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Among Friends

Karnerblue — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 05:12:14 GMT

Sometimes I'm not so sure I am. Am I in the wrong place or are they.

Re: Among Friends

ECBG — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 05:54:54 GMT

If you're refering to your other post hon, with the thousands on this board ideas often vary.

Hope you have a peaceful night.

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dooBdoo — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 18:58:50 GMT

"20 Things I Give Myself Permission To Do...

1. I give myself permission to laugh.
2. I give myself permission to play.
3. I give myself permission to rest.
4. I give myself permission to make mistakes.
5. I give myself permission to simply say “No” to things that drain me.
6. I give myself permission to say “Yes” to what I want to do.
7. I give myself permission to dream and then pursue those dreams.
8. I give myself permission to be alone sometimes.
9. I give myself permission to ask for what I want.
10. I give myself permission to be who and what I am.
11. I give myself permission to design my own way, my own life.
12. I give myself permission to try and try again.
13. I give myself permission to hurt, to be angry, to be upset.
14. I give myself permission to forgive, move on, not forget, but let go.
15. I give myself permission to ask for help and to rely on and need others.
16. I give myself permission to ignore naysayers and negative or cruel people. 
17. I give myself permission to care more about what I think, and less about what others think.
18. I give myself permission to fully adore and love myself just as I am.
19. I give myself permission to embrace my flaws and let them be part of my quirky self.
20. I give myself permission to break the rules and create my way."

(unknown source)

Re: Among Friends

butterfly123 — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 12:42:28 GMT

@Karnerblue wrote:
Sometimes I'm not so sure I am. Am I in the wrong place or are they.

@Karnerblue You're right where you need to be. I agree with @dooBdoo @ECBG and what they posted. Be well my friend and say no to pessimism!

Re: Among Friends

cotton4me — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 13:29:59 GMT

You have many friends here. Some people will never understand your journey. Try to ignore them.

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proudlyfromNJ — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 14:03:42 GMT

@cotton4me wrote:
You have many friends here. Some people will never understand your journey. Try to ignore them.

Cottonball is right. Try and ignore the nasty ones.

Re: Among Friends

butterfly123 — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 16:49:13 GMT

@Karnerblue

I was concerned for you and if I am looking at the post that you started correctly I wanted to add

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

Have you ever noticed on the boards that some of the posters are watching QVC and notice the smallest details that I myself have to go back and look at later. Example: I saw the model wearing a certain blouse and noticed that there were strings hanging from the hem, or for instance the question of what shirt was a host wearing and where can a poster find it, and than that person is able to describe the shirt in exact detail.

IMHO I wonder if some able to see or are more focused on the details and can indeed see beauty and meaning in a whole different way than others? I hope this makes sense as I was trying to be as concise as possible. Be well!

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bebe777 — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 20:22:41 GMT

@Karnerblue, I opened up the other thread in passing but felt it was best not to follow it. My heart did go out to you though. *s*

I agree with what everyone else in this thread has already said. -- The QVC forums are huge and so folks are coming here for all sorts of reasons, and from all sorts of perspectives. I think that's just the nature of MBs (though I think the wenners are generally good group of folks).

My hope for you is that you can receive the best of the MBs care and concern, and just let the rest of the energy go through you and on its way to where it is supposed to go.

I hope you have a great weekend.

-- bebe

Re: Among Friends

3cupcakes — Fri, 29 Jan 2016 20:33:27 GMT

@dooBdoo Your "20 Things" post is wonderful! i'm going print it & it's going on the fridge. thanks so much for sharing.

@Karnerblue hi, karner, hang in there, buddy; it seems that in just life in general, everyone has a lot to say about everything. tho no one says we have to agree w/all of it or any of it.

so we try to roll w/it....i admit some weeks i feel like a firestone tire i'm rolling w/it so much! )

3cupcakes

Re: Among Friends

Zhills — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 01:01:23 GMT

People do not listen to understand, only to reply!

Many of us understand your situation and why you don't just pull up and leave. There are many entrapments that aren't always about money. Take care of yourself, YOU are important!

Re: Among Friends

Karnerblue — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 03:25:49 GMT

I'd like to share this and hopefully learn to live by it.

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ANewHue — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 03:59:37 GMT

@Karnerblue I get your drift . i think it's left over from the full moon if you know what I mean. You know what they say about opinions. What irks me is when things are manipulated so they can have their voices heard. If that makes any sense.

Re: Among Friends

caninefitchi — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 04:10:39 GMT

@Karnerblue wrote:
Sometimes I'm not so sure I am. Am I in the wrong place or are they.

You have a lot of friends here. Some lippy ones joined in.

Caught your other thread. I've lived some parts of that, it's not a pretty way to live. I'm not telling you anything you don't know.

Plaid Pants was not trying to hurt you. She sounds raw and was most likely trying to give you a warning. I'd be inclined to agree with her. It was in my case. If someone gets a rise out of hurting you, what better way to do that by then going after that which you love (and can't speak)? Maybe it's not the case and I hope not for you. Just file the info in the back of your brain for future use.

