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Do you think women go thru a midlife period like men do???

crawford5153 — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 23:41:05 GMT

Just interested in what other ladies have to say about women having a midife crisis? Like excessive spending on material things or trying to look youthful once again? Just a thought so fill in your opinions. May be interesting to hear lol.

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Goldengate8361 — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 23:47:15 GMT

I don't think most men or women have midlife crises. I think that's more a storyline in movies than reality for most people.

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ahoymate — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 23:50:45 GMT

Mid life crisis is real and occurs in both _exes. Google for details.

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Snowpuppy — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 23:51:04 GMT

Or like having a fling or two? Okay, or like many?

Nothing I have any personal knowledge, of course. 😉

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sunshine45 — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 23:52:10 GMT

i think women go through several crises during their lifetime.....not just midlife.

not sure about material things, but i am guessing that the money spent by women on invasive and non invasive procedures has drastically risen over the past twenty years.

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Mary Bailey — Mon, 14 Oct 2019 23:53:13 GMT

I did/still am

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SandySparkles — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 00:24:33 GMT

I knew that men did, but I was not aware the behavioral changes experienced by women during our early golden years, is considered by some to be a crisis. This post has caused me to reflect about how my shopping habits have changed. I am much more concerned about my skin and overall health than I was when I was younger, and just thought these are things we experience while transitioning into the next phase of our lives. I think I will research this a bit. Thanks for the post.😊

~~~All we need is LOVE💖

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Carmie — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 00:35:16 GMT

I don't think my DH or I have gone through a midlife crises. Maybe we're not old enough. How old do you have to be to be middle age? I would guess age 50.

If so, we missed it. Is it too late to try to play catch up?

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PA Mom-mom — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 00:50:03 GMT

@crawford5153 My DH didn't as far as I know. Except 15 years ago he started writing a history book and published it about 5 years ago. Maybe that was it. Our neighbor bought a super duper Mustang about 10 years ago. When I asked him what the color was called he said "mid-life crisis green." Hahaha! My mid-life crisis came when I realized I needed new towels, bed linens and cookware. I think we should have mid-life showers for new household items.

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ECBG — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 00:55:45 GMT

I think "mid life crisis" depends on things like, messages you recieved when growing up, things I want to do before I get too old (the convertable), or I made a mistake and have have little time to correct it. I have seen people go through one of these steps and it almost seems to have a "giddy" effect.

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blackhole99 — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:01:35 GMT

I think some women do, an acquaintance of mine bought herself a Corvette in her mid fifties, divorced her husband and started dating a younger man. I guess she figured this was her last chance to fulfill her dreams. I personally prefer to grow old gracefully, no weird hairdo's or facial remodeling, nips and tucks.I'm still thrilled with my husband of 45 years and we drive a truck.

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Annabellethecat66 — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:03:24 GMT

I’m sorry...but I think it’s an excuse. People will do what they want....I’ve seen it time after time with both men and women.

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GenXmuse — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:06:41 GMT

I think I did but it stemmed from unhappiness with my life.

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momoftwo2007 — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:09:15 GMT

I am reading "The Wisdom of Menopause". In one of the chapters, the author says that men express their midlife crises outwardly, so some men do buy expensive cars and have affairs. But many women express inwardly, thus some have physical problems, emotional problems, or start making big decisions, such as starting new careers or divorse,

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jannabelle1 — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:09:23 GMT

I honestly don't know of any woman who approaches middle age and all of a sudden starts excessively spending on material things or tries to look youthful again. I think for most women our spending habits may go through phases depending on our financial situation. And trying to look youthful again? No, some of us just have always taken care of our skin and our appearance as much as we can.

I think most midlife crises have to do more with men who are unhappy in their marriage (or think they are unhappy), are in their 50s, and start looking at younger women in hopes of continuing their youthful bloom! Of course a woman can do the same thing, but I think the odds are with a man doing this more than a woman.

I find your comment "excessive spending on material things or trying to look youthful once again" interesting.....what made you ask the question in those terms?

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pigletsmom — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:17:53 GMT

I think most midlife periods come from the realization that you're aging and lets face it, women are focused on that fairly early on. Men seem to have something that will strike them suddenly that causes them to face that they are getting older. As we ladies try to hold off wrinkles we're pretty aware that time is moving on. But I have to say there are some days when I look in the mirror and am suddenly surprised by something that I realize looks much worse than I thought.

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Foxxee — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:45:03 GMT

Yes it is real and they do if youth, attractiveness, and regrets become more important than values.

Their behavior noticeably changes, become obsessed with looking young, often have an affair to prove to themselves they are still attractive. They sneak around. Their husbands notice a change in their behavior.

As with men, it begins at around 40. Men usually look for very young pretty women who confirm they are still young and attractive.

For both men and women, often there are regrets with their marriages, jobs, what they accomplished in their lives. For women, it lasts from 2-5 years. Men up to 8 years.

When they accept they are getting older, often they want to return to their spouses if a divorce hadn't taken place.

But, despite some women go through it, it's still mostly men.

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golding76 — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 01:48:59 GMT

Women can experience a crisis but not necessarily at mid-life, as is common for many men (at least according to lore).

I think our (women's) crises arrive when we are no longer needed. For those with children, it can occur when all children have permanently left the home or married, and for those without children, when their spouse dies or they end up alone during their last decades.

Just some thoughts on the topic...

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mom2four0418 — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 03:52:51 GMT

@golding76 wrote:
Women can experience a crisis but not necessarily at mid-life, as is common for many men (at least according to lore).

I think our (women's) crises arrive when we are no longer needed. For those with children, it can occur when all children have permanently left the home or married, and for those without children, when their spouse dies or they end up alone during their last decades.

Children don't stop needing their mothers because they leave home/get married/have children. Likewise, mothers still need their children. It's all about love.
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Lindsays Grandma — Tue, 15 Oct 2019 04:45:35 GMT

To be honest, I was too busy doing my job which I loved to notice anything different about myself. I was divorced so I didn't have a man around to notice a male midlife. Actually, I think I was better off in the long run, life just kept running smoothly and I was happy. However, I do remember my mother's midlife, the mood swings were not pretty and they didn't have medication or anything else to help women in those days.