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Engagement Parties

Calcgirl — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 03:02:43 GMT

I was invited to a family members engagement party and my married daughter who was also invited went with me. It was held mid afternoon and many of the female guests were dressed in semi formal attire. The party was exquisite, arranged by a party planner and catered; I have been to weddings that were not this formal. There were about 150 people at the home of the brides parents. They are well to do as is the grooms parents so obviously money is not an issue. I found it interesting watching many of the females present as they looked up and down at eachother appraising their clothes, bodies ????? The life of the rich, not my cup of tea. LOL

Re: Engagement Parties

Tinkrbl44 — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 03:08:59 GMT

@Calcgirl wrote:
I was invited to a family members engagement party and my married daughter who was also invited went with me. It was held mid afternoon and many of the female guests were dressed in semi formal attire. The party was exquisite, arranged by a party planner and catered; I have been to weddings that were not this formal. There were about 150 people at the home of the brides parents. They are well to do as is the grooms parents so obviously money is not an issue. I found it interesting watching many of the females present as they looked up and down at eachother appraising their clothes, bodies ????? The life of the rich, not my cup of tea. LOL

@Calcgirl

Obviously, I don't know any of these people, and wasn't there, but any time I go where women are well-dressed, I am always checking out their outfits.

Always looking for interesting ways women put themselves together.

I hope you had a good time.

Re: Engagement Parties

Scooby Doo — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 03:46:34 GMT

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Calcgirl wrote:
I was invited to a family members engagement party and my married daughter who was also invited went with me. It was held mid afternoon and many of the female guests were dressed in semi formal attire. The party was exquisite, arranged by a party planner and catered; I have been to weddings that were not this formal. There were about 150 people at the home of the brides parents. They are well to do as is the grooms parents so obviously money is not an issue. I found it interesting watching many of the females present as they looked up and down at eachother appraising their clothes, bodies ????? The life of the rich, not my cup of tea. LOL

@Calcgirl

Obviously, I don't know any of these people, and wasn't there, but any time I go where women are well-dressed, I am always checking out their outfits.

Always looking for interesting ways women put themselves together.

I hope you had a good time.

I can tell the difference between a judgy look and an admiring look.

Re: Engagement Parties

Kachina624 — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 04:01:22 GMT

It's been said that women dress to impress other women. I believe it's true.

Re: Engagement Parties

Calcgirl — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 05:03:39 GMT

@Scooby Doo wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Calcgirl wrote:
I was invited to a family members engagement party and my married daughter who was also invited went with me. It was held mid afternoon and many of the female guests were dressed in semi formal attire. The party was exquisite, arranged by a party planner and catered; I have been to weddings that were not this formal. There were about 150 people at the home of the brides parents. They are well to do as is the grooms parents so obviously money is not an issue. I found it interesting watching many of the females present as they looked up and down at eachother appraising their clothes, bodies ????? The life of the rich, not my cup of tea. LOL

@Calcgirl

Obviously, I don't know any of these people, and wasn't there, but any time I go where women are well-dressed, I am always checking out their outfits.

Always looking for interesting ways women put themselves together.

I hope you had a good time.

I can tell the difference between a judgy look and an admiring lo

The looks I waas referring to were definitely judging looks.

Re: Engagement Parties

Desertdi — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 07:00:47 GMT

I send my regrets to an invitation like that. "Putting on the dog" is not my thing...

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ID2 — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 10:55:19 GMT

Nope, I guess I'd like the life of the rich. The party described is definitely my vibe. I love getting dressed up. I love people watching and seeing how everyone dresses. I'm such a clothes horse. The OP raves how lovely the party was then ends by saying it's not her cup of tea. Hmmm.

Re: Engagement Parties

haddon9 — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 11:08:18 GMT

It sounds like a nice party. As for other women being judgmental on the outfits of other party goers, it could just be your perception. Maybe others felt differently. It's all in one's point of view.

It sounds like the wedding will be very nice as well. Just try to enjoy and not overthink it.

Re: Engagement Parties

Krimpette — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 14:36:32 GMT

Given that it was such a lavish affair for an Engagement party, wonder what the event will be like for the wedding? I also wonder what type of gift one gives for an engagement, as opposed to what the gift expectation would be for the wedding?

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teganslaw — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 15:00:40 GMT

Etiquette says that there is no requirement to give a gift for an engagement party. It shouldn't be expected since the bride will get a shower and wedding gift. Engagement parties are suppose to be a celebration of the event with gifts not needed.

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Trinity11 — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 15:33:41 GMT

At my age, I learned a very long time ago, there will always be someone with more money or more expensive clothing than I have. So I try and present myself as best I can and enjoy the moment.

The very wealthy have just as many health problems social problems and issues with self esteem. That's why I have no problem socializing with people of all socioeconomic groups. In the end, nobody can make you feel "less than" unless you allow them.

