Re: Am I cold hearted?

Shelbelle · ‎03-09-2010

You can gift them to her friends, neighbors, relatives, etc in her memory, other wise donate to charity in her name.

goldensrbest · ‎03-10-2010

@threecees wrote:
No. You can't keep everything and after a while it just becomes clutter.

That is what i also found out,keep the ones that you really like,and take the others to a thrift shop,let those that buy enjoy them,

When you lose some one you L~O~V~E, that Memory of them, becomes a TREASURE.

JeanLouiseFinch · ‎10-03-2011

You are under zero obligation to keep something that isn't your taste. Keeping them or parting with any (or even all) pieces is not the measuring stick to prove the amount of love you had/have for your mom. Keep what you like and sell, gift, or donate the rest.

Tinkrbl44 · ‎08-23-2010

@catmama wrote:
My mother passed away several years ago but when she was alive she was really into ceramics, took several classes and made many many items

I have quite a few of her pieces and some of them I love and treasure BUT there are some that are just not my style or I don't like them.

Am I heartless if I just get rid of them?

@catmama

Cold-hearted? No.

Just donate the pieces that don't speak to you ... and perhaps they will find a happy home, and other people will be happy with their new "finds".

ROMARY · ‎04-28-2010

Your mom's nice neighbors / friends might be delighted to receive a heartfelt momento of their departed neighbor/friend.

'More or less', 'Right or wrong', 'In general', and 'Just thinking out loud ' (as usual).

drizzellla · ‎03-14-2010

@catmama You are keeping some that you love and treasure. So every time you look or use those items it will bring you pleasure.

And that is what you want, to have good memories of your Mom. If the pieces are items that don't appeal to you, doesn't seem like you should keep them.

Sometimes you just have to think about your available space. You can't take everything that your Mom acquired, so take what has a fond memory for you.

Puzzle Piece · ‎06-29-2010

No. There are others who would probably appreciate the items you don't care for and want to have gone.

Best to you.

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Mom2Dogs · ‎03-09-2010

I don't think so, keep what you like and donate/sell the rest. My my could knit and crochet as well as sew. She did a beautiful job but he choices of color was nothing that I really liked.

Coastalcarolina · ‎04-02-2015

No you aren't cold hearted. Most daughters go through this when they pass. I stood my ground when my sisters kept wanting me to take furniture and stuff. I had my home furnished, and to take on more stuff would have been clutter.

I carefully selected a few things that gave me a sense of memories, and didn't look back. They were her things. She enjoyed them in this life. She wouldn't want you to be burdened. Best of luck to you.

deepwaterdotter · ‎03-09-2010

My ex-sister-in-law created and gifted me with some beautiful ceramic items before she passed. I have kept the most precious and disposed of the rest.