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Lately I Feel Afraid To Go To Bed

rms1954 — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 03:16:31 GMT

Because I get the feeling I won't make it through the night. Tonight it's very intense. I was falling asleep in the chair and fighting it.

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Love my grandkids — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 03:20:46 GMT

That's sad. I mean this in the nicest way but you need to do an online search for your area for an online or by phone counselor or therapist.

You should not be living in such fear that you are afraid to go to sleep. My heart goes out to you and I wish you well.

Please do talk to someone to help you thru this.

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redbird — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 03:27:36 GMT

It sounds like you may have developed an anxiety disorder. This type of disorder is fairly common and manifests in different ways in different people. Please contact your doctor as this can be caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and can be successfully treated with one of several drugs. Sometimes talk therapy is also used depending on the case. Please seek out help for this situation. It is treatable. I wish you the best in recovering from this illness.

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CAcableGirl2 — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 03:33:25 GMT

Please reach out to your doctor or a health care person. I think most people have a lot more stress then normal, and mental health is important and there is help available. Maybe you need to get a physical or talk to someone about why you may be having those thoughts?

If you are lonely, there are always people here on the boards to get you through the night if unable to sleep.

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furbabylover — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 03:47:52 GMT

@rms1954 I totally agree with Redbird that this sounds like a classic anxiety disorder. Our brain chemicals, sympathetic, and parasympathetic nervous systems can become unbalanced, and all this can trigger EXACTLY the kind of feeling you are experiencing. There are medications that can bring you relief and in the meantime you can do some of the recommended techniques to calm yourself down. Start with some deep breathing exercises. Google this for exact techniques, its very simple and so beneficial. Also, call somebody!! It doesn't matter what time of day it is to call someone when you are feeling this way. I will pray for your relief!!

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Scooby Doo — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 03:51:05 GMT

You can have a virtual on line conversation with a health care professional. Most insurance companies are waiving the deductible especially if it's covid relatable.

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ECBG — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 04:04:42 GMT

@rms1954

Please call your doctor for a referral to a councilor or go see your doctor if that is more comfortable.

A chemical imbalance does not "go away" nor can it be wished away. Sometimes we have to help ourselves.

I will keep you in my prayers.

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Nonametoday — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 04:05:23 GMT

@rms1954

I feel really bad that there is nothing I can do to help, Imtep. I wish I lived nearby. I would visit with you all night and we would do fun things and you would be begging to go to sleep by the time we had a fun night, watched silly movies, sitcoms, listened to music, popped corn, maybe make hot dogs, laugh until we wet our pants joking and talking about silly stuff. I would love to nearby. We would do things that make you laugh, make you sing and maybe dance. I would like to enjoy the evening with you and many more ladies here.

I think we are all living in A.C. 2020 (In the year of our Lord Covid). It would be fun to reminisce about the fun we all had and places we all went and wish to go B.C. (Before Covid).

Take heart in that many of us are stressed to the max with Covid and being homebound. I would just love to hug friends, talk to them without a mass, reach out and hold a hurting friend's hand and hear them go on and on about their children, their family, their grandchildren.

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alicedee — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 04:07:31 GMT

@rms1954 So sorry you are going through a rough time. Please call your doctor and tell him/her what is going on. There are so many meds to address severe anxiety....no need to suffer.

Please really consider calling your doctor. 🌷

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FancyPhillyshopper — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 04:17:46 GMT

Yes, of course, the professionals should be consulted for the best medical care and treatment, but everybody's normal way of life has been turned upside down.

We are all coping with massive amounts of information overwhelming us daily as well as anxiety and pressure over responding to major changes. Our adrenalin kicks in and the "fight or flight" response is invoked which only adds to the tension. Activities which may have helped in the past may now be temporarily unavailable. Also, some folks are struggling with loss of job, income, isolation, and no access to family or friends.

Bed should always be a safe haven for us to relax and let our body and mind recover from the stress of the day.

Perhaps you need to create a bedtime ritual--first, a funny TV program, then a glass of milk or hot chocloate, a fun bubble bath or a hot shower before, and then a good novel to read in bed. Or listen to some relaxing music from the radio until you drift to sleep. Also, stop screen time for an hour or two before sleeping to allow your eyes and mind to "shut down" peacefully.

Additionally, you may want to do a little more physical activity in the day so you are more tired at night.

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LillyandHobo — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 04:33:11 GMT

I feel so bad for you. It does sound like anxiety/panic attack. I had a very traumatic experience many years ago and I went through soemthing similar. I literally felt like I could not be home alone at night. It was scary and made me feel like I was half awake and half asleep and lost all control to wake up. I went through that for several months. Back then you seldom heard of any sort of med's or counseling. I wish I had the options available today. I would seriously recommend talking to someone in the mental health profession. There are some therapist/counselors that can also prescribe medicine to help. I will be praying for you and thinking about you..

