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How often do you call (not text) your family?

sue311 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 11:56:11 GMT

Some time ago I read in the newspaper where this woman's sister got killed. When asked when was the last time they spoke, she said years.

Even though I would speak to my sister regularly, since reading that I make sure I call her every 2 weeks. She is very busy and has a lot going on so I make sure to stay in touch. Once I called, she did not answer. I texted her that if she does not call me I will call the police. She texted me right away

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Mary Bailey — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:00:26 GMT

I'm a CSR. I take 100ish calls a day. I never (extremely rare) talk on the phone to anyone.

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FrostyBabe1 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:01:00 GMT

@sue311 wrote:
Some time ago I read in the newspaper where this woman's sister got killed. When asked when was the last time they spoke, she said years.

Even though I would speak to my sister regularly, since reading that I make sure I call her every 2 weeks. She is very busy and has a lot going on so I make sure to stay in touch. Once I called, she did not answer. I texted her that if she does not call me I will call the police. She texted me right away

If my sister pulled that stunt with me, we'd be having a very, very unpleasant conversation about minding her own business! If someone is "very busy and has a lot going on", it's quite likely that they simply aren't available to take your call. Leave a message and they'll get back to you at their convenience.

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IslanderGirl62 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:03:20 GMT

I speak to my sister at least once per week, my dad 1-2 x/week. However, I only speak to my mother a few times per year - the relationship is strained - she was physically and verbally abusive when we were children, and even as adults, the verbal abuse continues.

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NickNack — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:20:01 GMT

I talk to my sister every day. We text, too.

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sue311 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:24:49 GMT

@FrostyBabe1 what works for one family will not work for others. She loves that about me. For example, right now she is going through something and she lives like 16 hours away. She knows I will leave my job right now and drive there if she needs me.

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Ruby Laine — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:29:40 GMT

Interesting, @sue311. My family members and I call each other often. This includes kids, siblings, and cousins. We text, too, but you can share a lot more in a phone call.

I even write letters to a few family members. Lots of people I know still enjoy getting a letter in the mail!

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alicedee — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:29:56 GMT

My family is close....but none of us are real phone chatterers. Two of my sibs still work....I wait for them to contact me. Keep in touch with others almost daily on FB. I call another sib who lives alone about once a week or so (or she calls me) just to check in and maybe make plans to meet up for lunch or a quick shopping trip. We all tend to use the phone calls more for when we have to communicate important info. We also do group texts when something is up,

I worked for 40+ years at jobs where I was on the phone all day....so never developed the habit of long chatty phone calls in the evening at home....that was the last thing I wanted to do after working all day.

Get an occasional FaceTime call from grandchildren, which is fun.

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Shanus — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:33:39 GMT

@sue311 wrote:
Some time ago I read in the newspaper where this woman's sister got killed. When asked when was the last time they spoke, she said years.

Even though I would speak to my sister regularly, since reading that I make sure I call her every 2 weeks. She is very busy and has a lot going on so I make sure to stay in touch. Once I called, she did not answer. I texted her that if she does not call me I will call the police. She texted me right away

@sue311 I text back and forth with my kids about every other day and we touch base by phone on the weekends. Of course, if anything comes up that requires a call during the week, they or I don’t hesitate. I do admit I dislike the texting thing. Speaking to someone is so much better than a quick message w/ a emoji.

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Shanus — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:35:44 GMT

@Mary Bailey wrote:
I'm a CSR. I take 100ish calls a day. I never (extremely rare) talk on the phone to anyone.

@Mary Bailey Family either?

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Allegheny — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:38:56 GMT

I don't have much immediate family. My brother is my neighbor so we see each other frequently. My sister burned the bridge with myself and my brother 20+ years back. We occasionally email, but I am cautious.

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FrostyBabe1 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:42:28 GMT

@sue311 wrote:
@FrostyBabe1 what works for one family will not work for others. She loves that about me. For example, right now she is going through something and she lives like 16 hours away. She knows I will leave my job right now and drive there if she needs me.

You can sugar coat it all you want, but unless someone's life is in immediate peril, telling them that you'll call the police if they don't call you back is intrusive and overreaching. If your sister tolerates it, good for her. But it still doesn't make it ok.

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sue311 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 12:52:03 GMT

@FrostyBabe1

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Bri369 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 13:03:21 GMT

I talk to my dad every day. He has an iphone but doesn't text. We have included him on a family group chat and he gets a big kick out of reading all the texts and seeing all the pictures. LOL

I text my kids every day when they're at school. We talk a couple times a week.

When my mom was still alive, I talked to her every morning and we texted throughout the day as needed.

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Jamma — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 13:08:46 GMT

My daughter call me everyday. We text too.

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2blonde — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 13:14:23 GMT

@sue311 Interesting topic. All I have left in the world is one sister who is 10 years younger. Happily, we both love each other very much, and we live only about 15 minutes from each other. Having said that, I'll add that we both work full time and have busy lives as most people do. I love texting because we can get a quick message to the other without feeling like we are catching them at a bad time or interrupting their day.

When we have something important to discuss, then we will definitely talk on the phone, and it can easily go on for an hour! We'd probably be better off calling more frequently so we'd have less to talk about when we do call! We don't see each other as often as we should, but we do get together with her DH's family fairly often and have a ball with them!

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software — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 14:00:23 GMT

The relatives of my generation are chatty on the phone. I'm a bit hard of hearing on the phone, I prefer text or Messenger. I'm fine face to face.

Now the younger generation loves to text. Which is fine with me, I don't feel like I have to respond immediately and I have a record of the communication. Comes in handy when making plans in the future, I will always have the date & time.

I have no siblings and my parents are gone. My kids keep up with me so I feel no need to reach out, just because. I reach out when I want to.

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Trinity11 — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 14:02:33 GMT

My children hold down very demanding jobs and the last thing they would need is me calling them daily. I usually let them get in touch with me unless there is something very important I need to tell them.

I had a mom that needed daily attention and expected me to cater to her every whim. I never wanted that for my children from me. So I let them set the terms for contact and it has worked well for our family......

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wagirl — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 14:12:21 GMT

I call my SIL every week---my brother calls me every few weeks--bff calls less than that. text each one a few times but not often.

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cotton4me — Fri, 23 Aug 2019 14:36:24 GMT

Once or twice a month.