topic Re: Dating in Among Friends

Dating

Luvsmyfam — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 00:57:50 GMT

tomorrow is my birthday.plans were to celebrate with my loving parents and a man friend.now things have changed due to my mother feeling under the weather.i passed this info along to my friend.he then said ok,you and I can go out.is this considered a date?I haven't been on one for so many years,not even sure how to act!little nervous about this q friends.any suggestions?

Re: Dating

Lucky Charm — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:03:59 GMT

I would consider it a date. Not sure what that means to you. To me, it would be going out and being treated to a nice dinner for my birthday. Perhaps you could go back to your place and have dessert? That would be a date to me. It's been well over 4 decades since I dated anyone other than my husband.....

Re: Dating

Lucky Charm — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:04:38 GMT

And happy birthday!

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manny2 — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:08:46 GMT

It depends on what you mean by friend. What is your relationship with him? Is he simply a friend that happens to be male? Is it a friends with benefits undefined? We need a little more information.

Re: Dating

Luvsmyfam — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:09:24 GMT

@Lucky Charm that's the problem.i used to be married for almost 40 yrs.i try not to compare ppl to my ex,but it just happens

Re: Dating

Luvsmyfam — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:11:10 GMT

@manny2 how do I put this?no!not friends with bennies

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Mz iMac — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:14:15 GMT

Unless you provide more info as another posted fonted the answer to your question is .........

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manny2 — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:15:57 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
@manny2 how do I put this?no!not friends with bennies

@Luvsmyfam lol I'm just trying to get the full picture. No judgement here. I don't know if I would consider it a date, or just an evening out with a friend. Either way have a Happy Birthday!

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RedTop — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:17:21 GMT

I personally would just consider it a birthday celebration with a male friend.

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Mom2Dogs — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:19:10 GMT

To me there is a difference between a friend and a 'friend you are interested in'...If this is just a friend, that's all it is, dinner out with a friend.

Re: Dating

Lucky Charm — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:20:33 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
@manny2 how do I put this?no!not friends with bennies

Maybe the two of you could still go out to dinner, have a drink or two at your place or his, if you've known him well enough.

I'd establish boundries if it was someone I wanted to be friends with and in that case, he could treat me on my birthday and I would reciprocate on his or some other time. But I would get that out there ahead of time. So there's no guessing on his part.

I've never been on a blind date and wouldn't go out with someone who I had absolutely no desire to date. I can tell from the get go. Can't even explain that, but that's the way it is with me....

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Luvsmyfam — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:22:30 GMT

@manny2 thank you!

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KBEANS — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:24:07 GMT

Honestly, I would think the visiting your parents is a more intimate thing then going out. I mean when I brought a male "friend" home it was someone who I had feelings for and was ready to introduce him...but then again I was 18. 😝

Good Luck on your date...if you want it to be one. 🤫 I might ask him his thought on this.

Re: Dating

Sage04 — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:25:54 GMT

@Luvsmyfam go out and enjoy yourself. Of course it's a date, but a date with a friend. It's great that he still wants to take you out.

We'll be waiting for "details".

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!

Re: Dating

Luvsmyfam — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:26:29 GMT

@Mom2Dogs I would like very much to be more than friends. I've been divorced for 11 yrs.it gets very lonely day after day being by myself.he is divorced also with 2 grown kids.now,did I mention he is 15 yrs younger than myself?sometimes I get the impression,he is a player.maybe I should bow out of this .yikes,I'm so confused

Re: Dating

Luvsmyfam — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:31:20 GMT

@Lucky Charm I would have much more confidence if I was a sz 2 and a beauty queen.heck,I am going to be uneasy eating in front of him.ok,I'll quit whinning

Re: Dating

Sage04 — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:32:52 GMT

@KBEANS wrote:
Honestly, I would think the visiting your parents is a more intimate thing then going out. I mean when I brought a male "friend" home it was someone who I had feelings for and was ready to introduce him...but then again I was 18. 😝

Good Luck on your date...if you want it to be one. 🤫 I might ask him his thought on this.

@KBEANS in @Luvsmyfam Post she said her parents were planing to go with them but now it would be just the two them.

It seems as if he is more of a family friend.

Re: Dating

Lucky Charm — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:36:51 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
@Lucky Charm I would have much more confidence if I was a sz 2 and a beauty queen.heck,I am going to be uneasy eating in front of him.ok,I'll quit whinning

It sounds like you kinda like this guy.

I'd wear an outfit that made me look the slimmest and spend extra time on my hair and makeup.

He suggested the two of you still go out, so heck--go for it!

ETA: Don't whine or complain or say anything negative about yourself in conversation! I saved that till after we were married....lollolol

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Sage04 — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:35:47 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
@Mom2Dogs I would like very much to be more than friends. I've been divorced for 11 yrs.it gets very lonely day after day being by myself.he is divorced also with 2 grown kids.now,did I mention he is 15 yrs younger than myself?sometimes I get the impression,he is a player.maybe I should bow out of this .yikes,I'm so confused

@Luvsmyfam oh my goodness!! Isn't that the same guy you mentioned sometime ago. Aha, you like him, you like him lol.

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Sooner — Fri, 15 Apr 2022 01:38:28 GMT

@Luvsmyfam I went to a non-date with a friend about 40 years ago. We're still married!

We had been friends a long time--so you never know. But in your situation, think of some funny things for topics. Laugh and don't worry about eating--we all eat and we all drop things occasionally so be able to laugh should the lettuce fly off on it's own! :womanvery-happy

And have answers ready that you are comfortable with should the subject of "is this a date" come up--do you want it to be?