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"Things to Never (Ever) Feel Guilty About"

JoyFilled Warrior — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 01:03:30 GMT

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happilyretiredgirl — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 01:09:27 GMT

I am just learning to not feel guilty for sleeping in because my body needs it. I finally stop letting some people tell me I was sleeping my life away because I slept in. I worked for 45 years before retiring....so I'm sleeping all I want now.😴

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QVCkitty1 — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 01:20:31 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:

@JoyFilled Warrior , I agree with every one of these .

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hopi — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 01:52:45 GMT

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spiderw — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 01:58:29 GMT

Very good list and meaningful. I think most people do have guilt for one reason or another., however, we move on and live our lives . Thanks for sharing this wisdom.

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JoyFilled Warrior — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 02:16:33 GMT

I think I need a large poster size of this List above, & check with it, read it often.

I wonder how I'd do that? Maybe Etsy?

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ThinkingOutLoud — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 02:22:22 GMT

Most of these are good but not all. For instance:

Being a dreamer - can be a downfall. There are people who go overboard with that to the point they don't have stable income.

Doing what makes you happy - too many examples to list why that's not always sound advice.

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cjm61 — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 02:36:40 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior

I agree with @ThinkingOutLoud , most of these are true but the one that stands out to me is putting yourself first. I soundly disagree with that. Before people disagree, I do believe there are times you need to but there are also times it's best to put others' needs first.

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TerryNJ — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 02:49:58 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:
I think I need a large poster size of this List above, & check with it, read it often.

I wonder how I'd do that? Maybe Etsy?

I needed this list right now. Thank you for it.

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occasionalrain — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 03:09:28 GMT

I don't care to hear anyone speaking their truth.

Setting boundaries is just controling in disguise.

Is cutting in line, putting oneself first?

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rockygems123 — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 03:31:37 GMT

@occasionalrain wrote:
I don't care to hear anyone speaking their truth.

Setting boundaries is just controling in disguise.

Is cutting in line, putting oneself first?

@occasionalrain

Very sad.

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Shanus — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 12:45:28 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:
I think I need a large poster size of this List above, & check with it, read it often.

I wonder how I'd do that? Maybe Etsy?

@JoyFilled Warrior Hi. I needed to print something said here and if you tap on the "dots" in the upper right hand corner where you can also edit your reply, it gives you the option to print. Then you can take it to Staples or a copy center to have it enlarged...even laminated.

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AngelPuppy1 — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 13:10:51 GMT

That list is great. However, I am "guilty" of feeling "guilty" of a ton of those things! Oh, my goodness!

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Group 5 minus 1 — Sun, 02 Feb 2025 13:42:30 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior Love that. Thanks! I was raised to feel guilty about most of those things. As an adult I tried to help Mom not to fill guilty about so much.

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RescueLover — Mon, 03 Feb 2025 12:12:59 GMT

I need to add one to your thoughtful list …

A wise elderly friend of mine told me…

Honey, Never feel guilty of buying the things you want because

That’s what you work hard for “. 💕

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Allthingsgirly67 — Mon, 03 Feb 2025 15:48:39 GMT

Some of you here are taking some of these out of context. Of course at times for example you have to put someone else first, like your children. But for many of us who relate to what was written can get the broader meaning. As women we generally tend to be somewhat passive in regards to our feelings. The boundaries one is not about “control”. For example, my ex- MIL, would try on my clothes when I was working and tell me about it. She has also gone through my drawers ( and DD believes hers as well). In addition she was a hoarder and many other things she did. She had absolutely no boundaries.

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lgfan — Mon, 03 Feb 2025 16:03:10 GMT

@Allthingsgirly67 wrote:
Some of you here are taking some of these out of context. Of course at times for example you have to put someone else first, like your children. But for many of us who relate to what was written can get the broader meaning. As women we generally tend to be somewhat passive in regards to our feelings. The boundaries one is not about “control”. For example, my ex- MIL, would try on my clothes when I was working and tell me about it. She has also gone through my drawers ( and DD believes hers as well). In addition she was a hoarder and many other things she did. She had absolutely no boundaries.

What I get from the put yourself first statement is that if you are not well you cannot take care of anyone else. You must be healthy to take care of others so put yourself first.

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JeanLouiseFinch — Mon, 03 Feb 2025 16:22:17 GMT

@JoyFilled Warrior wrote:

"Speaking Your Truth" is not the same as BEING TRUTHFUL. People can twist words and situations to suit themselves or their purpose. Being truthful acknowledges the veracity of a situation or event without regard to an individual's preference, or desired reaction or result.

I also disagree with the last one. For me, it's always God first, followed by husband, family, then me.

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qualitygal — Mon, 03 Feb 2025 18:10:11 GMT

Where did you find this on line, so you could post it? Maybe it'll help the lady who wants a larger copy of it.

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occasionalrain — Mon, 03 Feb 2025 20:59:16 GMT

The context is clear, never ever feel guilty? People who always put themselves first are inconsiderate, unkind, selfish, and are lacking in manners.