Among Friends

[Bird mama]

@forrestwolf

Forrest, I saw a post on one of the threads around here in the summer and the original poster was asking if the person reading was a 'gardener' or a 'flower'.  Like you, I spent my life being a 'gardener', tending to those I love, nurturing them.  Even my husband, lol.  I was never the 'flower' in the garden, the one being tended to.

It takes effort to be your own personal gardener and recognize that it's okay to focus on you.  I know, I am finally learning how to do it at 54.  I think I might be good at it one day, he he he.

[Bird mama]

@forrestwolf

I posted this in the daily religious thread today.  I'm not pushing religion, the devil or God.  I think this sentiment works from a self affirmation perspective.  Whatever "it" is that makes any us doubt ourself, this could apply.

[forrestwolf]

Some days I wonder why I get out of bed...Then I remember, you hate bed, and it just makes you stiff and hurt....Then you think...why bother..and then you remember...Why maybe I can make a difference....My ear drives me crazy day, after day, after day, and I can not make it to Germany yet, and then I remember, I could be deaf again, like I was as a child...I think, why should I try to call my dad, as I will get no where with him....Then, mom says from her ashes, that I should not stop trying, as she did...I wonder every day if it is worth even going to work....Then I remember I love my house and land, and Jeeps, and food, and helping others and animals....When I am so frustrated and give up on everyone, I then remember what friends I have made here, and the positives that have been thrown my way....By so many who do not even really KNOW ME AS IN PERSON, but as the person, that I so hope that I make a difference....You people are a calm, in a sea of storms....Yes, do I get frustrated here???? I do....But at the end of the day....You are still here......

[Bird mama]

@forrestwolf

I don't want to be the poop of the party, but I have to tell you something. You were born a woman and it's not in your DNA to give up.  Women just DO, plain and simple.  I've come to realize that Eve was not plopped in the 'garden' to keep Adam company.  Someone looked around at what was created and said, yea, I need another person, someone like me, but not like me.  One who will make sure that all I've created will not to go pot.

We don't have a choice Sweetie.

[Bird mama]

@forrestwolf

Begging your pardon and not to speak for your mother - I think she is telling you not to give up on yourself.  I'm telling you that I know it's hard to put oneself first.  At first it don't seem natural.  With practice, it gets easier, lol.

[SouthernBee]

@forrestwolf: We as women get frustrated but we have the determination to keep going or just to stubborn to stop. Great to see your post. Please stay positive !!! I truly appreciate all your input and delicious recipes. Please take strength from my cyber hugs. You are in my thoughts and prayers. SouthernBee 

[forrestwolf]

@Bird mama

My mom taught me to be INDEPENDENT!!!!! She taught me to not  depend on anyone else, but to make yourself shine and be a force to be reconed with....She was quiet, and never showed her stress under perssure...She delivered 1000's of babies in her career, and she had to be the calm in the storm of critical life and death childbirth....Her chewing gum "popped" in the time of life and death, but she kept her calm...BECAUSE of life and death....I was born to my mom in the early 1960's,  3 months early, and being induced for a dead baby....WELLLLLLLL!!!!! I came out kicking and screaming, and have not shut up yet!!!!!!!!! My mom was 5'8 1/2, and wore a size 10 1/2 shoe....I am 5'2, at best, and wear a size 6, because most "women" shoes do not come smaller.....I refuse to sit down and shut up.....my downfall in work,  is because I stand up for myself....I followed her lead to become educated, and arm myself against the world, and I make my presence known, so unlike her, who was the calm in the storm....BUT I learned from her to take nothing from anyone, but to respect my family....Well...they do not respect me....SO...I make myself known!!!!!! Wolfclan Cherokee were quiet, and were wiped out by those who thought we were not worth living, so the settlers and armies thouht, and she is the one who made me strong, and the survivor!!!!!! I live today....In her memory.....

I am not the most popular with my boss, because she is head strong, and so am I.....No one else will stand up for me, so I must do it myself......All of my uniforms are wolf, my wolves surround my desk, and there is never a part of me that is not wolf driven.....HEAR MY HOWL!!!!!!! My bedroom is wolves and Native American, so I feel I have nothing but survival in my life......BUT...do understand, I choose my battles, as the pack may not always be around to back this ALPHA......

[Bird mama]

@forrestwolf

I knew I like you for a reason.  I presented at birth showing my rear end to the world, lol.  Yea, they had to turn my around to get me out, but Ma said I started out showing my rear to the world while hanging on to her ribs for dear life.  I think I knew what was out here and didn't want any of it, ha ha ha.

[forrestwolf]

My  mouth did come first, and as a Southern term goes....although not my language....I AIN'T SHUT UP SINCE!!!!!!! This wolf can howl....

[SouthernBee]

@forrestwolf: Mouth of the South!!! SouthernBee