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Death notice question

Mom2Dogs — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:03:41 GMT

Just a curious question: In our local paper there was a newborn infant that passed away...so very sad, I cannot imagine the pain.

I noticed that the words 'born asleep' were used. I have never heard that term before. I have only heard the words 'still birth' in the past.

I am just curious if this is a new term or --possiby the parents used that term.

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elated — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:09:50 GMT

It means stillbirth.

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Mom2Dogs — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:12:38 GMT

@elated YES, I know what it means, I had just never heard the term used in the notice of BORN ASLEEP.

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Sage04 — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:19:37 GMT

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
@elated YES, I know what it means, I had just never heard the term used in the notice of BORN ASLEEP.

@Mom2Dogs never heard that before either. I guess it sounds a lot better than "still born" or "still birth".

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elated — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:18:38 GMT

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
@elated YES, I know what it means, I had just never heard the term used in the notice of BORN ASLEEP.

That is the term they are using instead of stillbirth. This is our new reality.

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skatting44 — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:19:36 GMT

just a way to state a death in softer terms . no different than saying people " passed away " rather than they died.

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cjm61 — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:22:46 GMT

@Mom2Dogs I, sadly, can relate. My first born was 2 days past due date, the umbilical cord was around her neck. She was "stillborn". As a mother who lost her baby girl, I think I prefer the term "Born Asleep" to "Stillborn", and no, I have never heard that term before. Either way, it means the same and is forever heartbreaking to the entire family.

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Mom2Dogs — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:24:48 GMT

@cjm61 So sorry for you loss. Like most families we could not wait for that baby to get here...then tragedy.

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ManyMeows — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:41:42 GMT

It's a kinder, gentler term that brings some degree of comfort.

Stillborn sounds harsh and almost cruel when talking about a precious child who never had a chance to take his or her first breath. You've got to ease the heartbreak in every possible way. The parents will live with this sadness for the rest of their lives.

"It is so soon that I am done for, I wonder what I was ever begun for?"

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chrystaltree — Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:42:18 GMT

I believe it's an old term for stillborn.

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lynnie61 — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 01:13:32 GMT

@Mom2Dogs @cjm61 Very sorry for both of your losses. I cannot even imagine. Awaiting the sweet babies.

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Mom2Dogs — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 01:43:23 GMT

@lynnie61 Just to clarify the baby was not mine but my older sister's..we were all so excited....

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lynnie61 — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 01:46:55 GMT

@Mom2Dogs Heartbreaking for any family. 😢

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Luvsmyfam — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 01:58:38 GMT

@Mom2Dogs I don't think I've ever heard it put that way.Terribly sad time for parents

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Sage04 — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 19:09:52 GMT

This happened to a very close friend of mine just a few months ago. Everything seemed fine up to the 9th month.

We don't talk about it so I never asked what happened. I was told by the husband that the baby "did not make it".

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Sage04 — Thu, 20 Jul 2023 19:12:38 GMT

I remember growing up when this happened, folks would say the baby "died at birth", then it was "still birth" "still born" but I prefer "born asleep". Any child would understand that better.

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Twins Mom — Sat, 22 Jul 2023 03:27:17 GMT

I think this is a lovely description to soften the heartbreak, however I might avoid using it around or with children. It might frighten going to bed, asleep for them.

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Mindy D — Mon, 24 Jul 2023 18:32:10 GMT

Is it common to put this kind of notice in the newspaper?

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Mom2Dogs — Mon, 24 Jul 2023 20:06:54 GMT

@Mindy D Yes.

I live in a small community and no longer take a large newspaper but almost all in the area that pass away have a write up in the paper (not free anymore - the family pays per inch for the write up). The write up also gives the names of the remaining family as well as the service information.

Sometimes the manner of death is revealed other times not.

Is this not the norm for most areas?

@Mindy D wrote:
Is it common to put this kind of notice in the newspaper?

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NYCLatinaMe — Tue, 25 Jul 2023 20:48:57 GMT

@Mindy D wrote:
Is it common to put this kind of notice in the newspaper?

It used to be common. I don't see it anymore. Newspapers have cut back a lot. Now it seems the funerary home provides an in memoriam webpage.

@cjm61 So sorry for your loss. Thanks for sharing your painful story. We all learn.

@Mom2Dogs Sorry for your loss as well.