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What do you think?

CherryHugs — Tue, 09 May 2023 20:15:36 GMT

One friend wants to post an older pic of her Mom that passed away 10 years ago on her facebook, on Mothers day.

She asked me if it would be a not nice thing to do since her Dad is remarried to a wonderful lady. Or if I thought it was ok.

I told her that it is a pic of her own Mom and I feel it is totally fine to post it.

She doesnt want to offend anyone. Her kids are on FB but her Dads wife is not on FB.

Does anyone agree or disagree?

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spumoni99 — Tue, 09 May 2023 20:15:20 GMT

I agree its fine.

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KittySoftPaws — Tue, 09 May 2023 20:18:58 GMT

@CherryHugs I think it's not only perfectly fine, but a wonderful tribute to her Mother. Her Dad remarrying has nothing to do with it. It's her Mother and always will be and that's between the two of them. I was raised with good manners and consider myself kind and considerate, but the older I get, the less I really care about what other people think. Life is too short, post the tribute and do your heart some good.

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We rescue cats — Tue, 09 May 2023 20:19:29 GMT

That is absolutely fine, and touching and I bet her dad's wife would not but distressed by it even if she were on FB.

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I am still oxox — Tue, 09 May 2023 20:22:58 GMT

I have posted my mothers childhood photo every year and never get push back,

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KaySD — Tue, 09 May 2023 20:47:54 GMT

It sounds like you are trying to be a caring friend. Good for you. But my personal take is that such a decision needs to be made by your friend without reference to her friends' opinions. She hasn't said why she wants to post this pic enough to feel worried it's not a good idea. Only she can answer that. If it's what her dad with think, he's the only one who can answer that.

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spiderw — Tue, 09 May 2023 21:51:17 GMT

I do not see a problem with honoring her mother on Facebook for Mother's Day. It is a personal and emotional decision and remembering one who has passed is a sign of love and cherished memories.

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threecees — Tue, 09 May 2023 22:05:48 GMT

Tell her to do it.

She is showing love for her Mother and wants to share it.

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Chessa35 — Tue, 09 May 2023 22:10:11 GMT

It's Mother's Day , not Stepmothers day , so of course it's fine .

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phoenixbrd — Tue, 09 May 2023 22:20:56 GMT

I don't post any pictures on FB....but her mom has transitioned and I think this gesture is kind and thoughtful.

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Group 5 minus 1 — Tue, 09 May 2023 22:24:01 GMT

Bad idea!!

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GenXmuse — Tue, 09 May 2023 22:35:05 GMT

I guess I'm not seeing as to why this is a problem. If it is, the thats on her father and stepmother for being so petty that she has to second guess honoring her mother on Mother's Day.

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Goldengate8361 — Tue, 09 May 2023 22:48:03 GMT

Of course, it's perfectly ok!

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hckynutjohn — Tue, 09 May 2023 23:15:51 GMT

@CherryHugs

I would think her dad knows who she is by this stage of their lives.

If she wants to post a picture of her deceased mother, on Mothers Day! For me, she does not need anyone's permission to do so.

As I said, her dad should know who she is, and understand. If not? Sad!

hckynut 🇺🇸

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Goodie2shoes — Tue, 09 May 2023 23:24:46 GMT

A loving tribute to her mom is absolutely fine ! I will be posting a picture of my late mom on my FB page as well.

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Wiscfan3 — Wed, 10 May 2023 00:00:41 GMT

It's a loving and fine thing to do in remembrance of her mom. I have done it myself some years. Mother's Day is difficult for many of us who have lost our moms, and for many others who have lost children. Each person needs to celebrate and remember in what ever way is best for them.

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CherryHugs — Wed, 10 May 2023 01:09:19 GMT

My friend had posted an older picture of her Dad when he was young and very good looking. Her Mom when she was younger was very pretty.

The friend had said she was thinking of posting her Moms pic but thought she would wait, and post it on Mothers day as a tribute.

She asked what I thought and I said well I think it is fine and no one in the step family should be offended, it is her own beloved Mom.

And she will always be and I said to her it should be her decision but she still wanted my thoughts.

I appreciate all of your comments in this. I felt I was right but I guess then I wanted to be sure lol.

Re: What do you think?

CherryHugs — Wed, 10 May 2023 01:09:48 GMT

@Group 5 minus 1 Please explain

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JeanLouiseFinch — Wed, 10 May 2023 01:37:24 GMT

It's fine.

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ECBG — Wed, 10 May 2023 01:49:29 GMT

The posting is mostly for her own benefit. Friends respond better to a flower bouquet with "I Love you Mom:" and frame a picture for herself.