Among Friends

[Boehm Collector]

I have been going to my hairdresser for approximately 45 years.   I have followed her wherever she went.   My husband has been going to her for approximately 19 years.   We have always given her  generous tips and a Christmas gift every year.   When she needed help with something, my husband dropped everything to assist in any way he could.    A few  weeks ago we were having problems installing a doorbell camera.   I know that her sons installed the same camera for her along with a WiFi Booster.   I asked if she could have her sons help us out with the installation and let us know what type of WiFi Booster we should purchase.  She said she would ask her sons.   I have emailed her a couple times since,  but have not received any type of response or assistance.  It has been over two weeks since I last reached out to her.  I am a bit upset because I think we have always been good to her.   Would I be being petty if I started going to a different hairdresser over this?  BTW,  I am a real estate attorney, but when her sons purchased  homes they went to another attorney.  

[Zhills]

You are an Attorney and you don't know that she is not responsible for what her son does or doesn't do?  DUH

[D Kay]

Did you offer to pay them for their help? Maybe they think you wanted it done for free.

[bikerbabe]

I think your error is in assuming her adult sons will automatically help or use you for business transactions.

[piperbay]

I would still continue to go to her as your hairdresser. Maybe she forget or maybe she got busy or maybe she didn't have a chance to ask her sons about it.

I would chalk it up as a disappointment but I would still continue to be friends with her.

[Imaoldhippie]

@Boehm Collector ..............How old are the son's?  If they are adults then most likely the choice to help or not was their's and she may feel badly that for whatever reason they chose not to help.

Me personally I would not go to a different stylist and I would google how to install your doorbell camera or would find someone else to help and never mention it again.

[Love my grandkids]

@Boehm Collector Her sons have no connection to you. Why shouldn't they use someone else? Maybe they said "no" and she's embarrassed. Maybe she didn't ask. To answer your question, "yes." But if you think it's worth it to switch, go ahead.

[kaydee50]

@Boehm Collector   If you're happy with how she does your hair and your husband's why be upset?  She may have passed on your request to her son and it would be up to him to respond.  I'm not sure why you would expect him to.  He may be busy; may think you want this service for free.  And you would only be hurting yourself by going to a different, perhaps less satisfactory, hairdresser.  Let it go!  No big deal, IMO

[PA Mom-mom]

@Boehm Collector  I've been going to my hairdresser for 40 years. I would never ask any of her children to help me out with something. We have learned to have a professional or one of our children help us out with our house. We don't even have our neighbors do things. Too many issues. Your hairdresser isn't responsible for her son's decisions.

ETA: We had to have a professional electrician install ours because of the way our original doorbell was wired. That may be your issue as well.

[4kitties]

Unless her sons are professionals and licensed and insured, they may not want to be helping others do installations. They installed for their mother because she is family.  

I would never expect my hair stylist to hire my husband to do work for her.