Just be careful, please. You've gotten lots of thoughtful advice. Consider some of that advice.

Re: Among Friends

Karnerblue — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 04:53:06 GMT

@ANewHue that makes perfect sense.

The thing that bothers me (and this has nothing to do with a difference of opinion or seeking advice), is that I come to the topic "among friends" expecting to find friendly individuals and I feel like I am a sitting target for the not-so-friendly to pounce on you with their negativity. They seem to come to that one forum with bad intention.

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ANewHue — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 05:22:42 GMT

@Karnerblue I've been around for awhile and there were times in the beginning that I was bait because I spoke my thoughts especially with certain product lines. I was green and they took full advantage. The climate around some of the MB's lately has been strange (like I said full moon). Some names aren't even familiar. I had similar experience as you. There are friends I've met here that share similar interests that we enjoy discussing and have fun with, But then there are trolls that Sit behind their computers and get amused when they start trouble. Btw, they are really miserable and get great joy out of spreading misery. Don't take it too seriously is all I can say, we have enough in real life . I kind of feel sorry for them.

Sometimes you just have to get away from it for awhile.

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Hooty — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 17:11:06 GMT

@Karnerblue wrote:
Sometimes I'm not so sure I am. Am I in the wrong place or are they.

@Karnerblue, you are not the only one that feels like this about this section of the forums, felt this way too many times!

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Karnerblue — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 19:03:11 GMT

@Hooty, I think the best way I can try to look at it is, the good friends I've made certainly outweigh the negative members we have to endure. Lately I find myself thinking of all the lovely people I've come to know on the MBs. I would not trade them for the world. I'm pretty much a loner and don't have any really close friends to talk with. I often wonder why I'm like that. I just don't relate to a lot of people. Having this circle of special people I've come to know is changing the way I look at many things in my life. I can really feel the trust I have for many ... you all know who you are!!!

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dooBdoo — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 19:13:47 GMT

Thanks for the comments about my post. I think it's helpful for all of us to remember positive self-talk.

Those who find joy and get their kicks from posting inflammatory or negative comments only shed light on their own character and they really don't inform us about their target at all. When someone needs to resort to personal attacks, they've just told us they have nothing to contribute (hence my signature quote.) It's not clever, and it's not admirable, to show up on threads and try to mock or demean someone else -- it's easy and immature, and fortunately most people left these tactics on the playground when they moved from childhood to adulthood. I try to remember the adage, "hurt (adjective) people hurt (verb) people." People who have been hurt sometimes have a tendency to strike out at others. So, while I'll never condone hurtful comments or attempts to cause upset, I feel sorry for those who do it.

Re: Among Friends

butterfly123 — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 19:47:29 GMT

@Karnerblue

Sorry, I read the wrong post and now I figured out which post all the ugliness is coming from.

Yes you do belong right here!

True story....I used to read the topics and replies for a couple of years before "I joined the community" and saw that there are some very nice, kind and intelligent people on here that are very helpful to everyone. I also noticed some that were not and grouped together. I decided I wouldn't let those who are mean or unkind get to me in their replies. That being said I simply skip over those replies and give hearts to those with kindness and love in their hearts! God Bless and I am praying for you!

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Moonchilde — Sat, 30 Jan 2016 19:49:16 GMT

@Karnerblue wrote:
@ANewHue that makes perfect sense.

The thing that bothers me (and this has nothing to do with a difference of opinion or seeking advice), is that I come to the topic "among friends" expecting to find friendly individuals and I feel like I am a sitting target for the not-so-friendly to pounce on you with their negativity. They seem to come to that one forum with bad intention.

Honestly? Among Friends is the "gentle" forum. Most of the pouncing occurs on Community Chat. Even the moderators seem to operate that way - more dissention and rudeness is routinely allowed there vs. Among Friends, where more deliberately rude posts are zapped pretty quickly.

I understand that blunt, harsh-sounding posts can sound as if they are attacking and being deliberately mean, but they aren't necessarily meant that way - some few are (the usual suspects) and some aren't.

Some people (have definitely experienced this in real life/in person) feel that they have to shout at/browbeat others to get their point across/to get you to do what they tell you/order you to do. And for some, it always comes in the form of shouted, fist-on-table ORDERS, not sympathy or suggestions. It's the (sometimes only) way they know to communicate. They don't really see how they come across, but at least some of them, I believe, *would* care if they knew.

Yes, of course, there are people who routinely and consistently anywhere and everywhere (but most often in CC) post with the sole purpose of insulting and being as rude as they can get away with - EVERY post, EVERY time. Those people are simply to be ignored, period. They are a forum joke. Others are like most people - they have strong feelings about some things, about other things/most things, not so much.

Overall, though, I don't think it's truly personal. There are some who trawl the forums looking for any topic or poster that will give them the tiniest opening, and take it. I don't think the topic matters, they just look for threads where they can attack. So if that helps - it isn't "you", per se, it's the opportunity they perceive in certain posts. Ugly yes, but true.