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sunala — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 06:04:01 GMT

@rms1954 wrote:
Because I get the feeling I won't make it through the night. Tonight it's very intense. I was falling asleep in the chair and fighting it.

@rms1954 - I hope you will take the advice on this thread, and get some help. It's unreasonable to expect yourself to stay awake. We need sleep to keep ourselves alive. Please take good care of yourself. We're thinking about you xox

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rockygems123 — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 06:04:28 GMT

@rms1954 wrote:
Because I get the feeling I won't make it through the night. Tonight it's very intense. I was falling asleep in the chair and fighting it.

@rms1954 Could a night light help? For a brief period I used one of my VPH mercury glass lanterns with a long timer through most of the night when I needed it.

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KBEANS — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 06:56:53 GMT

@rms1954

Hello friend,

My thoughts are with you! Have you tried meditation? You can find some meditations on you tube. There is a 3 minute meditation that I found that was helpful to me. Try not to let those negative thoughts get the best of you. Google Progressive Muscle Relaxation and try that as well. Cammomile Tea is also helpful. Do not be afraid to reach out for professional help if this continues. You deserve a good nights sleep without fear interrupting it., or any part of your life for that matter. I wish you well! Good Night 💤😴

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Flatbush — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 07:12:54 GMT

Would it help if you put the radio on? Maybe talk or music.

TV might also be an option. Something that is not exciting, maybe something boring? Shouldn't be too hard to find that.

Hope you find something that will help your fear ease up.

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rockygems123 — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 07:21:58 GMT

@rms1954 wrote:
Because I get the feeling I won't make it through the night. Tonight it's very intense. I was falling asleep in the chair and fighting it.

@rms1954 I forgot to ask, do you want to talk about why you feel like you won't make it through the night? Maybe typing it out would help you feel better?

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hckynut — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 07:30:19 GMT

@rms1954 wrote:
Because I get the feeling I won't make it through the night. Tonight it's very intense. I was falling asleep in the chair and fighting it.

@rms1954

What exactly does "I won't make it through the night mean"? I fall asleep every night in my recliner chair, it is where I sleep.

Guess I must have missed another post that preceded this one, because I don't get this one at all.

hckynut

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BlueFinch — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 08:04:10 GMT

@rms1954 Sounds like anxiety, with anticipatory doom. When you feel something bad may happen, even though there may not be a realistic reason to expect such.

These fears often start after life changing events. I know after my husband died, I fought constantly with anticipating the worst. Terrible things. Being left alone to navigate this increasingly insane world, after 35 years, left me guarded and unstable. So, I get the feelings you're describing.

Has something happened in your life that has increased worry, or fears for your health, or safety? The pandemic maybe? Dreaded news? Connecting, and processing through whatever it is, can be of benefit in lessening negative symptoms.

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haddon9 — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 10:19:30 GMT

@rms1954 wrote:
Because I get the feeling I won't make it through the night. Tonight it's very intense. I was falling asleep in the chair and fighting it.

@rms1954 I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I too have felt like this before.

There has been heart disease in my family and there are times when I get indigestion I start to think that maybe I'm having a heart attack and I'm too afraid to go to sleep.....yes I've even went to the ER 2xs in the past (long time ago) to get it checked out.

If I can't sleep, often I will read about symptoms online which can make things worse by making me very anxious.

Fortunately I haven't felt this way for a long time...not since the pandemic...go figure.

I hope you can find some relief. You might want to talk to your doctor to help determine where this is coming from. Perhaps watching the news which is very dire now is taking a toll on you.

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Anonymous032819 — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 10:59:13 GMT

@rms1954 wrote:
Because I get the feeling I won't make it through the night. Tonight it's very intense. I was falling asleep in the chair and fighting it.

@rms1954

I am so sorry that you are feeling this way!

It's the worst, but I know exactly how you feel.

About 20 years ago I went through the exact same thing.

I was afraid to sleep in my own bed, because I was scared that if I did, that I would die in my sleep.

I would sleep on my couch, with the light and tv on, because in my mind, if I always saw light, then I wasn't dead.

At that time, I didn't know that what I was having was an anxiety attack.

It wasn't until I was talking with one of my co-workers, that she told me that I was having an anxiety attack.

Funny enough, they went away on their own, and I haven't had anxiety that bad since.

But I agree with the others who say to please talk to your doctor.

No one should suffer with anxiety.

Good luck!