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SeaMaiden — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:23:18 GMT

Men come up to me when I am out shopping.... just at Fred Meyer or even the dollar store... tell me how attractive I am.... and ask if I am married.....

I am not dressed to pick anyone up... just shopping.. married for 40 years.... They are men my age.... ;60 plus.

Is this something older men do to any of you? It does not bother me... I am just polite and thank them for the complement... and move on. It happened yesterday again. Nice gentleman.... but JUST WHY?

Why do they think it is OK? I find it a bit creepy.

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kitcat51 — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:25:24 GMT

Women do the same thing to men...nothing new.

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meem120 — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:30:15 GMT

Same thing happens to me. Im always surprised. One gentlemen asked me to make him meatballs..lol. Another time I was taking a friend to PT and a gentlemen was taking his mom, we were scheduled at the same time and he always wanted to go for coffee. I think people are just lonely sometimes, and its just nice to be kind.

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Sweet_Serenity — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:33:11 GMT

@meem120

Happens is right. Never give it thought afterwards.

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SeaMaiden — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:36:19 GMT

@Sweet_Serenity wrote:
@meem120

Happens is right. Never give it thought afterwards.

So it is common.... OK.... that makes me feel less uncomfortable. I would NEVER ask such a thing of a total stranger so to me is is really ODD.

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Zhills — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:42:51 GMT

The grocery store is the best place to meet a nice single person......so the story goes!

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FastDogWalker2 — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:44:49 GMT

This has never happened to me - hmmm...guess I look "unapproachable!"

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Sweet_Serenity — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:47:05 GMT

@SeaMaiden

No my experience isn't yours. In that you said happens often. In my experience twice complimented by strangers. Neither asked me personal questions.

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sidsmom — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 16:47:14 GMT

Even though I can rock a pretty smile,

my RBF is fairly strong, so...I go about my day

w/out anyone bothering me!

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bathina — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 17:31:43 GMT

It happens occasionally- mostly with much older men. I'm in my mid 50s and mostly feel invisible where men are concerned. Imagine my surprise when a young coworker confessed he had a crush on me. I kind of guessed that when he asked me for my hotel room # over and over one night at a conference and then called me in the morning to apologize.

I'm sure that was the last chance I'll have in my lifetime!

Enjoy it when you can get it ladies!!!!

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mimomof4 — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 17:38:33 GMT

I had someone do this to me at Walmart one day. I was dressed for the gym - workout clothes and no make up. The guy followed me around the store and came up to me in the parking lot.

He said he liked my look and noticed I wasn't wearing a wedding ring (I don't wear it to the gym). So if I wasn't spoken for he would be interested in getting to know me.

This guy was probably 30 years older than me, I was freaked out by it because I hadnoticed him everywhere I went in the store. I didn't go into Walmart for months after.

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kitcat51 — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 18:27:31 GMT

I saw this posted on Instagram...A group of people is called a No Thanks & all the replies were Yes that's me, I want to stay home & be alone! Wonder why you're being approached out & about, that's why...it's difficult meeting someone if you don't go to bars, do online dating or casual hookups. The recommended way to meet someone face to face is in the grocery store.

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Desertdi — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 18:40:17 GMT

They don't "flirt" with me.........they just ask for MONEY

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ahoymate — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 18:43:36 GMT

Maybe you look approachable/easy to meet & give off a vibe. Doesn't happen to me.

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tennpal15 — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 18:46:22 GMT

I definitely don't give off that approachable vibe ~ I always have my earbuds in so I don't have to pay too much attention to all the other noise.

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SeaMaiden — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 19:20:32 GMT

I have been off market for over 40 years....heck I do not think I am giving off any vibe of needing a man. Last thing I am looking for at my age😄 I just find it a bit unnerving is all.

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chrystaltree — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 19:22:37 GMT

You never heard of picking women up? Older guy often aren't as smooth with their pick up lines, they fall back on "my goodness, you are beautiful" or something similar. No, I don't get that in grocery stores or the dry cleaners. It's funny, I always wear my wedding set but in social situations where there are "older" men, I get it also there are two retirment communities in my area and those gentleman do their Lothario thing in social situations. I'm 57 and the guys who hit on me are always 70ish. It's not that we women appear to be out there looking for men, it's just the men are out there looking for women and they are rusty at it. I just wave my hand and say "you are so kind, but married!" and I move on. I think meeting people is particularly challenging for older people.

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Greeneyedlady21 — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 19:30:41 GMT

I used to always tease my late Mom that she got hit on more than I ever did. One time we went to a movie and this guy around her age walked right up to the car window as soon as she parked and started talking about how he goes to the special opera showings they had there and asking her if she ever went.

Another time we were outside her dr's building after an appointment. This older guy had a Jeep Wrangler, my Mom had three Jeeps in her life and loved them. She told this guy she liked his Jeep and he said maybe I could take you for a ride sometime lol

My Mom was very pretty but she also had this aura of being a kind friendly person. Because she was.

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Mindy D — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 19:40:25 GMT

@SeaMaiden wrote:
Men come up to me when I am out shopping.... just at Fred Meyer or even the dollar store... tell me how attractive I am.... and ask if I am married.....

I am not dressed to pick anyone up... just shopping.. married for 40 years.... They are men my age.... ;60 plus.

Is this something older men do to any of you? It does not bother me... I am just polite and thank them for the complement... and move on. It happened yesterday again. Nice gentleman.... but JUST WHY?

Why do they think it is OK? I find it a bit creepy.

If you are very attractive, that’s why they are hitting on you. Be thankful to be pretty at any age.

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NYCLatinaMe — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 21:04:02 GMT

@SeaMaiden wrote:
Men come up to me when I am out shopping.... just at Fred Meyer or even the dollar store... tell me how attractive I am.... and ask if I am married.....

I am not dressed to pick anyone up... just shopping.. married for 40 years.... They are men my age.... ;60 plus.

Is this something older men do to any of you? It does not bother me... I am just polite and thank them for the complement... and move on. It happened yesterday again. Nice gentleman.... but JUST WHY?

Why do they think it is OK? I find it a bit creepy.

Are you making eye contact with them? That would do it.