Among Friends

[AnikaBrodie]

@forrestwolf

Welcome back.  No strings attached.  I remember you from Pet Lovers and  I hope you join us again on a regular basis.  You will never get any negative comments from me and might I say from many others on many forums. 

I'm glad you did not erase this message.  Posting it was cathartic for the soul, don't you think?

[Ruthie-Roo]

@forrestwolf  Good to see you back!  I wish you the best.  Take care and hang in there, ma'am.  Come back whenever you feel up to it.  You didn't ask for them, but I'm sure prayers are going out your way.  :-)

[sapphire 2]

forrestwolf, there is no place like home, welcome back!

[RedTop]

@forrestwolf,

Congratulations on figuring out the cause of the drama and pain in your life.  Accepting the reality of any situation is your first step in moving forward.  I personally wouldn't waste another minute of your life that you can't get back, worrying about the extended family.  

Accept your dad as he is, and know you cannot change him.   The key to your inner peace and happiness with the relationship with your dad, is to continue being the daughter you have always been.   Regardless of what he says or does, the day will come when he is gone, and you will be left with your memories.   You will not forget any bad memories, but you will always remember how you hung in there and responded to his needs.   Having that inner peace with yourself makes it much easier to live out the rest of your days.   

Best wishes to you.   

[Imadickens]

Hello, I'm fairly new here so I doubt we've met. I'm so sorry for your troubles! I know first hand the pain family can cause! Like so many others, my life has been a real roller coaster ride, at times it's mostly climbing up the track! I keep waiting for the fun part of the ride! I text my friend to keep her up on things and I know if she didn't know me better shed swear I was making it all up! We have been trying to get together since last December. My family and I have been either sick, totaling cars, etc, etc, and we only just got together last weekend! I think the way my family turned on my mom and me was a blow that took me nearly 30 years to be able to even think about without hyperventilating! It was a non blood spouse who stirred the whole thing up! But, she really destroyed our family! Then she through a party and danced on our graves! Then I lost all blood relatives except my two children! Other than losing my mother to cancer, the biggest blow after losing my family was when my closest friend and godmother to my children stabbed me in the back! We tried to work it out, but the shock was so bad it literally put me in the hospital for five days! Then, she said she was sorry I was hurt but not sorry for what she did! We are friendly now but I can't feel we are friends.

I tell you all this so you'll understand I know how you feel! I don't know your back story, but why are you the only one who can care for your dad? It seems like he doesn't want or appreciate your help. Unless there's more  to your story that I don't know, I have a suggestion to you. You say you are 7? Years young. If you want to stay that way you must start putting yourself first! There's nothing wrong with that at all. God tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves, not better than or instead of! Every day you spend unhappy is a day lost! If your father can exist without you, let him! Some people can never be pleased, believe me, I know! O keep trying is like banging your head against a wall and thinking the next time it won't hurt! Not only will it keep hurting but it might kill you some day. Don't expect anyone to thank you or appreciate what you do. That way you won't be disappointed. The only person you are responsible for is yourself. If someone on here, or anywhere, hurts your feelings, that's on them! You have to know you are good, you are valuable and you are special. People who are mean or rude behave that way because something is missing or wrong in their life! They think they will feel better by knocking you down. It only works if you let it! Don't let it! You have all of us. But, make sure you know and believe, you don't need anyone but you! I agree. You may be depressed. It wouldn't hurt to find out! It's pretty common now days! And, easy to treat! So, welcome back! I imagine you have as much to give us as you need us to give you! Stick around, I need a new friend!

[dooBdoo]

          (((gentle cyberhugs))) @forrestwolf.    I'm so relieved to see you posting again, yet so sad to know you're still facing so many formidable, disheartening challenges.   This is a time when I do wish the "ignore" feature could be restored to the Community, so you could avoid most of the negativity.    The vast majority of posters are so kindhearted, supportive, and charitable, and it's so important to keep that in mind.    But I know...  most of us know...  it's not always easy to make the occasional negative posts invisible and move past them.    I hope you can take comfort in reading all these warm, lovely comments, and that you'll find doors opening in your community to help resolve the problems one-by-one, and that you'll be strong and resolute in moving forward.   Please keep reaching out, don't try to do these things alone.    I always feel helpless in situations like this.    I'll bet we all wish we could come there, now, and do something to help.   My prayers go out to you, for you.❤️

[pitdakota]

@forrestwolf, I too am glad to see you.  I have wondered about you and was hoping you were okay.  I know you had some major challenges, but I have always been impressed as to your tenacity and ability to stay focused.  So don't lose sight of that quality in yourself!

And don't worry about getting used to the board.  It seems strange at first, but afer a while...you won't notice any difference.  And posters will help you out with it if necessary. 

Hang in there and I send you nothing but best wishes and good thoughts

[dooBdoo]

          Good point about the "new" forums, @pitdakota.   @forrestwolf, I agree you really will get used to it, some of the new features are great, and everyone here is so helpful.    Just ask questions and someone will answer.❤️

[RetRN]

@forrestwolf, I'm sure it took a great deal of courage for you to post here again and I am so glad you took that first difficult step. I know you will get much support here and hope you continue to share with us. There are so many caring people here and the ones that are not you must just ignore.

[forrestwolf]

@qualitygal

Too funny on the Welcome Back Kotter.....I once won a free dinner on a radio call in to say what the song and singer were....Well, it was the Welcome Back Kotter theme!!!!