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Feeling The Pangs

Puzzle Piece — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 18:57:07 GMT

I was at Hobby Lobby yesterday and saw all the Fall/Holiday items for the home. Didn't purchasing anything as I was looking for something other than holiday. However, I did feel some emotional pangs of heartache. I will be moving from my home soon and I remember the years of caring for her and putting love into her. I would buy some things from crafters and stores like Hobby Lobby to decorate her and give her charm. I will dearly miss my home when we leave - grown used to her and attached to her. May sound silly but I am so close to being emotional about it all. Too many good memories to just leave off. We will never walk that way again.

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Vickiv — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 19:11:21 GMT

Oh my so sad. It's so hard to think of beautiful memories when life has changed. In the end change is good it strengthens your soul.

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Ms X — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 19:15:55 GMT

Oh, @Puzzle Piece, it's actually good that you feel so wistful about leaving your home. It's testament to the wonderful years you spent in that location. Do you wonder what equally great experiences await in your new place of residence? Make an effort to look for the good and reach out to those around you to make it so. All the best to you in your new home!

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chessylady — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 19:16:02 GMT

Does she have a name? Is she married?

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GCR18 — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 19:43:17 GMT

The she threw me off. I thought this was a story about a person. I've missed past homes. Getting settled in the new home will make it better.

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Puzzle Piece — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 20:55:22 GMT

@chessylady Thanks for the chuckle, I needed that.

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hckynut — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 21:42:30 GMT

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.

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Chrystaltree2 — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 22:26:57 GMT

....why are you divorcing her if you still love her so much? Was she having an affair with another family?

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LdyBugz — Sun, 14 Aug 2016 23:07:53 GMT

I understand how you feel about leaving your home as I've been in the same situation. But before you know it, the personal touches you add and the new memories you create will make the new place "home" again! Best of luck to you on your journey!

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 03:14:18 GMT

@Chrystaltree2 wrote:
....why are you divorcing her if you still love her so much? Was she having an affair with another family?

Cute. I call home a Her as she is a lady to me. We have to move as we are retired and we can't handle the yardwork and the neighborhood has changed. Best we move on.

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Puzzle Piece — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 03:19:28 GMT

@hckynut I can relate to your experience in a way. I couldn't wait to leave the home I grew up in so I married to get out of the house. A mistake but we divorced and went on with life. This house has been a real home to me with my husband of 34 years. Sure, I will miss her.

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151949 — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 04:27:58 GMT

I know how you feel OP - DH & I moved into our house when we got married and lived there 28 years. We love Florida and our new home but when we go back to the old neighborhood we still have pangs and wish we could have kept our old house as it was a dream home to us.

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stevieb — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 04:46:45 GMT

@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.

And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

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stevieb — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 04:50:34 GMT

OP, I don't find it all silly to have feelings of connection and potential loss related to a home you've loved. I think that's a pretty normal reaction. With absolutely no intent to sound snarky, I do, however, find it quite silly to refer to one's home as 'her' or 'she'... And yes, I feel the same way about handbags...

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hckynut — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 05:45:07 GMT

@stevieb wrote:
@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.
And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

Your key words are "might and if ". Those words to me are the same nomenclature as the words "coulda/woulda/shoulda ", which definition to me is hindsight, which is always 20/20. I live in a "what is" world, the present, not the past or thinking I can read my future.

I also refer to it as "our heaven", plural.

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Big Sister — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 07:27:33 GMT

I do understand your feeling sad about moving from your home; I would also. While it is sad, it is also exciting to know that you will create a new "nest." I loved creating my different nests.

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AKgirl2 — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 07:54:46 GMT

@stevieb wrote:
@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.
And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

You just might be right about that @stevieb...

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YorkieonmyPillow — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 12:38:02 GMT

@Puzzle Piece wrote:
@hckynut I can relate to your experience in a way. I couldn't wait to leave the home I grew up in so I married to get out of the house. A mistake but we divorced and went on with life. This house has been a real home to me with my husband of 34 years. Sure, I will miss her.

Perhaps if you ponder a new decorating scheme & start collecting things geared towards the new place, it will take your mind off the one you're leaving.

Sorry to hear about your neighborhood changing - not much you can really do about that, except what you are doing.

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stevieb — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 15:11:57 GMT

@hckynut wrote:
@stevieb wrote:
@hckynut wrote:

Can't relate. Born in Public Housing Projects, moved right before I was 14. Lived in home with my mother until she died after 16 years. Lived there 4 more very, very long years before I could sell it. Seemed more like centuries to me, Couldn't get outta there fast enough.

Lived in our townhome over 20 years, not a thing I miss about it since we moved into "our heaven". Been here over 16+ years now and have no plans on moving.

I have had more emotional connections to my new cars and Race Cars than to any home. Guess we are different, don't know anyone that would miss living in The Projects.

Cheer up, memories are forever, new housing? Not always.
And yet it sounds as though you might have some of these same feelings if, for some reason, you had to leave your 'heaven'...

Your key words are "might and if ". Those words to me are the same nomenclature as the words "coulda/woulda/shoulda ", which definition to me is hindsight, which is always 20/20. I live in a "what is" world, the present, not the past or thinking I can read my future.

I also refer to it as "our heaven", plural.

The point remains the same... And, you see, for the OP, the transition appears to be imminent so it is "what is"... Given that, perhaps a little empathy rather than more espousing of personal philosophy, whether you can relate or not, might be in order... Just a thought...

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goldensrbest — Mon, 15 Aug 2016 15:38:43 GMT

I think that feeling is natural, after living there for so long, alot of memories for you, i drive by the house we raised our boys in, and i can see those times we had in that house,we lived there 18 years, but the last few years living there was very bad memories, my son being hurt so bad in a car accident,we built a apartment on it for him,then 3 years later he died, i had to get out of that house, i could not stand seeing that apartment,so we moved,then i had to move again ,when my husband died in 2013, there are no memories here in this house, it just does not seem like home to me.