Am I too sensitive? - Page 5

dulwich · ‎01-18-2012

Six of us get together each month for "ladies" dinner - used to be at our homes but it got too complicated so we now plan and meet every month at a local restaurant.

Saves a lot of work and we all can eat, drink what we like - met last night and had a ball. We each take turns picking restaurant - it works well

libbyannE · ‎10-27-2010

Guests should inform hostess if any dietary restrictions when they accept an invitation. Telling you one day before the event is rude.

Carmie · ‎10-25-2010

You are not too sensitive. Some of your friends are rude and need a course on common manners.

i would have just served what I plannned on serving. They could either eat it or pass, their decision. I would make no special accommodations for them for last minute notifications.

sweetee2 · ‎06-21-2015

You said that this is a monthly dinner. Was this the first time these ladies had a special diet or do they do it at every dinner. If you all had been doing this for a while I thought that all would know about it. If this is the purpose of your association maybe they should stop coming if it's that big of a deal.

chrystaltree · ‎05-10-2010

@libbyannE wrote:
Guests should inform hostess if any dietary restrictions when they accept an invitation. Telling you one day before the event is rude.

They didn't ask or expect her to cook something special for them. So, there were no dietary restrictions at all. She didn't have to change her menu at all. They just planned to bring their own food with them. Yes, they should have told her before she shopped and cooked but since there were other guests, and supposedly they are good friends, they obviously didn't think it would be a big deal. I've been to restaurants where I have asked them to microwave and plate my meal for me because I am on a medically supervised diet and I have yet to have a restaurant decline. Of course, I tip well for the service even though I only order a pot of tea. I only do that at nice restaurants and I don't like doing it but sometimes, that is preferable to declining an invitation to eat out.

Libbylady · ‎03-09-2010

My impression from the OP was that the women on special diets were NOT asking her to provide alternate foods for their diet requirements. They were saying "I'm coming to the party, but I'm bringing my special diet food as I can't eat what you are serving".

I'm often a hostess and I'm sure the OP felt her preparations were somewhat wasted. If only one guest had called, I suspect she would have not felt as badly.

Perhaps the guests waited until the last minute so that they wouldn't add to the OP's work load by making her attempt to meet their requirements. I'm sure it felt rude to OP, but perhaps they actually thought they were being helpful by not adding to her cooking/shopping load.

If the guests wanted OP to accommodate their needs, then shame on them. I just have a hunch they wern't asking that.

occasionalrain · ‎03-10-2010

I don't think it's a medical issue; I think these women have chosen to go on Nutrasystem or the like.

viva923 · ‎03-12-2010

I have diet restrictions. I bring my own food to events that I am invited too. some people have made fun of this, I just look at them and smile.

a 1 day notice is not good.. the people on special diets/ drinks should have notified you immediately about thier restrictions to food or drink.

Sage04 · ‎07-10-2011

Something is definately wrong here. OP, have you ever hosted before? Was this diet only for the month of January? Do you think that they were on "special diets" because you were the one hosting? I don't understand it. Of course you were not too sensitive.

feline groovy · ‎07-29-2014

@ncascade wrote:
A little and your grammar is slightly off. Because I am a "fussy" eater I usually will bring my own food. No one seems to mind. If they do-too bad.

NOT necessary.