topic Re: IVE BEEN MIA in Among Friends

IVE BEEN MIA

Luvsmyfam — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:13:36 GMT

I've been Mia for several reasons.I thought I was in a relationship with a man,and was having such great fun time with him.Then,something happened over Memorial weekend.I haven't seen or heard a word from him since.Just like that it's over.Now the question I have is why?I got the message when I hadn't heard from him.I deleted his number.this has put me in such a funk .Im constantly checking my phone in case he texts me.

How do I get over this man?

Re: IVE BEEN MIA

Kachina624 — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:18:31 GMT

@Luvsmyfam. Keep reminding yourself that you must kiss a lot of frogs before finding your prince.

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Luvsmyfam — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:23:16 GMT

@Kachina624 So very hurtful tho.and to think I was on top of the world and now I cry all the time when I'm home and always am thinking about him.I want more than anything to get over him

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Effie54 — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:24:21 GMT

First of all, what happened over Memorial Day weekend? I mean, something must have happened. It's not usually the norm for someone to just ghost a person without a reason. Relationship lines can be blurry when it's new. Both people have to be on the same page. So you ask, how do you get over him? Know he's not "the one". If he were the one, he would choose you. It easy to hope that someone we like is "the one", but it's selling yourself short by waiting for someone who might not have been on the same page as you. The right person chooses you as well as you choosing them.

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Kachina624 — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:32:34 GMT

@Luvsmyfam. You seem to become emotionally vested in a person very fast. Maybe you come on too strong and scare a man who is not looking for a permanent relationship. Next time, don't be so eager or available. Play kind of hard to get.

In the meantime, get out and do something to distract yourself. Quit crying over losing something you never had and try, try again.

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Luvsmyfam — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:35:34 GMT

@Kachina624 I appreciate you responding.Im the type of person,talking about it helps me

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Tissyanne — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:36:20 GMT

@Luvsmyfam , I would need to ask him what happened. Even if I had to go to his home, or work. Nothing confrontational, just ask for an explanation.

I am sorry you are hurting. I think it would help you to move on if you knew why.

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spumoni99 — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:36:24 GMT

If he was a nice guy he would have talked to you not just ghosted you. I think you met him where you work, has he been in there? Are you sure nothing has happened to him? Did something happen on your last date?

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EastCoastGal — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:41:49 GMT

@Luvsmyfam

I am so very sorry this happened to you!! So sad you've been crying a lot !! I haven't been writing on here for a couple months but when I saw your post I had to come on to tell you I'm sorry!!

Relationships are so hard and it doesn't matter what your age is. I've always been an emotional person especially when it comes to men. Cry as much as you need to! 💖

Can you tell us anything about what happened Memorial Day weekend or maybe it's too personal?

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Love my grandkids — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:41:56 GMT

@Luvsmyfam That's too bad. You seem like a nice person but I'm just wondering if maybe you appear to be a bit needy when it comes to having a relationship.

I'm not being mean but I had a good friend like that. She got dumped by a guy who flat out told her she was too pushy (I'm NOT saying you are) and she needed to back off. She finally did after a lot of fails and met someone really nice.

And playing a little hard to get is a good thing. And I disagree with the person who said to basically track him down and confront him. NO. That won't help and it's the sure sign of desperation which I don't think you are.

With the next person, relax, don't be readily available each time he asks.

I think you just need to chalk this up as "one of those things." Cry some if you must but you need to move on. I wish you well.

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Luvsmyfam — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:41:57 GMT

@spumoni99 I know he's still around because I've seen his truck.The last time we texted he had a busy memorial weekend,thought I would at least hear something.Last date was very nice.I truley haven't felt this down since my divorce 11 yrs ago. I know,my problem is nothing compared to all the hatefulness in this world

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Luvsmyfam — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:43:32 GMT

@Love my grandkids Thank u for responding.I appreciate it

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Luvsmyfam — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:48:36 GMT

@EastCoastGal That's just it ,nothing happened over the holiday weekend.I can't figure it out.One thing I know,I deleted his cell number because I don't want to make a fool of myself. We socialize at the same place,and really don't know what I would say to him.I want to be happy and not sad

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MoJoV — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:49:39 GMT

@Luvsmyfam Just remind yourself you deserve better. Any guy who would just disappear like that isn't worth your time, he's a loser. You don't deserve that kind of treatment. Demand respect.

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SilleeMee — Sat, 01 Jun 2024 23:54:02 GMT

It's okay to feel sad about it but keep reminding yourself that it's only temporary. It will soon pass and then you'll be back to normal.

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San Antonio Gal — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 00:01:47 GMT

@Luvsmyfam - I was wondering what happened to you!

Can you call him and have a heart to heart talk with him?

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paixmcdao — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 00:01:57 GMT

Do people really "play hard to get" in in 2024? People in healthy relationships communicate, and don't play silly games.

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Citrine1 — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 00:06:07 GMT

Wasn't memorial day just last week? Who's to say that he's not just taking a little break? Maybe he's busy. Maybe he'll be in touch with you again. What makes you think the relationship is "over"?

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EastCoastGal — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 00:06:38 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
@EastCoastGal That's just it ,nothing happened over the holiday weekend.I can't figure it out.One thing I know,I deleted his cell number because I don't want to make a fool of myself. We socialize at the same place,and really don't know what I would say to him.I want to be happy and not sad

@Luvsmyfam ... So nothing happened over the holiday weekend. Did the last date end well? It probably did and that's probably why you're confused. The last thing I read from you, you said he wanted to take you to meet his family but you didn't go because you had a headache. Sounds like you had a few dates since then.

That's hard you socialize at the same place...so you've probably seen him. That must be hard to see him there though. You and I are a lot alike. When l used to date someone and they didn't call again it would really bother me and l would end up crying. 😢 When guys end it like that it isn't fair because if l thought it was going somewhere and it just ended l would want to know why but most guys are like what you're going through. They just end it !! It's not fair to you.

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LizzieInSRQ — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 00:13:03 GMT

@Luvsmyfam you literally have chemicals in your system that are caused when we bond to someone. Its like a withdrawl of sorts. Its sad and difficult as we like what a relationship brings. I dont know what happened but im sorry you are going through this. It will take time for these chemicals to dissapate..

One advice i dont agree with is to next time play games, hard to get etc. You be you. Games are just that. I believe people have a right to say yes, sure, why not...if they feel that way.

The only "rules" ill never break again is saying I love you first and pursuing a man. I believe there are primal things in place in us as humans. Men like to pursue. Its weird in modern times to say that but i really do believe its primal.

Cry as much as you need to. Its a gift to women to be able to do so easily. Makes being stonger the next day!!!