topic Re: The Inner Frown in Among Friends

The Inner Frown

ECBG — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 00:37:39 GMT

Have any of you had this happen.

DH brings something in to grill. During conversation, he's going to grill the item the next night. Fine.

He starts grilling and you ask "What are you going to have WITH that?" and get an empty stare.

Never in 45 years has he ever had a one plate item. If we do leftovers, I always say "where is your green vegetable????" It never "takes"!

Am I the only one fighting this battle???

(Yes, I am thankful)

Thanks.

Re: The Inner Frown

Leggett28 — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 00:58:24 GMT

@ECBG Nope you’re not the only one. My husband grills but he doesn’t have a clue what else to have with the dinner. And he says he likes to grill because it makes it easy for me, not if I have to fix the rest of the dinner. Lol

Re: The Inner Frown

jeanlake — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 01:11:16 GMT

This year, hubs learned to toss corn on the cob on the grill along with protein. He also got the hang of using two plates for protein -- one for raw meat and the other for grilled meat. It's been a banner year at my house.

Re: The Inner Frown

Kachina624 — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 01:11:47 GMT

It's in their DNA. They cook meat, not meals. Think Caveman.

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Leggett28 — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 01:21:40 GMT

@Kachina624 You got that right. I’m probably going to get bashed for this

but sorry men can’t multi task. When we were younger and had small children I could cook dinner, watch the kids and talk on phone at the same time.

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Love my grandkids — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 01:38:19 GMT

I'll be a lone wolf here and say my late DH would sometimes suggest a side dish but my sweet smart son is a very good cook and he and my DIL often plan meals together.

Sometimes my older DGD helps out and likes to cook.

So NO, not all men are like that.

I know many women who can't plan a decent meal.

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Leggett28 — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 01:50:35 GMT

@Love my grandkids suggestion and doing are two different things. My husband can suggest till the cows come.

Re: The Inner Frown

hckynut — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 15:29:07 GMT

@ECBG

I would be easy in that respect. I don't grille anything and my meals(?)are just that, "nothing added". And my wife gave up asking me about what and how I eat decades ago. See how easy that is for her?

=^..^=

hckynut 🏒

Re: The Inner Frown

ECBG — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 03:35:39 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
It's in their DNA. They cook meat, not meals. Think Caveman.

@Kachina624

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Pook — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 09:14:02 GMT

Often, just a steak and crusty bread, hamburgers or hot dogs are all we want and having a green vegetable or sides is way to fussy and not appealing! We don't eat greens with pasta dishes ever either. We're still alive and healthy!

Re: The Inner Frown

Katcat1 — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 13:07:40 GMT

@ECBG I say start chopping the veggies and make a salad.

Re: The Inner Frown

Anonymous032819 — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 13:11:29 GMT

If the man wants to have a one item meal, let him.

If you want veggies with your meal, make them for yourself.

Less stress for both parties.

Problem solved.

Re: The Inner Frown

pigletsmom — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 13:44:33 GMT

I'd be perfectly happy with just a steak or burger from the grill.

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Sooner — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 13:56:25 GMT

We agreed when we were married that we expected to both go to school and work, and both work. And being the modern couple we would share chores.

His first meal was fish sticks, potatoes and some white corn as I remember. It was served on a plain white plate. I remember looking at the plate and asking "Where's the food?" He looked at me sort of funny and then we both laughed and it was chat number one about nutrition. It is known as the "white meal." Never served again.

I told him God said "Man cannot live by carbs alone." He is a great cook, concerned about what we eat, and a blessing to me every day! He cooks a lot now and is better at some things than I am.

He cooked Swiss chard and roasted yellow squash last night along with corn on the cob and the leftover chicken we had!

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CatsyCline — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 14:26:47 GMT

DH will just slap some kind of meat on the grill. no marinade, no seasoning. he won't think of a vegetable or anything. he might open a can of baked beans or slice a tomato.

my meals are always complete with salad, veggie and another side. so he will eat the sides but only if i make them.

i do not eat his steaks pork chops lamb chops or burgers. whether he grills them or fries them on the stove he never will prepare a complete meal.

Re: The Inner Frown

tiny 2 — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 14:48:19 GMT

@Kachina624 wrote:
It's in their DNA. They cook meat, not meals. Think Caveman.

@Kachina624

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Still Raining — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 16:53:32 GMT

Let him grill, thank him for your portion, and ask if he wants some of your salad. No drama.

Or else start the conversation way earlier, like when he brought in the meat.