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Would you get married again?

PuppyLoverBob666 — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:22:05 GMT

The title says it all: if you were to become widowed or lose your s/o, partner, etc., would you want to do it again? I've been married for 40+ years and I think I probably would not--unless lightning strikes :-)

I asked my husband and he said pretty much the same thing. Adjusting to someone new after all this time would be awfully hard. I've also told him that if he falls in love and wants to get married, don't do it (or get an iron-clad pre-nup). I don't want someone else to possibly get her hands on what I want to leave to my family. I'd rather he live in sin than have some hussy try to marry him for his money and "sruff".

Re: Would you get married again?

luvmybeetle — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:32:48 GMT

No I woud not get married again. I remarried my second husband and I should not have done that. But you are very cynical about other women. Not every second wife is a hussy after the man's money or possessions. My children will inherit everything I own when I die. I don't think they care who gets it. I taught them not to be materialistic.

Re: Would you get married again?

4kitties — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:39:35 GMT

I would never remarry. I have been happily married for 44 years and could never find anyone else as perfect for me than Mr 4kitties.

If he were gone, I would have absolutely no reason to remarry. I would never want to complicate my estate nor do I have any desire to live with some other man.

Re: Would you get married again?

DREAMON — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:42:57 GMT

No...I am beyond having children, have children and grandchildren of my own, have a great husband who is a great father, and can't picture myself ever marring again.

If I were young and wanted more children I would consider it.

My husband says the same. He sees no reason for it.

Re: Would you get married again?

meallen616 — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:44:30 GMT

Re: Would you get married again?

RedTop — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 19:55:15 GMT

NO.

I won't be a nurse or a purse. I won't put up with anyone else's BS. I would have no tolerance for someone else's drama with adult siblings, children or grandchildren.

I absolutely would not let another man live in my home! I have always had and enjoyed my loner personality, and know I married the only man God put before me, who truly understands me.

Re: Would you get married again?

CatsyCline — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:47:52 GMT

A co-worker once said she only took out enough life insurance to cover her funeral expenses. (her children were long married and on their own

She didnt want her husband living large remarried to a younger 2nd wife.

no i personally would not remarry . no no no !

Re: Would you get married again?

annie315 — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:50:46 GMT

Absolutely not. Having lived alone for the past decade or so, I have come to the realization that I am gloriously free and happy...not lonely, but free. There is no way I can be a"wife" again. I had a good marriage. This is not to say I would reject a relationship..but separate households and separate lives.

Re: Would you get married again?

DrakesMomma — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 16:58:59 GMT

I wouldn't but perhaps I'd look for a pool-boy. We don't have a pool. No space for one.

I'm sure my husband would remarry. Even though he doesn't think so, he needs people. I love my husband. I would want him to be happy and if a hussy would make him happy I'm all for it.

Re: Would you get married again?

mspatmac — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:02:12 GMT

NOPE and didn't

@annie315 I feel the same as you

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ECBG — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:03:28 GMT

No. I don't want to be on uncertain ground.

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Imaoldhippie — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:03:57 GMT

Nope!

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catter70 — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:11:27 GMT

I divorced back in the mid eighties and said never again. Too bad I didn't listen to myself. Did it again after living with #2 for 6 years. Within 2 years it was a done deal. I've been alone since 1995. That was the end for me.

Re: Would you get married again?

BoopOMatic — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:22:13 GMT

Most men will remarry, as they need companionship.

Would I? Never say never, but I doubt it.

I would certainly want to protect myself financially, at this point.

Truthfully, I'd probably appreciate a companion with separate households....

Re: Would you get married again?

gidgetgh — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:53:58 GMT

I lost my husband almost 2 years ago. For almost all that time, my answer was a firm no.

But I have kind of changed my feelings on that in the last few months. Evolving feelings, working through the grief, I guess. I am "only" 66 years old. I think I would really love to be in a relationship again, if I found the right person. I really miss having someone to share my life with. Not just anyone. They would have to be really special, but I am open to the idea of a new relationship and we'd have to see if it went beyond casual relationship.

Re: Would you get married again?

Tinkrbl44 — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:27:45 GMT

@CatsyCline wrote:
A co-worker once said she only took out enough life insurance to cover her funeral expenses. (her children were long married and on their own
.
She didnt want her husband living large remarried to a younger 2nd wife.

no i personally would not remarry . no no no !

@CatsyCline

Wow! Talk about a control freak .... trying to control her husband from her grave? I hope she was making a joke.

Re: Would you get married again?

Tinkrbl44 — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:31:40 GMT

When most people marry in their 20's, they are learning about each other, and life, as they go along. New habits and preferences are created. Often, children come along and creating stability is important for the kids.

When people marry later in life, they have a lot of baggage and can be "set in their ways". We all have baggage. I think it's harder to develop a deep relationship later in life ... but certainly NOT impossible.

Re: Would you get married again?

violann — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:32:25 GMT

Yes, as long as I could marry the same man TWICE!

Re: Would you get married again?

CrazyKittyLvr2 — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:35:17 GMT

Absolutely NO. We made to 50 years and 2 months when he died suddenly. That was 3 years ago the end of May.

I said never then and I still say never.

He was a really good and kind man, a great father. I don't elieve in lightning striking twice. Too many creeps walking around. Also, dating at nearly 72, no thank you.

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On It — Thu, 23 Jun 2022 17:40:35 GMT

No Way! I do not have the time or energy to adjust to a new person in my life. I am an introvert. I much prefer my own company to that of others.

I have always thought my husband would outlive me. He says he is not interested in having a new person in his life either. He is more social than I, so I guess time will sort it out for us/him.