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what do you think

Mom2Dogs — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:34:42 GMT

My girl friend told me her adult son has a friend, male, that has cancer....it's bad..he has been referred for clinical trials but has already been rejected by one hospital. He wants to get married...soon..like in a week. Everyone is upset, thinking he should not do it, blaming the bride for pushing it. I don't know if she is or not. My thought is let him do what he wants....what harm is it if he gets married. There is no large amount of money (life insurance) involved...he just want to marry the woman he has been with for several years....what do you think?

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Love my grandkids — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:39:27 GMT

@Mom2Dogs In my never to be humble opinion, it's NO ONE ELSE'S BUSINESS!!

If the man and woman want to marry, knowing the situation, everyone else needs to BUTT OUT!!

It might give them both some comfort, any of those judging them ever think of THAT? No, of course not.

This gets me hot under the collar when others think they have a right to an opinion in a sad situation like this.

I personally would support them and wish them love for as long as they are together.

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Leggett28 — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:41:12 GMT

I think he should do what he wants. And everyone else should mind their own business.

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1Snickers — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:41:48 GMT

My nephew had cancer and it kept returning. He had lost his wife several years before. He married his High School sweetheart and they had a good year before it became worse.
I don't live nearby so never met her but his Mother said they were glad they married. In his case also money wasn't involved.

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Spacrazy — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:42:08 GMT

Your post is heartfelt - I am so sorry and since you mentioned he is adult he has every right to marry.

Blessings to all that care and may we find a cure for this horrible disease.

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phoenixbrd — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:44:15 GMT

This couple has been together for years....it is their life, their decision how they want to live it. Would hope they have supportive, loving, accepting people around rather than causing dissension, especially during this challenging time.

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mom2four0418 — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:45:25 GMT

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
My girl friend told me her adult son has a friend, male, that has cancer....it's bad..he has been referred for clinical trials but has already been rejected by one hospital. He wants to get married...soon..like in a week. Everyone is upset, thinking he should not do it, blaming the bride for pushing it. I don't know if she is or not. My thought is let him do what he wants....what harm is it if he gets married. There is no large amount of money (life insurance) involved...he just want to marry the woman he has been with for several years....what do you think?

Who is everyone?

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grandma r — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:49:17 GMT

I do hope he is able toget into a clinical trial.

If he and his girlfriend want to marry, it is their decision. If people can't be happy for them, then those people have issues. None of us know how long we have. I wish them every happiness!

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jannabelle1 — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:52:48 GMT

There are only two people who have a say in this, and since both of them are presumably adults, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. The poor guy has overwhelming health issues, and people are questioning whether or not he should get married? Stay out of it...don't worry about it....let the poor guy do what he wants!

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AuntG — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:53:33 GMT

The best thing is to have no opinion and support the couple's decision.

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Carmie — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 00:56:38 GMT

We are all going to die. Most of us don't know when. It could be tonight, next month or 100 years from now.

While we are waiting, we should live our life to the fullest. I think if two people are in love and want to get married, they should.

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occasionalrain — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:14:05 GMT

I can't think of any reason others would care one way or the other.

There are practical reasons for them to marry. As his wife, she will be able to make decisions for him if he is unable to make them for himself. She may be the only person he trusts to decide as he would wish.

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Mom2Dogs — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:16:01 GMT

@Love my grandkids that is what I told my friend when she told me....it's up to the bride and groom to decide. The family of the ill man is who is objecting...thinking maybe they don't like the girlfriend.

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Mom2Dogs — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:18:32 GMT

@mom2four0418 everyone on his side of the family....they think he should worry about his health..they think he is to ill to marry....

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Mom2Dogs — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:19:13 GMT

@AuntG I agree. I do not know the couple, my friend was telling me the situation.

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Mom2Dogs — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:22:06 GMT

@occasionalrain ..that is probably part of the problem...her being involved with decision making. He loves her they need to let him make this decision and they should support him.

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SeaMaiden — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:34:01 GMT

Such a sad situation....I would just be supportive of the couple’s choice to marry.

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mom2four0418 — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:39:47 GMT

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
@mom2four0418 everyone on his side of the family....they think he should worry about his health..they think he is to ill to marry....

I hope that they marry and celebrate life!

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happycat — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 01:55:00 GMT

I think the bride and groom should do exactly what they want to do.

If they both want it, why not? Such a sad situation, but I also believe in miracles and I am praying that this man gets one.

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05gage25 — Wed, 09 Oct 2019 02:01:10 GMT

That is his dying wish. Personally, I think it is selfish and heartless to deny him any bit of happiness.........however short lived it may be. 😢