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@Boehm Collector wrote:

I have been going to my hairdresser for approximately 45 years.   I have followed her wherever she went.   My husband has been going to her for approximately 19 years.   We have always given her  generous tips and a Christmas gift every year.   When she needed help with something, my husband dropped everything to assist in any way he could.    A few  weeks ago we were having problems installing a doorbell camera.   I know that her sons installed the same camera for her along with a WiFi Booster.   I asked if she could have her sons help us out with the installation and let us know what type of WiFi Booster we should purchase.  She said she would ask her sons.   I have emailed her a couple times since,  but have not received any type of response or assistance.  It has been over two weeks since I last reached out to her.  I am a bit upset because I think we have always been good to her.   Would I be being petty if I started going to a different hairdresser over this?  BTW,  I am a real estate attorney, but when her sons purchased  homes they went to another attorney.  


 

@Boehm Collector 

 

I only read the first page of replies, but I am surprised by your comments.  YES, you are being petty.  Very petty.

 

You don't indicate that the sons are licensed installers of these doorbell cameras, so I doubt they have much knowledge.  It was probably a trial and error thing until they finally got it to work.

 

You imply that you feel you are entitled to additional services beyond hair cutting.  If there's a reciprocal understanding between you and this hairdresser, fine.  However, trying to snag her sons into doing free work for you (which they may not have training in) is way out of line.

 

What also surprises me is that you're considering going to another hairdresser over something so ... petty.  WOW.

 

You're an attorney .... hire a professional.  You can afford it.

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@Boehm Collector   Based on your latest post, I would find another hairdresser.  You seem to expect her to be more of a "friend" than she is.  She got "snipppy" because you wanted her to blow dry your hair???!!   Best to move on.

 

 

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Obviously the point here is you thought that you were freinds. In reality you are not a friend in her eyes, you are a customer.  Now that it's become awkward it's time to move on.  Perhaps a fresh new look is in your future, it might be a good thing!  Hire a handyman for the work.

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Re: Am I being Petty......

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If you are unhappy with how your hair stylist is treating you as a customer and friend it is your prerogative to go to another stylist. It does not matter if anyone thinks the reason is petty, your hair your money.

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@Tinkrbl44 wrote:

@Boehm Collector wrote:

I have been going to my hairdresser for approximately 45 years.   I have followed her wherever she went.   My husband has been going to her for approximately 19 years.   We have always given her  generous tips and a Christmas gift every year.   When she needed help with something, my husband dropped everything to assist in any way he could.    A few  weeks ago we were having problems installing a doorbell camera.   I know that her sons installed the same camera for her along with a WiFi Booster.   I asked if she could have her sons help us out with the installation and let us know what type of WiFi Booster we should purchase.  She said she would ask her sons.   I have emailed her a couple times since,  but have not received any type of response or assistance.  It has been over two weeks since I last reached out to her.  I am a bit upset because I think we have always been good to her.   Would I be being petty if I started going to a different hairdresser over this?  BTW,  I am a real estate attorney, but when her sons purchased  homes they went to another attorney.  


 

@Boehm Collector 

 

I only read the first page of replies, but I am surprised by your comments.  YES, you are being petty.  Very petty.

 

You don't indicate that the sons are licensed installers of these doorbell cameras, so I doubt they have much knowledge.  It was probably a trial and error thing until they finally got it to work.

 

You imply that you feel you are entitled to additional services beyond hair cutting.  If there's a reciprocal understanding between you and this hairdresser, fine.  However, trying to snag her sons into doing free work for you (which they may not have training in) is way out of line.

 

What also surprises me is that you're considering going to another hairdresser over something so ... petty.  WOW.

 

You're an attorney .... hire a professional.  You can afford it.


@Tinkrbl44,

 

What about this?

 

 When she needed help with something, my husband dropped everything to assist in any way he could

 

@Boehm Collector  If I liked the way she did my hair I would probably stay but in the future you and your husband could stop dropping everything to assist her.

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@Kachina624 wrote:

@Boehm Collector.  Have you tried texting her?  Many people no longer check or use email, or you could take the direct approach and just call her.  


@Kachina624  I was wondering the same thing. Email? Seems so official. @Boehm Collector has known her for years. I would have text her and once I told her what the problem was I would have said tell him to let us know the cost that way she would know that they were willing to pay.

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Ultimately, it's up to her sons to say yes or no--and maybe she is not comfortable telling you what they said---you don't say if you are friends really---sounds like you have just a working relationship with her. Its not that hard to find a pro about installing a doorbell camera--- as to the sons going to someone else for a house---why not---??? She cuts your hair, not them.

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@Boehm Collector wrote:

@bikerbabe wrote:
I think your error is in assuming her adult sons will automatically help or use you for business transactions.

All she had to do was tell me that they were not available or willing to help.  I would have respected that.  But she has totally ignored me.  BTW, I offered to opay for their time.  


@Boehm Collector  maybe she has not seen your emails. I'm famous for not checking emails and most people I know text.

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Re: Am I being Petty......

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Why is everyone assuming that the hairdresser saw the emails? After the first email, I would have sent a text. With some phones you can tell when someone reads your text.

 

@Boehm Collector  if i like the way she does my hair, I would stay. Bet your husband won't want to leave. How does he feel about this?

 

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@spumoni99 wrote:

@Boehm Collector wrote:

To all of you who made snarky remarks and all of you who think I am such a horrible person.   Approximately 15 -20 years ago I handled my hairdresser divorce.  It was a lengthy process and obviously business related.    But because at that point I had known her for 25-30 I gave her a really nice courtesy discount on my fee.   I didn't do it with any expectations of getting anything in return.   I did it because I wanted to be nice.  In fact, over the course of my legal career, if I knew clients had financial difficulties, depending on the work that needed to be done, I have either given discounts or not charged at all.   

 

When I go to my hairdresser she always has me blow dry my own hair so she can deal with other customers or clean up.   One time, I had to go to a party after my appointment so I asked her to blow dry my hair for me.   She got kind of snippy with me and said that if she had to blow dry my hair she would have to charge me for it.   I was stunned.   It had NEVER even entered my mind that i didn't have to pay for her service.  My response was:  "Of course I have to pay you."  And left it at that.   

 

So given our history, yes, I am hurt that she didn't even let me know, for whatever reason, her sons could not help me.  I would have respected that.  But I think that totally ignoring me was rude and unkind.   I never would have done that to her.  


Why does she have you blow drying your own hair?  If you requested that to save money I could understand her remark.

 

@spumoni99  some customers do that because they see this as helping the hairdresser out rather than having customers waiting or if the hairdresser is running late. I tried this a few weeks ago with my hairdresser because a customer was getting all upset because she had to wait. She didn't have an appointment, by the way. I told my hairdresser I will wait, all she had to do was curl my hair. She said no, and continued doing my hair.