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Lesson On How To Read People

Foxxee — Sun, 15 Jan 2023 23:06:28 GMT

Lesson On How To Read People

rockyrose1 — Sun, 15 Jan 2023 23:32:33 GMT

Foxxee, thank you for sharing.

"Take a long hard look and see

what they show you the first time.

That's who they are. Believe it."

Though, I think many of us would like to see the best in people.

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phoenixbrd — Sun, 15 Jan 2023 23:56:57 GMT

@Foxxee I always appreciate your posts. I think often what people see in others tells me a lot about themselves.

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ECBG — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 00:01:52 GMT

In a few instances that may be true, but until you see a person dealing with all of life's "ups and downs" you don't really know who a person is.

Many first dates go well then a few weeks or months later "tank"!

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KittySoftPaws — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 00:17:18 GMT

Very true, and you can see someone's true character in the way they treat people in the service industry.

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qualitygal — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 09:49:07 GMT

There are a few people, who I'd call "deep" and it takes a while to see the patterns of how they behave, what they say, and other small things that allow you to put together how they behave and prefer to be treated. Slow, gentle hands and a good listener is needed. JMHO

I understand what the original post is about though. I do agree.

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AngelPuppy1 — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 11:06:07 GMT

Thank you! I think that's very good. I know I have been guilty of seeing what I want to see instead of what is really there. And taking a long time to finally realize it! I believe in giving people the benefit of the doubt and giving many chances, but at some point, you have to accept the reality and move on......

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Nataliesgramma — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 11:30:25 GMT

I always thought that you can find out alot about someone if you travel with them or have them put Christmas lights on a tree....LOL

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Shanus — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 14:59:58 GMT

I have had a friend for an unusually long over 50 yrs....pregnant together with our oldests.

At first she seemed more superficial and didn't open up about feelings, etc. As friendship progressed, she felt more comfortable getting deeper.

First impressions may not be accurate. Take time before judgements.

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scrapperlisa — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 15:09:19 GMT

Yes! My 23 yr old son son recently had a job interview, and the boss held it at a Starbucks. My son's coffee order got messed up and he was patient and kind with the barista. He got the job! The boss told him later that she held the interview there because she used to work as a server, and it shows a lot about a person how they treat servers, and she only wanted to hire smart AND NICE people.

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Jaspersmom — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 16:20:38 GMT

I don't know who originated the saying, but Maya Angelou always said, "When people show you who they are, believe them." Oh yeah.

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paixmcdao — Mon, 16 Jan 2023 16:58:15 GMT

"When people show you who they are, believe them the first time." -Maya Angelou

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candys mine — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 01:17:48 GMT

@Shanus That's the point. People make an effort to behave well at the first meeting. First impressions and all.

It's when they get used to you that they let slip "If they have the tendancey to do so" with their true behaviours. It's hardly evey a one time slip.

The first time someone SHOWS You Who they REALLY are Believe them.

Truely words to stay alive by.

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catwhisperer — Thu, 19 Jan 2023 15:13:23 GMT

@Foxxee ....thank you. You have no idea how much I needed that wake up call today. I have been in denial way too long.

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RedTop — Sun, 22 Jan 2023 00:10:27 GMT

@Kachina624

Just wanted to say how often we think alike!

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Pixie12 — Mon, 23 Jan 2023 14:27:45 GMT

You can also learn a lot about someone by how they treat animals. When I was first started dating my husband he was giving his Shepard Tippy a bath. He was so gentle with her, making sure the water temperature was right, lowering Tippy into the tub. I thought he was one special guy.