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I ATTENDED A WEDDING SHOWER

Luvsmyfam — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 02:45:31 GMT

I attended a wedding shower a few monthes back
As of today,I still have not recieved a thank you note In the mail.Is this unheard oh nowadays?Am I showing my age ?I come from old school and have been taught to send thank yous in appreciation of gift.I also think it's very tacky announcing thank yous on facebook.Im not on that either,have no desire Would like your opinions on this matter

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Desertdi — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 02:50:24 GMT

Do they even SELL "thank you notes" any more? Most folks I know use the phone or email...

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Luvsmyfam — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 02:57:19 GMT

,@Desertdi yes they sell lovely thankyou cards
Sending a email is very tacky and lazy in my opinion

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Carmie — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 02:59:15 GMT

It's rude, but it happens.

According to etiquette rules,you have up to one year to send out thank you's for a wedding gift. Shower thank you's should be sent out immediately within a two week time period.

I usually get a written thank you within a month, but I noticed they are sloppily written with grammatical and spelling errors with my name spelled incorrectly.

Even the envelopes are not addressed correctly....all college educated, but at least they sent them.

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ROMARY — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 02:59:52 GMT

I have a feeling that many / some people feel that saying 'thank you' to each guest at the shower is good enough.

Not me. I love to send thank-you notes.

Makes my day! (I'm serious.)

Life is never ending changing.

I guess we just have to get along and 'go with the flow', so to speak.

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Luvsmyfam — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 03:09:34 GMT

@ROMARY,I will never jump on the band wagon with this subject.I wish more ppl would go the extra mile and show some gratitude 🙏

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beach-mom — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 03:26:20 GMT

I get a handwritten note from 50% of future brides. One time a friend actually thanked me on behalf of her daughter.

Years ago DD attended a birthday party at a popular children's play place. I think the boy was 10 or 11. When we thanked the boy's mom at the end we got a goody bag (I still was trying to adjust to those. Some parents gave "goody bag" gifts that were equal to the gifs the birthday child received! I tried to select small gifts for each sex.)

Along with the goody bag, the mom handed out a sealed envelope with DD's name on it. Inside was a thank you card thanking her for "her gift" and how much he likes it! I don't remember if he had even opened it!

I liked this mom, but I had never seen anything like that before or ever again!

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Kachina624 — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 03:35:55 GMT

I hope you're not planning to send a wedding gift.

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Sooner — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 03:39:06 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
,@Desertdi yes they sell lovely thankyou cards
Sending a email is very tacky and lazy in my opinion

@Luvsmyfam It's also old school. A new day is here, people are either lax about thank yous at all or using new means of communication.

If you need a new hobby it's something to fret about. Otherwise, things simply evolve as time goes along. Either give a gift or don't--no obligations.

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Desertdi — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 03:39:36 GMT

I only expect an acknowledgement if the gift is $500 or more...

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Luvsmyfam — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 04:23:31 GMT

@Kachina624 NOPE

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Luvsmyfam — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 04:25:17 GMT

@Sooner No,I don't need a new hobby,but you need to learn manners

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Janey2 — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 04:40:28 GMT

If I take my time and money to buy a gift I expect a thank you. I would like a hand written thank you, but I would accept an e mail. At least the gift was acknowledged. I do not care that times change, manners never go out of style.

Re: I ATTENDED A WEDDING SHOWER

Tinkrbl44 — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 06:17:27 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
I attended a wedding shower a few monthes back
As of today,I still have not recieved a thank you note In the mail.Is this unheard oh nowadays?Am I showing my age ?I come from old school and have been taught to send thank yous in appreciation of gift.I also think it's very tacky announcing thank yous on facebook.Im not on that either,have no desire Would like your opinions on this matter

@Luvsmyfam

Please clarify .... did this woman actually open your gift while you were there ... and you saw this happen?

If not, there's a chance your name tag or card (or whatever) got separated from your lovely gift and she has no idea who sent it.

It would depend on how well I knew this person and how close we were, but I would somehow "check to make sure the gift was received" since there was no acknowledgement.

Sorry, but not thanking for a gift is inexcusable! Grr!

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kitcat51 — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 06:28:57 GMT

Every shower I've attended I've received a hug, a one on one conversation & a sincere Thank You...those are the things that matter to me so I don't need-want a card or email.

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haddon9 — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 07:35:25 GMT

@Luvsmyfam @I agree with you that sending a thank you card is proper etiquette. Today it really seems to be a hit or miss if you ever receive one. I would be annoyed but it's one of those things that you just have to move past. Going forward, you know to not put much effort into a future gift for this person.

I have to mention my nephew and his wife. They came to my house last Christmas and I gave them a small combined gift plus an inexpensive toy for their two year old little boy.

I don't know who of the two wrote out and sent the thank you card, but in January I received one from them. I was thanked for having them over ( I usually do), for the gifts and just in general acknowledging the fact that I put a lot of effort into having people over for the holiday! That was such a pleasant surprise!

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AngelPuppy1 — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 10:21:16 GMT

I think it is still courtesy to send thank you cards. I am not on facebook, so even if someone did a thank you that way, I would never see it, and that doesn't show much effort in my opinion. People took the time to pick out a gift and to attend the shower, so at least the recipient could take a few minutes and do thank you cards.

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Group 5 minus 1 — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 10:30:00 GMT

You could always call the honore' and ask if she (they) liked their gift.

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CelticCrafter — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 11:00:56 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
,@Desertdi yes they sell lovely thankyou cards
Sending a email is very tacky and lazy in my opinion

It's better than nothing. At least the gift was acknowledged.

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jubilant — Wed, 14 Aug 2024 11:07:35 GMT

I may be old school but, in my book "thank you" never goes out of style. It can be a thank you note, a phone call, or an email.

That makes no difference. It shows a grate-

ful spirit....something much needed these

days.