Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving? - Page 6

kivah · ‎03-11-2010

@Kachina624 wrote:
@Black Cat Back There are quite a few of us who are alone on holidays. I recently had a brush with covid, have no sense of taste so no point fixing myself something yummy. I'll probably have a frozen dinner or can of soup.

I used to go with friends to a good casino buffet but now the buffets are gone and so are the friends. I'm not ready to go out and meet new people, even if there was a place to do that.

There's some good marathon on PBS starting at noon. I'll watch that. For me, being alone at Christmas is rougher than Thanksgiving.

We can be grateful we didn't feel compelled to fly or drive somewhere. Did you see the traffic and airport messes?

I'm also alone -- with my little lhasa. Sorry about ur loss of taste after COVID. Hoping u heal from it and that life gets back to "normal." Life has become very difficult for most of us. Take Care

kivah · ‎03-11-2010

@Black Cat Back wrote:
I don't have any family any more and no one ever invites me to join them. It's a shame because I grew up in a house where my parents invited anyone they knew who was alone. My Mom couldn't stand it when she knew someone was all alone on Thanksgiving.

People nowadays aren't as eager to open up their home or invite that person who is alone without a spouse. I'm use to the "third wheel," syndrome.

However, for years after my family was gone, I'd serve at the Salvation Army dinners, but with Covid, that has changed where I live.

I will get along, but I don't do anything reminicent of the holiday. I plan to make my homemade pizza with a salad and watch football or some movies I checked out at the library.   I get emotional through the day watching neighbors with friends and family visiting them, but I will take a walk and just know the day will be over soon.

If anyone else is alone, I know how you feel.   But just know, you aren't alone.   Others understand. I'll check in on this thread tomorrow, just to say hi and be there if someone needs company.

Blessings to all.   If you are blessed to have family and caring friends you can count on, truly be thankful, for they are a gift.

I'm in the same situation as you!!!!! I'm older - never married - no family. My mother used to make the best Thanksgiving meals --- after she passed - I went to a friend's home for Thanksgiving. Then - I went to another friend's Thanksgiving Meals for many years - and she passed. Most people have families and many friends - and, I'm sure, there are also many single people (or people without families) who also feel left out. Enjoy your home-made pizza, salad and whatever movies u choose to watch.

Catsrule · ‎03-10-2010

Blessings to you! I too am alone, and enjoying the nice day.

I'm in Phoenix also so I relate to enough heat already.

Had several invites from friends, but I always feel intrusive on a family holiday, so graciously declined. Salmon and sweet potato on my menu, listening to music and enjoying life. Last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer the day before Thanksgiving, so this year is much better with all the treatments in my rear view mirror.

Hugs!

Skyegirl21 · ‎03-20-2010

Hi @Black Cat Back @and all QBoard friends! We just finished the feast- It was excellent but Omg I cooked for 4 hrs today plus the 2 yesterday. Did I mention this is all over-rated, in my opinion?? If I had MY choice, I would buy it all or go out !! But it's never my choice.
Someone remind me next year please not to make so many dishes!
So the day is almost done and I hope everyone is content and having a good day! 💝🌹✊🏻

KailaS · ‎03-09-2010

I usually uspend holidays alone, except for my cat. However, I do have a very Ill sister and a 95 year old mother ( who has a cold) who live nearby. I stopped in to see my sister today, and I dropped off items at my mother's. However, there is no holiday fun or excitement. I did do a bit of decorating outside after weeding my garden today And tonight I set the timers on my Christmas decorations, so my place inside looks somewhat festive. Truthfully, the peace and quiet can be comforting.

Black Cat Back · ‎03-21-2010

@kivah wrote:
@Black Cat Back wrote:
I don't have any family any more and no one ever invites me to join them. It's a shame because I grew up in a house where my parents invited anyone they knew who was alone. My Mom couldn't stand it when she knew someone was all alone on Thanksgiving.

People nowadays aren't as eager to open up their home or invite that person who is alone without a spouse. I'm use to the "third wheel," syndrome.

However, for years after my family was gone, I'd serve at the Salvation Army dinners, but with Covid, that has changed where I live.

I will get along, but I don't do anything reminicent of the holiday. I plan to make my homemade pizza with a salad and watch football or some movies I checked out at the library.   I get emotional through the day watching neighbors with friends and family visiting them, but I will take a walk and just know the day will be over soon.

If anyone else is alone, I know how you feel.   But just know, you aren't alone.   Others understand. I'll check in on this thread tomorrow, just to say hi and be there if someone needs company.

