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Overshopping...

Tweety68 — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 20:27:36 GMT

A very honest poster was trying to get advice for her overshopping.We all at some point find ourselves shopping instead of confronting our real issues. Just a few things that helped me..

Make a seasonal list of needs and wants

Promise to buy nothing Until you shop your entire stash and closets.

This will take time and thought.You will probably find most of your needs and wants.

Get excited with your finds you already own.Mix .Match..twirl .try on .

organize your stuff.It will give you access to enjoy.

lastly make a list of stuff you want..Get a jar .Save dollar bills .Change.Save up for that special item.It will make you really feel good. Keep your grooming impecable.Nails.Hair.. everything else is icing on the cake!

You will be looking good .Feeling in control and making good choices!

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godi — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 20:57:20 GMT

I always make myself wait 24 hours and if I still think about it I buy. This has worked for me.

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Sweet_Serenity — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 21:46:55 GMT

Minimalist my entire life keeps it simple. Frugality, Is the reason being able to afford early retirement fifty three. Less is more is my mantra in all areas of my life. Learned early on, invest in your retirement, served me well.

Edited:

George Carlin: Talks About Stuff. YouTube.

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shortbreadlover — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 21:54:13 GMT

you would be surprized at what you really don't need. andcan do without./

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cbrite — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 21:59:57 GMT

It did not make me happier in the end..

It did not make me prettier in the end..

It did not make me more secure in the end..

It did not make me younger in the end...

It did not bring me good friends in the end..

It made my family upset that I did not choose to save for my future...

It made me realize I was trying to fix myself in all the wrong ways...

It did not bring me love in the end..

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Tweety68 — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 22:36:33 GMT

So much good ,solid real advice.This is how we respect each other as women.No put downs...Sharing how we live and learn.Thank you for the replies.I am sure these will make a difference to someone. Human to Human, Lifes lessons...

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RedTop — Mon, 29 Apr 2019 23:50:52 GMT

I worked hard for my money, and don’t like to spend it.

I grew up in the country on a farm, but always had exactly what I needed. I have never felt deprived, or felt like I needed to buy more stuff to make up for something I missed out on, or wanted so badly and didn’t get. I’ve always had just enough, and at 63, realize I can live quite well with even less.

What I have now, isn’t going with me. If I have things that aren’t being used, or are things my daughters are not interested in, I’m getting rid of them now. I don’t want to be tied to stuff.

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happycat — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:01:01 GMT

My grandpa use to tell me to really think before I spent my money, about if I really needed whatever I was wanting to buy or not.

Honestly, some days I do better than others.

It is nice to have a nest egg and to know that if we have some sort of catastrophe, we will be ok and have enough to take care of it.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that financial peace of mind cannot be bought at the mall.

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queendiva — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:01:11 GMT

Great thoughts here. I will add that I try to shop guilt-free by thrifting. Sure, I shop for clothes here, but I also shop Ebay for clothes and local thrift stores / yard and rummage sales for antiques and home decor. I also buy slightly used when it comes to cars and drive them 'til the wheels fall off.

Shopping high/ low is my style. Always try to be respectful of my budget.

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Anonymous032819 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:14:13 GMT

For me, when I shop online, I'll get to the "Complete Order" page, and I'll look at the price, and I'll think to myself, "Do I really need this?"

Most of the time, the answer is "No", so I close out, dumping the sale.

For example, today I went to a tea website, and had items in my cart. When I got to the total page, I saw the price, and decided that I didn't really need the tea, so I closed out of the page, never completing the sale.

On Amazon, majority of the time, items go on my "Wish List".

I have a very long "Wish List".

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Tweety68 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:17:57 GMT

Please keep your thoughts coming.I am taking note of each.Much thanks.So many new ideas.I enjoy each one...

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Snowhite714 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:46:22 GMT

@happycat wrote:
My grandpa use to tell me to really think before I spent my money, about if I really needed whatever I was wanting to buy or not.
Honestly, some days I do better than others.
It is nice to have a nest egg and to know that if we have some sort of catastrophe, we will be ok and have enough to take care of it.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that financial peace of mind cannot be bought at the mall.

@happycat Very wise.

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Snowhite714 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:50:22 GMT

@Tweety68 wrote:
Please keep your thoughts coming.I am taking note of each.Much thanks.So many new ideas.I enjoy each one...

@Tweety68 Not sure if you were referencing my post but thank you for yours, very useful info being offered.

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jannabelle1 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 00:53:22 GMT

Kudos to the poster who recognizes that she is overshopping. I think more younger people get caught up in the easy credit cycle and tend to buy more. That's when it's time to make the commitment to get the credit card balances under control, and the only way to do that is to stop charging purchases that you can't pay off every month.

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Skyegirl21 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 01:07:52 GMT

This post came at the perfect time. I cycle between frugal and over shopping, and now in a shopping jag, that I must STOP. Please keep the suggestions and mindset coming! Thank you! 👏🏼💐

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Snowhite714 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 07:38:09 GMT

@Skyegirl21 wrote:
This post came at the perfect time. I cycle between frugal and over shopping, and now in a shopping jag, that I must STOP. Please keep the suggestions and mindset coming! Thank you! 👏🏼💐

@Skyegirl21 Take a look at the thread "Any thoughts???" Maybe you'll find something useful there.

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Skyegirl21 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 11:02:00 GMT

Thanks Snowwhite!

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Pqfan — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 15:09:33 GMT

I wasted thousands of dollars on stuff I didn’t want. I get sick thinking about it. I was unhappy and shopped to feel better after my mom died . It didn’t work of course. I got a little better but time did that not shopping. Now I am wiser and broke. ☹️😢

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halfpint1 — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 15:18:19 GMT

One thing about being short there isn't much to buy but I still do. Also I have to have all my tees on a bed for there is no closets or space. Lonliness and nothing to do shouldn't be the reason.

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chrystaltree — Tue, 30 Apr 2019 15:54:48 GMT

@godi

That works for me too. When I see something that is a want and not a need; I put it on my wishlist and look at it a day or two later. Most of the time, I end up deleting it....because the fever has passed...LOL