to paying for places like Whole Foods. I won't pay double for groceries, and I don't buy organic unless it's on sale. I eat a lot of frozen vegetables so I buy them at Meijer. I won't pay $2.50 for a 12 to 16 ounce bag of broccoli at Whole Foods or Earth Fare when I can get the same thing for half the price.
I don't go to Starbucks often though I like their tea. I'd rather get a tea at Panera for $2.93 (which is still super pricey), but I can get free refills.
DH is super frugal. He spends very little on himself. He only buys what he needs. I'm certainly not that way. I buy shoes and clothes which I don't need on a regular basis. I think the older I get, the less frugal I become. But, I'm still not super extravagant.
I have friends who are far more frugal than I am and friends that spend more than I do. For me, it's what I'm comfortable doing. I will never live beyond my means and want to retire early.
"friends don't let friends drink white zinfandel"