Blessings to all.   If you are blessed to have family and caring friends you can count on, truly be thankful, for they are a gift.
I'm in the same situation as you!!!!! I'm older - never married - no family. My mother used to make the best Thanksgiving meals --- after she passed - I went to a friend's home for Thanksgiving. Then - I went to another friend's Thanksgiving Meals for many years - and she passed. Most people have families and many friends - and, I'm sure, there are also many single people (or people without families) who also feel left out. Enjoy your home-made pizza, salad and whatever movies u choose to watch.

@kivah

Hi Kivah.... I feel like I'm in good company. We feel the same for sure. I have a co-worker who texted me and said she and her mom were baking all morning and cooking and she's tired. Then knowing I'm all alone she asks, "What are you making for your single person Thanksgiving dinner?" Wow... a bit insensitive, but I refrained from saying something sassy like "A can of Campbells soup." Instead I just didn't answer the question and wished her and her parents a happy day and meal. Some folks just don't think. I could never ask someone I know is alone that question. Single person Thanksgiving dinner. Ouch. LOL!

Black Cat Back · ‎03-21-2010

@Catsrule wrote:
Blessings to you! I too am alone, and enjoying the nice day.

I'm in Phoenix also so I relate to enough heat already.

Had several invites from friends, but I always feel intrusive on a family holiday, so graciously declined. Salmon and sweet potato on my menu, listening to music and enjoying life. Last year I was diagnosed with breast cancer the day before Thanksgiving, so this year is much better with all the treatments in my rear view mirror.

Hugs!

@Catsrule

Hello fellow Arizonan. Yes, 80 in November is enough already. I know others out east would laugh at us... but we want some cool days too. I haven't worn a jacket yet. I wore ankle boots with a dress last week but no leggings. I'm outside lifting weights and listening to Judy Garland live at Carnegie Hall.

I'll come in soon and start chopping my veggies for the pizza I'm making and make a salad. If the late game gets boring, I'll throw on a movie.

Salmon & sweet potatoes sound wonderful. I make them together too.

Wishing everyone well. Thank you for responding. I don't feel as alone!!

amyb · ‎04-05-2010

@Roscoe the Rascal wrote:
I'm sorry you are alone today but you have done a good thing by volunteering to help others. Good for you. Times sure have changed and who would have known how things would be. But you will be able to do that again I am sure.

Sometimes the holidays are not all what they are cracked up to be either. Don't tell anyone, but I kind of enjoyed the break from all those things last year. I needed to real it in. I just didn't enjoy the reasons or how it effected everyone. I learned what really mattered once again.

I know just how you feel...Except for all the sorrow Covid brought to me and friends of mine who lost loved ones...that said...I enjoyed the simplified break as well. I'm really not in favor of rushing back to the hustle bustle of it all anymore.

Last year BF and I had a quiet Christmas Eve together and Christmas day exchanging gifts, which we hadn't done for quite a few years...it was all about grandkids, running around to everyone's house. So much running, so frantic at times.

It was the first Christmas without mom, and we always did Christmas Eve with her...so we did it in a similar way, remembering her, visited the cemetery first, brought the wreaths there...may sound morbid it wasn't, we then came home and ordered from where she liked to order from when we used to do it at her home etc. Anyway...it was just the two of us, and mom in spirit...simplified, felt like right for last year.

He just said to me today, kids are all going in their own directions this year we should go to one of the New England Inns we love and spend it there...I'm thrilled.

chiclets · ‎07-01-2012

@Black Cat Back

I want to thank you for your beautiful post concerning being alone.

Your thoughts and words were so warm and sincere. Your heartfelt feelings and wishes reached into the hearts of others. All who read your post will thankful and grateful for such an individual as yourself for sharing this day with us; we will not be alone nor feel alone.

Blessings to you.

spent2much · ‎03-10-2010

@Black Cat Back It sounds like you had an OK day. How was the pizza? What veggies do you put on it? And do you use red sauce... and cheese, also?

It's 6:45 pm here in CT. It's good that we only have one official Thanksgiving day cuz I'm TIRED. Turkey, gravy, stuffing, mashed potatoes, green beans... takes a bit of work and a LOT of clean up! The dishwasher's going and when this load is done, I think they'll be another load. Bed will feel SO good tonight.

I'm glad you posted, TennisBuf, and shared your thoughts/feelings with us. It gave us a chance to encourage you. Isn't that one of the reasons we're all here?

**HUGS**

Edited to add: The dishwasher? I went back in the kitchen to see if it had finished. LOL I hadn't even started it. I had put the tablet in, ran the hot water in the faucet and must have gotten sidetracked. So I just started it now. From some of the posts I've read here, I think some of you can relate.

ETERNITY: your choice... smoking or non smoking!