Among Friends

[monicakm]

For a few weeks, as soon as I wake up and before my eyes are even open I think to myself I wonder if Mom is up yet, if Dad home or is on a flight, and is my brother home ( apparently this was the time in my life when my brother would stay out all night knowing he was going to be in all kinds of trouble when he got home). Then my eyes open and I realized it's not the late 1970s, but for that fleeting moment I'm home with my parents and the feeling is so comforting. It takes nothing away from my marriage and my husband but I'd give anything to have my mom and my brother back again and my dad to be the dad I grew up with.

[Mom2Dogs]

@monicakm   I understand....  I was just thinking about my mom and dad last night, mom has been gone 30+ years (she was only 62 when she died) dad about 22 years, I miss them so much.  I was only in my mid 30's when mom died, she and my dad have missed so much.

[sligo]

@monicakm, I completly understand. I wish I could go back to the"OLD DAYS!!" and know to appreciate them more now then I did growing up. Hope you sre feeling well. SLIGO

[I am still oxox]

For the last 10 years of my Moms life we lived 5 minutes away. I only wish we lived this close sooner. My Mom was an amazing woman, a great cook. involved in community and school events. In mid October she will be gone 11 years. I have been thinking a lot about her and miss her ever day. I guess since its so close to Yum Kippur that I miss her just a bit more.

[Northray]

Aw, that's so sad and poignant.

I actually had the weirdest wake-up dream. My beloved Grandma was waking me up for school, and she kept saying the same sentence over and over, but the only thing I could make out was something about the number 58. 

I'm like, what? I tried so hard to remember what she was saying, but the only thing that stood out loud and clear was 58. 

What, if anything, could it mean?    

[cindyNC]

@monicakm I've been having so many dreams about friends and relatives who have passed away.  

[Lucky Charm]

@monicakm

I'm the youngest of five and can't imagine what it would be like to lose a brother or a sister.  I can't relate to your loss of your brother.

My mom is gone for a year and a half, suddenly, though, a stroke.  I wish by miracle she could've survived, but it was too little too late.  I'm so glad we were able to be with her and calm her and pray with her even though she could only mouth the words.

My dad, a private pilot, we took to an air show two weeks ago at our little piddly airport.  We'd walk up to the wings of planes (4 and six seaters) and look into the cockpits.  My dad couldn't assimilate his past of flying and owning two planes.  He just had a blank stare and no comments.  Something that meant the WORLD to him for so many years. 

He's in the throes of dementia and it won't get any better, maybe for a moment, maybe for a conversation, maybe for an afternoon.  I just know I'm going to have to deal with it as it comes along.  I don't know how, but, I know that I will somehow.

[just bee]

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@Lucky Charm wrote:

@monicakm

I'm the youngest of five and can't imagine what it would be like to lose a brother or a sister.  I can't relate to your loss of your brother.

My mom is gone for a year and a half, suddenlym though, a stroke.  I wish by miracle she could've survived, but it was too little too late.  I'm so glad we were able to be with her and calm her and pray with her even though she could only mouth the words.

My dad, a private pilot, we took to an air show two weeks ago at our little piddly airport.  We'd walk up to the wings of planes (4 and six seaters) and look into the cockpits.  My dad couldn't assimilate his past of flying and owning two planes.  He just had a blank stare and no comments.  Something that meant the WORLD to him for so many years. 

He's in the throes of dementia and it won't get any better, maybe for a moment, maybe for a conversation, maybe for an afternoon.  I just know I'm going to have to deal with it as it comes along.  I don't know how, but, I know that I will somehow.

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@Lucky Charm 

The first thing?  Patience.  It's going to take more patience than the average human can muster.

But you'll be fine.  You've been an outstanding daughter to your dad. 

[Skyegirl21]

I get it.. when I remember my dreams, they are always in  the past...

[AngelPuppy1]

@monicakm 

That's very sweet.  I know for me, as I am getting up in age, I think more and more of my  mother and father and the days when I was young and the family was complete.  Is it an age thing?  I look back and I find so much comfort in these times - the happiest times of my life.  I miss my mother so dearly - she hasn't been gone very many years.  My father has been gone many, many years.  We were so close, he and I.  I was like his shadow.  Sometimes I get a little scared - thinking -- is this what happens to you when you start reaching the end of your life?  When I was younger, I would think of these times but not nearly as often.  They are in my mind so much now and my sister who is older than me, she feels the same.