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Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

I don't have any family any more and no one ever invites me to join them. It's a shame because I grew up in a house where my parents invited anyone they knew who was alone.  My Mom couldn't stand it when she knew someone was all alone on Thanksgiving.

 

People nowadays aren't as eager to open up their home or invite that person who is alone without a spouse.  I'm use to the "third wheel," syndrome.

 

However, for years after my family was gone, I'd serve at the Salvation Army dinners, but with Covid, that has changed where I live. 

 

I will get along, but I don't do anything reminicent of the holiday.  I plan to make my homemade pizza with a salad and watch football or some movies I checked out at the library.   I get emotional through the day watching neighbors with friends and family visiting them, but I will take a walk and just know the day will be over soon.

 

If anyone else is alone, I know how you feel.   But just know, you aren't alone.   Others understand.  I'll check in on this thread tomorrow, just to say hi and be there if someone needs company.

 

Blessings to all.   If you are blessed to have family and caring friends you can count on, truly be thankful, for they are a gift.

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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

Hi @TennisBuf ! You have a good attitude so that's good. I feel like I live the other side of the coin because my spouse is constantly here with me and I would love some alone time, lol!   I guess the grass is always greener in someone else's yard! Please know that I am with you in spirit- 💝 Skye. 

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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

@TennisBuf,

If you lived near us, I would invite you over!

And no you are not alone!💞

"If you walk the footsteps of a stranger, you'll learn things you never knew. Can you sing with all the voices of the mountains? can you paint with all the colors of the wind?"
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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

@TennisBuf   I will be alone and will drop in periodically to say hi. It can also be tough when you do have family but not possible to see them.  Football on the agenda after the Macy's parade  which I ave done ever since i was a kid.

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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

Sometimes having family and lots of friends at Thanksgiving is not what it seems. Sometimes it it's not that great. It can be very stressful. Anyway Happy Thanksgiving 🍁🦃.

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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

I've not had Thanksgiving off and on over the last 30 years. It was hard when my divorced  mom died in my 20s and I come from a family of 8 kids, very dysfunctional  at times. No need to gather since mom was gone. Lots of issues between most of us.

 

One thing I remembered the first 10 years I decided to estrange myself due to an incident,, to help keep perspective and not freak out too badly was to remember it is just  a Thursday in every other country on the planet that day and that I had a handful of good Thanksgivings which is more than some people ever had.

 

I join friends and particular family some years. I have decided this year  to lie to all and say I'm at this person's or that person's house this year as I want to be alone. Sounds selfish or ungrateful I know. Life is pretty stressful for me these days and I just want low-key and not having to pretend I'm happy while listening to kids screaming or having to think of things to talk about. It's what I want and I'm doing it.

 

My thoughts are with those who do yearn for it, may feel sad and lonely. I get it. I do. ::: hugs:::

 

 

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@TennisBuf    There are quite a few of us who are alone on holidays.  I recently had a brush with covid, have no sense of taste so no point fixing myself something yummy.  I'll probably have a frozen dinner or can of soup. 

 

I used to go with friends to a good casino buffet but now the buffets are gone and so are the friends.  I'm not ready to go out and meet new people, even if there was a place to do that. 

 

There's some good marathon on PBS starting at noon.  I'll watch that.  For me, being alone at Christmas is rougher than Thanksgiving.

 

We can be grateful we didn't feel compelled to fly or drive somewhere.  Did you see the traffic and airport messes? 

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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

Yes I am and I hate it Smiley Sad  Wish there was a way to get together on holidays with others who for whatever reason will be alone and have a lovely dinner out.    Maybe I should invent an app for that!

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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?


@Robertak wrote:

Yes I am and I hate it Smiley Sad  Wish there was a way to get together on holidays with others who for whatever reason will be alone and have a lovely dinner out.    Maybe I should invent an app for that!

 

Too late for this  Thanksgiving ( maybe Christmas)  but there is the Next Door app or Meet Up on the internet


 

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Re: Anyone Else Alone on Thanksgiving?

@TennisBuf Idon't recall seeing any postings from you prior but.......CHEER UP....many of us are alone - loved ones have passed - moved away - whatever.  I read a spiritual blessings every new day and so with that I extend my best wishes to you for tomorrow....and Christmas day.

 

I refuse to let one date on the calendar get me down.  I like the posting saying she would love to have a little time alone.......Silence and having time to enjoy ones self - can be a  blessing.

Happy Turkey Day - enjoy pizza and football.  I'll probably have a shrimp dish!