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What Really Burns My Butt

sparklestar — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 15:20:05 GMT

When someone asks me a question, fashion opinion in this instance, and someone nearby listening pushes their way in and gives their opinion or answers the question for me. It's like I'm not there. Am I invisible???? It's so rude. And they don't even get it when you look at them and walk away. Was it their intention to push me out of the conversation???

Bugs me is all. There.

Re: What Really Burns My Butt

Havarti — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 15:52:48 GMT

While I understand it is rude to butt in, why does it have to be either/or? Why can’t you still express your thoughts? Your opinion must have been valued by the person who posed the question, why deny that person your thoughts & opinion just because someone else interrupted the conversation? I would think it would actually be the person who posed the question who might be offended for the interruption, rather than you. It seems as if by walking away upset you were both rude to the person who originally asked the question. Just my opinion.

But, if this is the biggest thing upsetting you…your life is good.

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Moonchilde — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 17:16:43 GMT

People can and do rudely interrupt conversations all the time. It can be VERY rude, somewhat rude or only a little rude, depending on how it happens, because that can vary.

Just because someone interrupts me, I don't let them keep me from contributing - why would I? If I find the situation very rude I will say something - Excuse me, I/we were talking [and you interrupted]. Can you wait just a moment until I finish my thought? You can get the message across that they are rude without using the word rude. But even if they do "beat you to the punch", you can still give your opinion, prefaced by "as I was saying" or "as I was about to say" and then say it. Everyone gets the message.

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Puzzle Piece — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 17:41:25 GMT

It has happened to me. Especially with one woman with whom I am acquainted. To make things worse, she loud, very loud. The person who came over to speak to me feels assaulted after she finishes her 'opinion or advice'.

I have had to be rude to keep her under control. She doesn't learn, she just doesn't learn. Then she feels hurt others ignore her and don't include her in their circles.

Re: What Really Burns My Butt

chrystaltree — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 17:47:18 GMT

Well, it obviously didn't bug you enough to say somethine to the rude person at the time...lol That's why you can't stop thinking about it, you wimped out. It's nothing, let it go. Next time.....say something.

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chickenbutt — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 17:55:35 GMT

Ugh. I can't stand rudeness. I suppose maybe the person didn't even realize they were being rude, in doing so, but then here we are back to people being taught (or not being taught) manners and basic social graces.

On a lighter note, when I saw your thread title, I couldn't help thinking about hearing Dolly Parton say 'You know what burns my butt?'...'a flame about this high' (as she put her hand beside her body about butt-level). She's so cute.

Re: What Really Burns My Butt

sparklestar — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 18:07:24 GMT

@chrystaltree wrote:
Well, it obviously didn't bug you enough to say somethine to the rude person at the time...lol That's why you can't stop thinking about it, you wimped out. It's nothing, let it go. Next time.....say something.

I'm not that type of person. And just because I didn't say something does not change the circumstances. Name it what you want. If it's that big of a deal, I might. I just came here to vent, but of course there's always this too "if this is the biggest thing upsetting you ..." Trust me it's not, but I would not discuss the real problems here.

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chickenbutt — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 18:09:56 GMT

Don't mind that, Sparklestar! There are always those who just threadcrap everywhere they go. It's like, if they had their way, nobody could discuss anything unless it was sanctioned by them.

Some people try to twist conversations around with their 'is this really your biggest problem' garbage because I guess they don't understand the concept of people just conversing, or venting, or debating.

Don't let it get you down.

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catwhisperer — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 18:17:24 GMT

Is the heat getting to people? Everybody thinks everybody is rude. It's rampant on these boards. Unfortunately, that's life.

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Havarti — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 18:51:52 GMT

Well, if you think I was rude to you and you think the person sharing information in the original conversation was rude to you…it appears you are a highly sensitive person. Or, you just enjoy finding rudeness where none is intended. Maybe look within for your answers since you are the common denominator.

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chickenbutt — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 19:35:55 GMT

Havarti - I hope you didn't think that I was referring to you in my last post. I was responding to the post that she quoted, from a poster who frequently attacks other posters and enters threads for the express purpose of tearing others apart.

I apologize and should have quoted, but sometimes those quotes upon quotes upon quotes get tedious.

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sparklestar — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 19:50:08 GMT

@chickenbutt I don't ... just more rudeness.

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sparklestar — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 19:55:37 GMT

@Havarti wrote:
While I understand it is rude to butt in, why does it have to be either/or? Why can’t you still express your thoughts? Your opinion must have been valued by the person who posed the question, why deny that person your thoughts & opinion just because someone else interrupted the conversation? I would think it would actually be the person who posed the question who might be offended for the interruption, rather than you. It seems as if by walking away upset you were both rude to the person who originally asked the question. Just my opinion.

But, if this is the biggest thing upsetting you…your life is good.

I did offer her my opinion and I was quite honored that she would ask me. As we continued to talk, the other person stepped in. I had finished with my thoughts. I was not rude and after the other person left, we continued our conversation.

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sparklestar — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 19:57:40 GMT

@Havarti wrote:
Well, if you think I was rude to you and you think the person sharing information in the original conversation was rude to you…it appears you are a highly sensitive person. Or, you just enjoy finding rudeness where none is intended. Maybe look within for your answers since you are the common denominator.

It appears you are intent on making me the person to fault. Makes you feel better, eh.

Re: What Really Burns My Butt

Havarti — Wed, 17 Aug 2016 20:39:46 GMT

@chickenbutt

Thank you, that was very kind of you to clarify.

I was actually responding to @sparklestar who seemed offended by my comment “if this is the biggest thing upsetting you…your life is good”. That is something I say to myself often when life’s little things start to get to me. I try to remember that on the same day I am finding every stoplight red when I am in a hurry, or didn’t like the look someone gave me, or dropped a gallon of milk all over the floor just as I am rushing out the door…that while this is what I have to deal with today, someone else is finding out they have a terminal illness, or that their loved one was killed in a car accident and won’t come home ever again, or that their child is sick, or that they lost their job. It is just my way of keeping myself in-check that the good times are when you have time to worry about the petty little things that bother you. I have had some of those big things happen to me and know that when the big things hit you, you have no time or energy to invest in life’s bumps in the road…it takes everything you have inside just to muster up the strength to deal with the basic necessities of life. That expression helps me keep things in perspective and remember how lucky I am on a day when that type of thing is what bothers me.

No slam or harm was intended toward anyone. Quite the contrary – it is a complement to how good life must be on a given day that the little things are important.

Thanks again for clarifying.

Re: What Really Burns My Butt

Anonymous — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 18:47:46 GMT

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Hooty — Thu, 18 Aug 2016 18:50:13 GMT

@catwhisperer wrote:
Is the heat getting to people? Everybody thinks everybody is rude. It's rampant on these boards. Unfortunately, that's life.

@catwhisperer, seems everyone on this forum thinks just because someone has a difference of opinion, they are being rude, double standards if you ask me, LOL!!!