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What do you think?

Luvsmyfam — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 22:02:59 GMT

what does everyone think of this? I asked my ex husband if he would come over and put plastic on my picture window.he actually agreed for Sunday afternoon.so,do you think I should feed him lunch for his generosity?he is also invited christmas day to my house along with our daughter and grandchildren.

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Junebug54 — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 22:27:47 GMT

It appears that you have a good relationship with him. I would say do whatever makes you feel comfortable.

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sunshine45 — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 22:31:20 GMT

he is doing a favor for you.

i would definitely offer him some lunch.....or at the very least a cup of coffee, tea, or a cocktail.

glad to see someone else have a good relationship with their ex.

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PickyPicky3 — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 22:34:20 GMT

If he's remarried or living with someone I'd say pay him. If he's living alone, send him home with some good homecooked food which I'm sure he misses.

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Love my grandkids — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 22:46:30 GMT

@Luvsmyfam Sure, why not? Even if he is remarried or "involved", it's a nice way to say thanks. A nice sandwich maybe, some coffee or a soft drink and a bit of dessert? Sounds reasonable!

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Luvsmyfam — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 23:16:01 GMT

Yes,our daughter and 1 grandson lives with my ex.i think I will make a small crockpot of sloppy joes along with chips.no,he is not married.personally glad for that

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Bhvbum — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 23:18:17 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
Yes,our daughter and 1 grandson lives with my ex.i think I will make a small crockpot of sloppy joes along with chips.no,he is not married.personally glad for that

He's also an adult, he can politely say no thank you. But the gesture would be kind.

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mamaslittlepotato — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 23:19:26 GMT

That sounds like a nice lunch to show your appreciation

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Love my grandkids — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 23:22:59 GMT

@Luvsmyfam Yum, I love sloppy joes! sounds very nice.

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rms1954 — Thu, 09 Dec 2021 23:31:39 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
what does everyone think of this? I asked my ex husband if he would come over and put plastic on my picture window.he actually agreed for Sunday afternoon.so,do you think I should feed him lunch for his generosity?he is also invited christmas day to my house along with our daughter and grandchildren.

Doesn't matter what "everyone" thinks. If you feel compelled to thank him with lunch, up to you. No need to get approval.

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DottieBlue — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 00:03:01 GMT

sherrikay:

I think offering him lunch would be a very nice gesture to say thanks.

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Lucky Charm — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 02:00:23 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
Yes,our daughter and 1 grandson lives with my ex.i think I will make a small crockpot of sloppy joes along with chips.no,he is not married.personally glad for that

Oooh, I'd love to know why you say that. (You don't need to answer.)

But I met a woman at a wedding this weekend and she told me all these horrible stories about her ex. She went on and on. I was mortified.

Then she said she would marry him again in a heartbeat, if she could. I found out later this week, he is deceased.

ETA: him again

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Love my grandkids — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 00:56:32 GMT

@rms1954 Oh good grief. Sometimes people just want to get some feedback, nothing wrong with that/ You've posted a lot about your situation so I can understand why you react as you do when people ask for advice.

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Sooner — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 01:11:33 GMT

@Luvsmyfam wrote:
what does everyone think of this? I asked my ex husband if he would come over and put plastic on my picture window.he actually agreed for Sunday afternoon.so,do you think I should feed him lunch for his generosity?he is also invited christmas day to my house along with our daughter and grandchildren.

@Luvsmyfam I would say "Thank you. I really appreciate it." and leave it at that.

Anything else seems not necessary to me and might be mis-interpreted by others. He is coming for Christmas. That's enough.

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Kachina624 — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 01:34:35 GMT

Since he's doing a chore for you which you apparently can't do, I think the least you can do is give him lunch.

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BoopOMatic — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 02:07:42 GMT

I'm surprised anyone would ask this question regarding someone they were supposedly married to. Knowing someone so intimately, why would one need advice on how to handle something so mundane?

Nothing wrong with asking, just strikes me as odd....

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rms1954 — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 02:48:54 GMT

@Love my grandkids wrote:
@rms1954 Oh good grief. Sometimes people just want to get some feedback, nothing wrong with that/ You've posted a lot about your situation so I can understand why you react as you do when people ask for advice.

I gave my feedback as others did. It's too bad you interpreted it differently. Just tried to instill her confidence and feel secure in them. You're response was unkind. I posted in the past about my situation but I don't ask for advice. I don't think you know or understand me at all.

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decaf — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 06:18:17 GMT

@Luvsmyfam Definitely, be thoughtful, you never know when you might need another favor from him !

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qualitygal — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 11:41:41 GMT

Do what your head tells you to do. You know best.

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depglass — Fri, 10 Dec 2021 15:23:32 GMT

Certainly.