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Women Rowing North

house_cat — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 16:28:25 GMT

I recommend this book to my forum friends who, like me, are dealing with the challenges and the joys of growing older. I'm posting a screen shot, not a link, so I hope it will be deemed appropriate by the moderators. I've chosen to post here, rather than the Book Club forum, because I think it's an important book and want as many of you to see it as possible. If you've already read it, I'd love to hear your thoughts about it.

Re: Women Rowing North

LTT1 — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 16:47:21 GMT

@house_cat

Thank you so much for posting this!

So many, many times in the past few years I have thought the following:

1) wow, I wish I had known about this or that

2) wow, I should post that I learned this or that (ie: managing hair that is turning gray)

3) wish there was a book that had prepared me for getting older

Maybe it is just me (and you) but I like to know in advance.

Re: Women Rowing North

house_cat — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:00:17 GMT

@LTT1

I'm glad you saw the post. I was talking to my youngest son last weekend. He drives a very old truck. He said the radio is stuck on NPR, so it's the only thing he listens to, lol. He had heard this author talking about her book and thought it sounded like the same issues I'm grappling with. He was right. I'm only halfway through the book, but it feels like the author is speaking directly to me.

Re: Women Rowing North

nova — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:04:06 GMT

@house_cat Isn't it wonderful when every now & then you feel that genuine connection? You sound like a positive person & thank you for sharing!

Re: Women Rowing North

Mom2Dogs — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:20:09 GMT

@house_cat....I have not read the book, (maybe I need to) and maybe it's just me as I KNOW that I am not a deep thinker...never have been....if something comes up, I deal with it and move on....I don't look to far past today...and I TRY not to dwell on the past.

I am also aging, I will be 64 this year and when other women post on this topic or specifically the title of the book you posted, it makes me wonder am I just a superficial person and do not 'care' about what tomorrow brings? This is a honest question and would love any feedback, thanks!

Re: Women Rowing North

house_cat — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:31:52 GMT

@Mom2Dogs

Of course it's possible that the book is not for you - it's just a recommendation. However, it's not a clinical book. I'm finding it comforting to know that the things I've been feeling are shared by other women my age.

Re: Women Rowing North

butterfly123 — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:42:59 GMT

@house_cat Thank you for the recommendation. I hope you don’t mind me adding a brief description of the book.

About Women Rowing North

A New York Times Bestseller

From the New York Times bestselling author of Reviving Ophelia, a guide to wisdom, authenticity, and bliss for women as they age.

Women growing older contend with ageism, misogyny, and loss. Yet as Mary Pipher shows, most older women are deeply happy and filled with gratitude for the gifts of life. Their struggles help them grow into the authentic, empathetic, and wise people they have always wanted to be.

In Women Rowing North, Pipher offers a timely examination of the cultural and developmental issues women face as they age. Drawing on her own experience as daughter, sister, mother, grandmother, caregiver, clinical psychologist, and cultural anthropologist, she explores ways women can cultivate resilient responses to the challenges they face. "If we can keep our wits about us, think clearly, and manage our emotions skillfully," Pipher writes, "we will experience a joyous time of our lives. If we have planned carefully and packed properly, if we have good maps and guides, the journey can be transcendent."

Re: Women Rowing North

house_cat — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:45:50 GMT

@butterfly123

Of course not. Thank you!

Re: Women Rowing North

Mom2Dogs — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:52:47 GMT

@house_cat. I hope my comment was not taken as a criticisim, not my intention at all - it was more of an observation about my self than anything else. Maybe my head is in the sand!

Re: Women Rowing North

house_cat — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 17:54:11 GMT

@Mom2Dogs

Not at all. I welcome the discourse and thank @butterfly123 for posting the synopsis.

Re: Women Rowing North

LTT1 — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 18:09:39 GMT

@house_cat @Mom2Dogs @butterfly123 @nova

Oh my gosh! I CAN’T EVEN BELIEVE THIS IS BY MARY PIPHER!

She is one of my favorite authors and her book “Reviving Ophelia” was a primary for helping prepare me for my teaching position for teen-age girls (cutting, buliemia)

This author spoke to me then, I hope she will speak to me now!

I have awakened every day (practically) with something new to contend with! 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️

Health/body changes/bra sizing/skin/hair/clothing/shoes....and so on!

Maybe this book will help!💗💗💗💗

Re: Women Rowing North

LurkyLoo — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 18:11:03 GMT

@house_cat,

Thank you for the book recommendation (and @butterfly123 for the synopsis). This sounds like one I will enjoy reading. Honest, yet uplifting, as we row, row, row our boats.. 😊

Re: Women Rowing North

house_cat — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 18:18:24 GMT

@LTT1 wrote:
@house_cat @Mom2Dogs @butterfly123 @nova

Oh my gosh! I CAN’T EVEN BELIEVE THIS IS BY MARY PIPHER!
She is one of my favorite authors and her book “Reviving Ophelia” was a primary for helping prepare me for my teaching position for teen-age girls (cutting, buliemia)
This author spoke to me then, I hope she will speak to me now!
I have awakened every day (practically) with something new to contend with! 🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️
Health/body changes/bra sizing/skin/hair/clothing/shoes....and so on!

Maybe this book will help!💗💗💗💗

This is pretty much exactly what my SIL said when I told her about the book. I don't have daughters, but she does and she loved "Reviving Ophelia".

Re: Women Rowing North

itsmagic — Sun, 27 Jan 2019 18:58:57 GMT

@Mom2Dogs wrote:
..I have not read the book, (maybe I need to) and maybe it's just me as I KNOW that I am not a deep thinker...never have been....if something comes up, I deal with it and move on....I don't look to far past today...and I TRY not to dwell on the past.

I am also aging, I will be 64 this year and when other women post on this topic or specifically the title of the book you posted, it makes me wonder am I just a superficial person and do not 'care' about what tomorrow brings? This is a honest question and would love any feedback, thanks!

I wish I were more like you! I have to often remind myself to not dwell on the past or worry about the future.

Re: Women Rowing North

LTT1 — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 13:54:31 GMT

@house_cat

People were saying to me that the issues we used to attribute to teen GIRLS are now ever more important to boys, too....anorexia, sexual identity and so on.

I did have students with dire issues and some were boys.

@Mom2Dogs

I wish I were more like you! Be glad that the issues that get some “down” (like me) do not impact your life.

Mine hit pretty much all at once. “Things” were not rolling along “as usual.” lol

But, I don’t think it makes me sad or depressed...I just don’t like for it to be such a surprise. If there is any preparation for issues that lie ahead, I’m all in!

Re: Women Rowing North

house_cat — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 14:07:14 GMT

@LTT1

You're right. It was very backward of me to phrase it that way. We rarely separate our boys and girls for any reasons at school. There is a great deal of ambiguity. We have many students who identify as "gender neutral" and I've had more than a handful the last few years who have changed their names and switched genders. It's time to look at teen issues with new eyes.

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Skididdy — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 16:36:43 GMT

WOW @Mom2Dogs, I really wish I had more of your mindset.

You are probably a very relaxed person.

Can you bottle some of it and send it my way please ???????????????

Re: Women Rowing North

Skididdy — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 16:40:20 GMT

@house_cat,THANK YOU THANK YOU FOR THIS !!!!

It sounds like a wonderful book. I am getting it this week.

I have never read her, but have heard good things of her writings.