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Bridal Shower Registry

jubilant — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 12:45:25 GMT

I guess I must be way out of the loop but could someone tell me when bridal shower registry came into being? I, of course, am familiar with wedding registries but it's been a long time since I have been to a bridal shower and "back then" I never heard of having both a wedding registry and a bridal registry.

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Meowingkitty — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 12:47:19 GMT

Probably just another money or gift grab.

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LindaSal — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 12:49:54 GMT

Not sure when it came to be exactly but it's been around for awhile. Many showers I've been to in the past 15-20 years have always had a registry for the bride's shower. Same with baby showers. I guess it's a good idea, this way you can get a gift that was put on a list by the recipient and more than likely the gift doesn't get returned!

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4kitties — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 12:55:46 GMT

I really like the registries. It helps me pick a gift that someone truly wants and helps avoid duplicate gifts.

They are optional of course and the gift giver still may give any gift they choose.

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proudlyfromNJ — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 12:56:46 GMT

Both my Godchild and her sister were married about fifteen or more years ago. They both had a Shower Registry. There was no Wedding Registry as we give money here.

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Desertdi — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 13:12:58 GMT

From Wiki:

The Chicago-founded department store Marshall Field's first instituted the practice of a bridal registry in 1924 at its Marshall Field and Company Building as a means for the engaged couple to indicate chosen china, silver, and crystal patterns to family and friends. US-based Target stores pioneered the electronic self-service gift registry in 1993, using a service provided by The Gift Certificate Center of Minneapolis.[1] William J. Veeneman (the founder and CEO of The Gift Certificate Center) and others invented and subsequently patented the technology.[2]

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mom2four0418 — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 14:16:59 GMT

@Meowingkitty wrote:
Probably just another money or gift grab.

So you don't bring a present to the bridal shower?

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lgfan — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 14:55:35 GMT

"So you don't bring a present to the bridal shower?"

If I bring a present to the bridal shower I definately will not bring a present to the wedding. From what I understand you bring a gift to one or the other unless of course you want to split the gift and bring a gift to both events.

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mom2four0418 — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 15:06:51 GMT

@lgfan wrote:
"So you don't bring a present to the bridal shower?"

If I bring a present to the bridal shower I definately will not bring a present to the wedding. From what I understand you bring a gift to one or the other unless of course you want to split the gift and bring a gift to both events.

That has not been my experience, but perhaps it is a regional thing.

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luvzchiz — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 15:14:38 GMT

@lgfan wrote:
"So you don't bring a present to the bridal shower?"

If I bring a present to the bridal shower I definately will not bring a present to the wedding. From what I understand you bring a gift to one or the other unless of course you want to split the gift and bring a gift to both events.

I have been to bridal showers and weddings from the east coast to the west coast and north and south. I have always brought a gift to each, which has been my pleasure to do so.

I'd love to know in which region of the country one only gives to only one.

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lgfan — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 15:17:17 GMT

"I have been to bridal showers and weddings from the east coast to the west coast and north and south. I have always brought a gift to each, which has been my pleasure to do so.

I'd love to know in which region of the country one only gives to only one."

I usually give a generous cash gift which covers for both events.

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CelticCrafter — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 15:56:25 GMT

@Meowingkitty wrote:
Probably just another money or gift grab.

@Meowingkitty actually no. Pick a gift for the bridal shower if you have been invited or pick a wedding gift if you prefer not to give cash.

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Allegheny — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 16:00:21 GMT

All these years I thought the terminology was interchangeable, a registry from which a gift could be selected for either the bridal shower or for the wedding.

When invited to a bridal shower I select a gift from the registry; our wedding gift is cash.

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Lipstickdiva — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 16:11:08 GMT

I was married over 30 years ago and bridal shower registeries were around then because I had one. Generally, the bride and groom registery for the shower is also used for the wedding.

The wedding shower and the wedding are 2 different things. I have never heard of attending both and not bringing a gift to both.

If I am invited to a bridal shower, I buy something off the registry. When we attend the wedding, I always give cash. I don't lower the amount of cash because I gave them a shower gift.

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jubilant — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 16:39:17 GMT

Thanks for all the input. I have given several showers for people in the past but that was some years ago. I have always taken a shower gift to give for the bride to open at her shower of my choosing. On the shower invitation they gave the place of her registry. That is the first shower invitation I have ever gotten with a bridal "shower" registry.

We are giving money for the wedding since it is for our Grandson and his future wife. We really like his fiance. She's a sweet thoughtful girl and I was hoping to give her something more personal for a shower but the fact that she's registered makes me think something more useful might be better. They don't live together. My grandson has just moved into an apartment a few short months ago and she still lives at home so they will need about everything. I think, after considering all these posts, I'm leaning toward just going with the registry. I guess personal can come sometime later for a birthday, Christmas or something.

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CelticCrafter — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 17:00:11 GMT

@lgfan wrote:
"I have been to bridal showers and weddings from the east coast to the west coast and north and south. I have always brought a gift to each, which has been my pleasure to do so.
I'd love to know in which region of the country one only gives to only one."

I usually give a generous cash gift which covers for both events.

Kinda of like telling the kid born around Christmas that you've combined their birthday and Christmas gift into one?

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lgfan — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 17:02:18 GMT

"Kinda of like telling the kid born around Christmas that you've combined their birthday and Christmas give into one?"

I don't see anything wrong in combining a gift if it is a generous gift.
What would you rather have a nice shiny bicycle or two cheap gifts of board games and marbles?

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Bri369 — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 17:54:54 GMT

Registries have been around a long time.

I usually choose a gift from the registry for the shower and give a cash gift for the wedding.

I've never heard of only giving one gift for either the shower or the wedding.

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shoptilyadropagain — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 17:51:59 GMT

I'll be called a scrooge for this but, I've never understood the need for a shower (and a gift) plus another gift for the wedding. I remember thinking this way as a kid when me and my mom went to wedding showers and then the wedding. Of course, if I'm invited to a shower and the wedding, I do buy a gift for both. As others have mentioned, registries for showers have been around a long time.

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lgfan — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 17:58:56 GMT

"I'll be called a scrooge for this but, I've never understood the need for a shower (and a gift) plus another gift for the wedding. I remember thinking this way as a kid when me and my mom went to wedding showers and then the wedding."

You are not a scrooge. I was brought up the same way. If there was a bridal shower it was understood that the gift would also cover the wedding. This is why I give a generous cash gift to cover both events. By the way I have never been accused of being cheap in regards to giving only one gift.