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Rockycoast — Sun, 29 Dec 2024 14:26:41 GMT

Having many friends of different income levels, I can feel comfortable anywhere. Not a problem, and yes ladies look at each other on appearances. Some good some not so good. I have to say I have had my “what was she thinking” moments as I’m sure some have wondered the same of me. As I stated it is not a big deal to me. I wear what is appropriate for the occasion and enjoy myself.

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Puzzle Piece — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 16:21:07 GMT

Despite all the judgement or arrogance of some others at the party, I do hope you had a nice time.

I live in So Ca where a lot of that goes on - We have our own clothing trends and of course the figures are scrutinized so that is why many are insecure about themselves. Don't know where that will all end up.

Re: Engagement Parties

hkrgrl — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 18:53:29 GMT

no one can make you feel inferior without your consent

eleanor roosevelt

i hope you have a great time at the wedding! it sounds like it will a once in lifetime event!!

find a fab dress and enjoy every minute.

you will most likely never see these people again.

lots of great insight from posters.

Re: Engagement Parties

Tinkrbl44 — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 20:10:55 GMT

@Scooby Doo wrote:
@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Calcgirl wrote:
I was invited to a family members engagement party and my married daughter who was also invited went with me. It was held mid afternoon and many of the female guests were dressed in semi formal attire. The party was exquisite, arranged by a party planner and catered; I have been to weddings that were not this formal. There were about 150 people at the home of the brides parents. They are well to do as is the grooms parents so obviously money is not an issue. I found it interesting watching many of the females present as they looked up and down at eachother appraising their clothes, bodies ????? The life of the rich, not my cup of tea. LOL

@Calcgirl

Obviously, I don't know any of these people, and wasn't there, but any time I go where women are well-dressed, I am always checking out their outfits.

Always looking for interesting ways women put themselves together.

I hope you had a good time.

I can tell the difference between a judgy look and an admiring look.

@Scooby Doo

So can I.

Re: Engagement Parties

Tinkrbl44 — Sat, 28 Dec 2024 20:17:44 GMT

@haddon9 wrote:
It sounds like a nice party. As for other women being judgmental on the outfits of other party goers, it could just be your perception. Maybe others felt differently. It's all in one's point of view.
It sounds like the wedding will be very nice as well. Just try to enjoy and not overthink it.

@haddon9 @Calcgirl

ITA .... It's not just well-to-do women who check out others' outfits.

Even women with little extra cash do so.

So what?

It's human nature, not snootiness.

Re: Engagement Parties

Tinkrbl44 — Sun, 29 Dec 2024 19:29:56 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
It's been said that women dress to impress other women. I believe it's true.

@Kachina624

I am baffled by that claim .... which originally came from a Bon Jovi song, I believe.

Maybe this is a thing in New Jersey?

Do YOU dress to impress other women? I sure don't.

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Lakelife62 — Sun, 29 Dec 2024 19:49:40 GMT

I am always checking out others' outfits and I always compliment the wearers. You can tell when someone put some thought into an outfit or when someone just has good style. I get some of my best ideas for dressing by looking at what other's wear.

I've gotten the look up and down too and if they are judging me, I don't know anything about it. It does make my day though, when someone appreciates my look and says so!

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Kachina624 — Sun, 29 Dec 2024 20:15:56 GMT

@Tinkrbl44 wrote:
@Kachina624 wrote:
It's been said that women dress to impress other women. I believe it's true.

@Kachina624

I am baffled by that claim .... which originally came from a Bon Jovi song, I believe.

Maybe this is a thing in New Jersey?

Do YOU dress to impress other women? I sure don't.

@Tinkrbl44. I never heard the Bon Jovi song but I believe this theory was around long before he was. I don't dress to impress anyone or go anyplace where there are people to impress, but many women do.

Re: Engagement Parties

Calcgirl — Tue, 31 Dec 2024 16:45:11 GMT

Thank you ladies for sharing your thoughts. I am sorry that I did not do a good job explaining myself . I found the "looks" amusing, especially since I am not in their age range. You should have been there to see the look on the face of a gal whose ex was there with his very date who was 3/4 naked. LOL I was quite comfortable in my attire and have long ago become confident and comfortable in my style and appearance. I always recieve complements in my attire, including complements at the engagement party. I wore a pair of dress black pants, a red sweater with rhinestones going down the sleeves and a pair of black silky flats with rhinestone bows and felt very comfortable and appropriately dressed.

Yes, the wedding will be quite beautiful. The bride to be, ( my future granddaughter-in-law) showed me a picture of her wedding dress and it is stunning. The wedding isn't until 2026 due to both are still in college.

I did have a good time at the party. My comment that I was glad I wasn't rich and famous was meant to be humorous. That is the problem with texting ( to me) is that the tone of ones conversation is lost.

Have a great day and Happy New Year!!!