topic Re: Complimenting in Among Friends

Complimenting

FlowerBear — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:39:34 GMT

This will seem trivial but anyway do you get compliments from friends and family?

I saw a friend I had not seen in a really long time on Monday. She commented that she had lost 75 lbs and I told her she looked great. I commented on her nice short hair cut. She never once complimented me lol. Nada.

My Dad used to tell me I looked nice, but since hes been remarried to my StepMom he does not say a thing now.

My StepMom has not ever once complimented me and neither have my StepSiblings.

I look my best when I go to their house and when we all get together. They are always complimenting each other but never ever me!!! Makes me feel a little odd but I try and not let it bother me. I will keep doing what Im doing and fix my hair nicely and dress nicely and continue to compliment others. That is just me.

Not in a fake-- all the time way, but when they do look great etc.

BTW I am not whining just asking. Like I said I know it is trivial but wanted to see what you all had to say lol.

Re: Complimenting

nana59 — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:36:27 GMT

if it bothers you.....then stop complimenting them.....jmo....

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FlowerBear — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:37:42 GMT

@nana59 lol

Re: Complimenting

Desertdi — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:37:46 GMT

Never. If anything, my one family member tells me how I could "improve myself".........

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bridal_diva — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:39:09 GMT

That's b/c you probably look better than the whole lot of them put together!!!

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FlowerBear — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:47:48 GMT

@bridal_diva LOL.

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dex — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:42:58 GMT

@FlowerBear @I guess I never gave it thought before you brought it up but my answer would be no or alt least not that I remember.I don’t need compliments but I do feel good giving them.I like to see people look pleased to be noticed.I don’t know why your family would leave you out when they compliment each other...seems to be a oversight.I think you could ask them.Maybe you always look so good that they think you don’t need a compliment.

Re: Complimenting

nana59 — Fri, 17 May 2019 14:49:03 GMT

@Desertdi wrote:
Never. If anything, my one family member tells me how I could "improve myself".........

really?! maybe you should tell that family member you don't need any improvement....myob!!

Re: Complimenting

author — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:03:38 GMT

I almost never get compliments from family, sometimes from friends, but so many from total strangers, which always makes me feel good.

My in-laws have never once complimented me on anything, personal, cooking, home, achievements, etc. They are definitely a dour bunch, and yes, I did quit complimenting them. That's the way they like it I guess.

I give compliments to my husband, family and friends, and strangers too, not effusive, and not all the time, but I do. A nice word makes your day a bit better.

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StylishLady — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:32:09 GMT

I get compliments on things like my outfits and my gardens. Makes me feel like I a doing something right.

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Trinity11 — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:36:23 GMT

@FlowerBear You probably always look good. The ones getting compliments probably look different so they get the compliments because of how much they have changed.

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freakygirl — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:38:46 GMT

i’m complimenting you on being a nice person. whether you receive compliments or not, you give them sincerely and freely. that speaks of your character imo. i myself love complimenting people. even strangers, much of the time. sure i receive them, but honestly, i don’t give it much thought.

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roster — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:48:39 GMT

No. But remember, women are jealous if you look good & esp. if you look better than they do So I don't expect it. Family, again, No.

One reason I liked Lisa Robertson. She always looked good & complimented other women. Controversial topic.

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CrazyDaisy — Fri, 17 May 2019 15:50:10 GMT

My self worth is not dependent upon the opinions of friiends, family or strangers. So I guess I do not pay attention or keep track of what others say.

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hopi — Fri, 17 May 2019 16:04:33 GMT

@FlowerBear

Love to observe and notice things . Also remember alot so I tend to compliment people all the time. It is really sincere.

Many people never think to say nice things or notice anything that is not hitting them smack in the face. Who doesn't love nice things being said about them. You can only be concerned about what you say and not others otherwise you are wasting valuable energy and your kind thoughts.

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Imaoldhippie — Fri, 17 May 2019 16:06:53 GMT

Most likely your step families compliments would not be sincere anyway. From the outside looking in it sounds as if step mom and step siblings are jealeous. Stop complimenting them.

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roster — Fri, 17 May 2019 16:07:29 GMT

CrazyDaisy, I don't think the poster depends on others for self esteem. It's just nice to be noticed and complimented. Life is hostile & needs some lubrication. Compliements are just nice.

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RedTop — Fri, 17 May 2019 16:41:55 GMT

I am very observant and compliment freely when appropriate, but have one particular acquaintance I never compliment on her appearance. Why?

Her strong body language screams just how good she thinks she looks, and she wants it acknowledged verbally, especially if others are around. I don’t give her the satisfaction, which saves me from hearing about the outfit, jewelry, shoes, her makeup, and anything else she thinks contributes to her awesome look.

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pattypeep — Fri, 17 May 2019 17:07:33 GMT

@FlowerBear I give compliments and I receive compliments; however, I don't give a rats patootie if someone doesn't compliment me.

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x Hedge — Fri, 17 May 2019 17:39:49 GMT

I'm suspicious of people who are generous with compliments, as they're often used to advance a hidden agenda.

Too many, especially women, are suckers for compliments about their appearance. I know what I look like and I don't take my self worth from someone else's words.

Whether someone else likes it or not is meaningless to me.

Sorry to see you keep score on who compliments who.