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Not Doing Well At All

rms1954 — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:03:23 GMT

Today. I thought I was doing OK for a couple weeks now, but yesterday I slept until noon. So not like me. I haven't been able to bring myself to do my daily exercises for four days now. And I've been crying all day. I can't stop. I don't know why or what to do. I can't stand it much longer.

I just don't know how to deal with it any more.

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KKJ — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:08:07 GMT

Hang in there, you will get through this. Not to sound cliche, but we're all in this together. And you are among friends here.

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depglass — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:09:57 GMT

These are obvious signs of depression. I'm assuming you are worried about the virus. Do you have a sympathetic friend you can unload on, at least you have us on the board. Normally I would suggest seeking out a therapist of some sort, but with this stay home stuff going on, I hesitate to. Of course I don't know your financial situation.

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esmerelda — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:10:25 GMT

@rms1954 I hear ya! I thought I was handling it pretty well, but I find myself doing a lot of nothing. The first couple weeks I didn't mind so much...time at home, get things done. But now it's forced time at home and some anxiety to boot.

I have no advice. Just good wishes for you and everyone who is having a hard time dealing with it.

Maybe less news and more Pandora.

Be well, stay safe.

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lolakimono — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:11:50 GMT

@rms1954

I'm sorry to hear that you're not doing well. I think with this situation, people are just wanting things to get back to normal as quickly as possible. As with anything new, it takes time. Sometimes we have to take "inventory" of how we're feeling and regroup. Your body may be seeking rest as a coping mechanism, so it may not feel like being pushed to exercise right now.

Is there something small that can bring you joy now, like a picture of a dapper orange tuxedo kitty?

Is there something at home, like curling up with a good book, having a piece of chocolate, watching a favorite movie, or calling a friend that may help lift your spirits today?

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Lilysmom — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:18:48 GMT

@rms1954 I am sorry you are having such a difficult time. It is easy to become overwhelmed with the nonstop 24 hour a day coverage.

I have been getting some tasks done that I have put off. Like you, I am tempted to stop exercising but I am strongly resisting that urge because it makes me sleep better. I hope you try to get back into the exercise. Try some yoga, pilates or whatever you like to do. There are many many choices on youtube.

If you do keep up the exercise, give yourself a treat every now and then for doing it.

Sending positive thoughts your way. Come back to post and tell us how you are doing. LM

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4kitties — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:23:22 GMT

@rms1954

Big cyber hugs to you! If, like me, you are watching too much news, please take a break from it. Do you have any books you enjoy? I got out some of my favorite young adult books, ones I kept from my childhood, to re read.

Are there any old movies or tv shows you liked that you can watch online? I love to watch some old shows like Andy Griffith.

I sometimes just enjoy reading the threads where posters tell what they are doing for the day or cooking for the day. Helps me feel a bit more normal when I know others are going about their daily routine.

If your weather allows, can you get out for just a bit and get some fresh air? Of course, please maintain your social distancing. I go out for my walk early in the morning and this has helped me so much. Or maybe even sit by a window and feel the warmth of the sunshine.

I hope you will feel better soon!

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fancy pantsy — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:24:19 GMT

it's good that you came on here and shared your feelings. i hope that you are able to either come here often and reach out, or maybe in addition to that you might have a trusted friend or family member that could act as a sounding board? my experience has always been that it feels better once i vocalize and get stuff out in the open.

i wish you well.

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QVCkitty1 — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:24:56 GMT

@rms1954 wrote:
Today. I thought I was doing OK for a couple weeks now, but yesterday I slept until noon. So not like me. I haven't been able to bring myself to do my daily exercises for four days now. And I've been crying all day. I can't stop. I don't know why or what to do. I can't stand it much longer.

I just don't know how to deal with it any more.

I'm so sorry you are struggling. We can't be there for you, but we can be Here to listen. Do you like to read ? If you do , find a nice story and lose yourself for awhile. Take care of yourself. 🌷💐🌷

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NickNack — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:28:03 GMT

@rms1954 I am so sorry you're having such a hard time. It sounds like you're becoming very depressed. Have you thought about calling your doctor? He/she may be doing phone consultations instead of office visits right now. She may prescribe an antidepressant. They have helped many people, me included. It does take a week or two to get in your system and start working though. I hope you're taking as good care of yourself as you can.

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stargazergal — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:28:09 GMT

Awwww......... and that is okay..... Don't be so hard on yourself about

this. Think of it as taking a recharge. A cleansing. Sometimes we

need to do those things. Sleep in until noon or later...... cry...... do

nothing. There is a lot going on these days. This is a great place

to go to vent. I dont know if you are familiar iwth Pinterest. It

is my go to place on finding great ideas for self care and inspiration.

