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Giving & Receiving Compliments

wilma — Fri, 03 Sep 2021 19:14:07 GMT

Do you give compliments?

I try to give at least one sincere compliment to someone each day. I think most of us like compliments. They can put a spring in your step, a smile on your face, and lift your spirits. 😊

If I am visiting a church I always compliment and thank them for the music when the service is over. I have complimented people I know & strangers on hair and clothes. I will compliment the cook, whether it be family, friends, or the chef at a restaurant. I give compliments to our neighbors on their landscaping & gardens. I have also posted compliments to people on this forum and to others on Twitter. I gave lots of compliments to my students when I was teaching.

Is there anything you get lots of compliments on?

I get lots of compliments on my singing at church and other venues. I also get compliments when I bake and share my mom's homemade cookies. Sometimes people compliment me on my outfits.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Foxxee — Fri, 03 Sep 2021 20:25:42 GMT

Thank you's to me are different than compliments. They may or may not be included with compliments.

I compliment only those I think are deserving. I must think they are very talented, dressed beautifully, do an exceptional job beyond what most others are capable of doing.

I once had a landscaper who had talent above and beyond anyone I had seen. He received compliments from me. It's not easy to find someone who will trim the shrubs, and do the edging exactly the way I want.

Some singers are exceptional, others are good, but not even close.

Some women know themselves so well, they choose colors, styles, that are perfect for them. They get compliments. I won't compliment someone's shirt even if I like it when it doesn't look good on them.

Casual compliments to too many people lack sincerity.

Actually, I don't care if no one compliments me. I know when I've done something well, am wearing an outfit that flatters me.

I do thank people who compliment me, though.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

RetRN — Fri, 03 Sep 2021 20:41:28 GMT

I truly enjoy giving compliments, I believe they are one of the easiest ways to make someone's day. In these difficult times I am always trying to do something that can put a smile on someone elses face. You never know what someone else is dealing with or what kind of news they may have received, so a kind gesture or words may be what helps them get through the day. And it costs nothing.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Desertdi — Sat, 04 Sep 2021 03:47:11 GMT

People STARE and don't say anything. I feel the same way about THEM....

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

ID2 — Sat, 04 Sep 2021 10:22:57 GMT

I try to compliment people, even those I don't know. I know how good I feel when a complete stranger happens to compliment me. It makes my day.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

ECBG — Sat, 04 Sep 2021 11:27:36 GMT

I do give compliments when I feel something is special for any reason.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

wilma — Sat, 04 Sep 2021 17:09:59 GMT

@Foxxee wrote:
Thank you's to me are different than compliments. They may or may not be included with compliments.

@Foxxee
I agree. I also like to thank people for things they do.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Shanus — Sun, 05 Sep 2021 14:05:33 GMT

@Desertdi wrote:
People STARE and don't say anything. I feel the same way about THEM....

@Desertdi Not sure what you mean. People watching?

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Desertdi — Sun, 05 Sep 2021 14:27:23 GMT

@Shanus wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
People STARE and don't say anything. I feel the same way about THEM....
@Desertdi Not sure what you mean. People watching?

@Shanus Nah...just "looking"...might be because I have a lot of ear piercings...ya know...from the '70's

Then again...I wear some outré eyeglass frames...(retro '70's also).

You might as well call me an "aging Hippie".........

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Pixie12 — Sun, 05 Sep 2021 14:59:04 GMT

I will compliment a pretty manicure. Sometimes there's so much detail on on each nail. The receiver always is happy I noticed.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Calcgirl — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 16:30:40 GMT

I believe giving complements and friendly smiles is essential with todays negativity. I do not believe someone has to look or act exceptional in order to receive a complement either, but it should be sincere. i greet at church and when I see a man or lady in a nice shirt, or color, etc, I always tell them so and their faces always brighten up and give a smile. When I am in a store, I also try to be observant of someone who looks a bit stressed: a mom with little kids, an older person who appears to be in pain, someone in line with just a few items, etc and try to say something friendly or offer my spot. It doesnt take much to be nice to others and it may be the only friendly thing that happened to them that day.

