Among Friends

[Lady Elaine]

Thank you @dooBdoo. It also colors our perceptions of situations. I can imagine if you're feeling beat down at home other things will hurt more because you're raw already. 

[cecesnana]

you're among friends!

[3cupcakes]

@Karnerblue  Just checking in to see how are are.  Ok?  

Also, I did not know your beloved dog is  named buddy & I apologize if I offended at all w/this when I last wrote I hoped you were hanging in there.  My friends & I all use it as a term of friendship w/each other & I extended it to you as I wanted you to know you were absolutely among friends.  🙂

[Karnerblue]

@3cupcakes, first thank you for caring enough to drop a line.  I am doing the best I can ... that's all we can do, right? 

Secondly, there is absolutely no need to apologize.  Yes, my dog's name is Buddy and yes, it's a term of friendship so I am honored to be considered such.  I gave Buddy that name because we struggled for days and days on what name to give him.  I finally looked at him and said "he's just such a Buddy friend."  So from there on out, we called him by Buddy.  He is and always will be my Bud ... and my protector.

[Hooty]

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@Deb1010yetagain wrote:

@Karnerblue you are a sensitive soul and I feel a kinship with you.  Among Friends is typically the gentler forum, but some people are bored and have kicked it up in Community Chat, so they come over here.   Best just to ignore their responses and not try to justify anything to them or even get snarky back to them.  That's my 2 cents.

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@Deb1010yetagain, you know it is interesting for you to say @Karnerblue is a sensitive soul, many people think that is a fault and a bad thing, but I do not!  I have been told that way too many times, IMO, being sensitive is having strong feelings and emotions!

@Karnerblue, sending you big (((HUGS)))

[Deb1010yetagain]

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@Hooty wrote:

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@Deb1010yetagain wrote:

@Karnerblue you are a sensitive soul and I feel a kinship with you.  Among Friends is typically the gentler forum, but some people are bored and have kicked it up in Community Chat, so they come over here.   Best just to ignore their responses and not try to justify anything to them or even get snarky back to them.  That's my 2 cents.

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@Deb1010yetagain, you know it is interesting for you to say @Karnerblue is a sensitive soul, many people think that is a fault and a bad thing, but I do not!  I have been told that way too many times, IMO, being sensitive is having strong feelings and emotions!

@Karnerblue, sending you big (((HUGS)))

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@Hooty I used to think being sensitive was a bad quality because it left you open to be hurt more easily.  As I've grown older and wiser I think it's a good quality because it means you treat people with love and respect.

[Karnerblue]

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@Hooty wrote:

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@Deb1010yetagain wrote:

@Karnerblue you are a sensitive soul and I feel a kinship with you.  Among Friends is typically the gentler forum, but some people are bored and have kicked it up in Community Chat, so they come over here.   Best just to ignore their responses and not try to justify anything to them or even get snarky back to them.  That's my 2 cents.

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@Deb1010yetagain, you know it is interesting for you to say @Karnerblue is a sensitive soul, many people think that is a fault and a bad thing, but I do not!  I have been told that way too many times, IMO, being sensitive is having strong feelings and emotions!

@Karnerblue, sending you big (((HUGS)))

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I get that too, that I am just too sensitive or I take things too personally.  They make you feel like it's a bad thing.  That just means it's not something they care about or it's not personal to them.  Well it's personal to me and it's my feelings that were hurt.

[Karnerblue]

I'm tearing up as I share this memory.  A few years back when my Dad started having more and more issues with his memory, my sisters kept saying he didn't understand what we were saying and they talked through him and not to him.  They didn't look in his eyes anymore.  It was father's day and they breezed in, dropped off their gift, handed him his card and carried on their conversations with one another.  Saying how it didn't matter about the cards because he didn't understand anymore.  Well it broke my heart.  So when I left that day I looked straight into his eyes and put my two hands to his face and said "I love you Dad."  He looked at me and took my hand, kissed the tip of my one finger and said "that's the most important thing."  I broke down and sobbed. 

So they can't tell me he does not feel, and when they tell other people he's just a shell of a person I know different.

[Deb1010yetagain]

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@Karnerblue wrote:

I'm tearing up as I share this memory.  A few years back when my Dad started having more and more issues with his memory, my sisters kept saying he didn't understand what we were saying and they talked through him and not to him.  They didn't look in his eyes anymore.  It was father's day and they breezed in, dropped off their gift, handed him his card and carried on their conversations with one another.  Saying how it didn't matter about the cards because he didn't understand anymore.  Well it broke my heart.  So when I left that day I looked straight into his eyes and put my two hands to his face and said "I love you Dad."  He looked at me and took my hand, kissed the tip of my one finger and said "that's the most important thing."  I broke down and sobbed. 

So they can't tell me he does not feel, and when they tell other people he's just a shell of a person I know different.

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@Karnerblue  that is the most beautiful memory.  Thanks for sharing.  You are a very special loving person -- you and your dad are lucky to have each other.

[Karnerblue]

@Deb1010yetagain, yes we are

He's the reason I am like I am.