Perhaps you have a list of little things in your head that help to

make you feel better. Something you wanted to do at home

a project, even a cleaning project can help to make you feel

better. Take time to take care of you...... and if that meants giving

yourself a break from your daily routine...... that is OK ! I wish you

the best...... Sending you a Hug.

@rms1954 wrote:
Today. I thought I was doing OK for a couple weeks now, but yesterday I slept until noon. So not like me. I haven't been able to bring myself to do my daily exercises for four days now. And I've been crying all day. I can't stop. I don't know why or what to do. I can't stand it much longer.

I just don't know how to deal with it any more.

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Peaches McPhee — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:29:40 GMT

You poor thing. Are you able to get out at all, for a walk or a drive? These are things we can do outside our homes. Can you sit outside in the sun?

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haddon9 — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:33:55 GMT

I was like that several days ago. The constant worry and anxiety can really do a number on our mental well being.

I can understand how seriously depressed people feel. For days I didn't really get dressed, or do anything other than eat, read, go online or watch TV.

After a several days I told myself that if I can do one significant positive thing that needed to be done each day then I wouldn't let myself feel so bad. It could be cleaning out a cabinet, or doing some laundry.

Today I cleaned the living room & dining room. Yesterday I got caught up on bills. Tomorrow I will find something else to accomplish. Not exciting stuff but things that need to be done. Even if I only spend one hour doing it out of 24.

I'm trying not to watch or read the news too much which is constantly negative! I've been trying watch just enough so I am informed...after a certain point it just gets me down too much.

I try to find interesting movies and watch comedy....laughter and escaping for a short while helps to take my mind off of the depressing events.

Do things to make you happy! Talk to family & friends. Watch something that makes you feel good and stop watching too much news.

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MalteseMomma — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:34:54 GMT

@rms1954

Please tell your doctor he may prescribe something for you.

Meanwhile ,remember, "This too shall pass".....

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

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ECBG — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:35:01 GMT

I'm so sorry. If you are having nice weather, now would be a wonderful time to go out on the deck with a cup of tea and some cheese on a cracker. Listen to the little birds and walk around the yard to see what has come up and beginning to sprout. The trees are flowering here.

You may see your squirrel and rabbits playing.

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Sadiesadie — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 20:45:21 GMT

@rms1954 : I don't know if this will help but my daughter sent me a link to a Glennon Doyle. My daughter is also struggling and wanted me to understand a bit of what's going on with her daily. She lives elsewhere.

It's an interview Oprah had with her. I didn't realize that's where it came from since all I saw was her.

oprahs interview with Glennon-Doyle-Melton.

I'm not struggling, as of now, but found her very interesting.

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suzyQ3 — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 21:04:34 GMT

@rms1954, I think that what you are experiencing is not out of the norm given what's happened to our world. The unknown and the loss of control can be devastating.

If others' advice here doesn't get enough relief, do contact your doctor. There is help available.

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Tadaki — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 21:12:28 GMT

@rms1954 I'm sorry you're not feeling well today. I must admit I have felt on overload. Everything takes so much more time. I got a Freshly food delivery the other day. Opened it outside, took the food out and put it inside, then immediately took the box to the trash. Come inside, hand washing. Just multiply that times everything that has to be done.

Big effort to get set up to work from home. I just feel like my brain is buzzing all the time. Hoping that I can relax this weekend. I have groceries and can stay inside.

I will say when I was at the grocery store last week, I felt like I would cry. To see the people trying to keep the shelves stocked just made me feel sad. I hope you have some better days.

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AuntG — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 21:14:38 GMT

I'm sorry you're having a problem. No doubt many others are too. This may not be good advice, but sometimes I think how difficult it must be for doctors, nurses, hospital housekeeping staff and all on the front lines of this health crisis and I realize how lucky I am. Although I'm not happy my husband is deemed an essential worker, I know he's taking social distancing precautions.

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Tangocash — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 21:15:54 GMT

@esmerelda wrote:
@rms1954 I hear ya! I thought I was handling it pretty well, but I find myself doing a lot of nothing. The first couple weeks I didn't mind so much...time at home, get things done. But now it's forced time at home and some anxiety to boot.

I have no advice. Just good wishes for you and everyone who is having a hard time dealing with it.

Maybe less news and more Pandora.

Be well, stay safe.

Maybe less news and more Pandora. Boy, that says it all! My BF listens too much and gets depressed, and he's still working! I keep telling him, he has to change his attitude. The more he listens the worse he gets! I don't listen to anything, just movies, movies, movies. I do like knowing, no one, cable, electric, house payments, etc will not be penalizing anyone, so we are all good to go when this is over. Be positive and hang in there!