I am a retired high school teacher and had a young man who was a loner, never wanting to participate in the small group activies, had hair that stood up 3 ft in the air and wore dark make up arounf his eyes. I did a lot of small group cooperative learning activities and he would want to sit by himself. I would go over and sit down by him smiling and ask if it was okay if I could be his partner because my feet were killing me. He would give that look like I was from another planet but would shake his head okay. Sometimes I could crack into his soul and find out about him. One day towards the end of the year he sat down and layed his head down the entire class. When the bell rang ( this was the last class of the day), I asked him to stay a minute and he did. I put my hand on his back, sat down and talked to him, sharing how painful high school was to me at times and assured him in a short few weeks it was going to get so much better. Afterward, months later I received a letter from him, he was in Iraq in the Army. He thanked me and told me he was planning on killing himself that day and I saved his life with my kindness.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

wilma — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 16:37:49 GMT

@Calcgirl

Thank you for sharing that very touching story.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Greeneyedlady21 — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 16:42:04 GMT

@Calcgirl That's incredible❤

Kindness and compliments go a long way. My life has been difficult for many years now, and sometimes the kindness of strangers helps to keep me going.

I like to give compliments, doesn't cost anything and it's good for the giver and the receiver.

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Ladybug724 — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 18:01:28 GMT

@Desertdi wrote:
@Shanus wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
People STARE and don't say anything. I feel the same way about THEM....
@Desertdi Not sure what you mean. People watching?
@Shanus Nah...just "looking"...might be because I have a lot of ear piercings...ya know...from the '70's

Then again...I wear some outré eyeglass frames...(retro '70's also).

You might as well call me an "aging Hippie".........

@Desertdi I'm trying, but I can't figure out what this has to do with compiments?

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Desertdi — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 18:29:54 GMT

@Ladybug724 wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
@Shanus wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
People STARE and don't say anything. I feel the same way about THEM....
@Desertdi Not sure what you mean. People watching?
@Shanus Nah...just "looking"...might be because I have a lot of ear piercings...ya know...from the '70's

Then again...I wear some outré eyeglass frames...(retro '70's also).

You might as well call me an "aging Hippie".........

@Desertdi I'm trying, but I can't figure out what this has to do with compiments?

@Ladybug724 People don't pay me compliments..... likely because they don't interpret my retro style.....

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Luvsmyfam — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 18:45:39 GMT

I give compliments when deserved.and yes,I like getting them as well

. One thing I will not do,is give a complicate just to make a person feel good.i want it genuine and visa versa

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Ladybug724 — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 22:54:32 GMT

@Desertdi wrote:
@Ladybug724 wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
@Shanus wrote:
@Desertdi wrote:
People STARE and don't say anything. I feel the same way about THEM....
@Desertdi Not sure what you mean. People watching?
@Shanus Nah...just "looking"...might be because I have a lot of ear piercings...ya know...from the '70's

Then again...I wear some outré eyeglass frames...(retro '70's also).

You might as well call me an "aging Hippie".........

@Desertdi I'm trying, but I can't figure out what this has to do with compiments?
@Ladybug724 People don't pay me compliments..... likely because they don't interpret my retro style.....

@Desertdi I'm sorry people don't compliment you.

But they're probably thinking good things about you!

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

hckynut — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 23:12:05 GMT

My feeling on this topic?

"Tis better to give than to receive"!

I could elaborate, but will spare everyone.

=^..^=

hckynut

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

hckynut — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 23:29:02 GMT

@ECBG wrote:
I do give compliments when I feel something is special for any reason.

@ECBG

You outta hear the compliments I give to beginning ice skaters, young or! Nothing picks those, really trying to learn, up(sometimes in actuality) more than a compliment on their improving.

I receive them also, some in question form, "you're how old again"? And who wouldn't like that?

hckynut

Re: Giving & Receiving Compliments

Desertdi — Mon, 06 Sep 2021 23:31:30 GMT

@hckynut wrote:
My feeling on this topic?
"Tis better to give than to receive"!

I could elaborate, but will spare everyone.

=^..^=

hckynut

@hckynut Oh....I get the idea (!!!!) di