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Grief Share

texassunflower — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 18:53:16 GMT

Has anyone ever participate in this grief semiar and did you find it helpful? I lost my mother almost 6 months ago. I didn't participate in the support group hospice provided because I wasn't that impressed with hospice. Mom was only on hospice for 3 weeks. We had had home health before and I didn't see much difference except they supplied a hospital bed and oxygen. If she had lived longer, I might have a different opinion. There is a Grief Share semiar beginning in January and I am thinking about attending. I know you have to purchase a workbook and I assume work through the book. I would be interested if others have been through this program and did it help. I am afraid that time is the only real cure.

Re: Grief Share

Misplaced Parisian — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 19:10:01 GMT

@texassunflower My beloved maman crossed over 3 years ago. Time has not helped me. While I have not attended this seminar, my thought is give anything a chance you think might help you. Also know that however you proceed is correct for you. Mourning is a very personal thing. I am sending you my best thoughts of comfort and peace. Our manans are only a heartbeat away. Take care.

Re: Grief Share

Greeneyedlady21 — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 19:10:52 GMT

I only went to the last two meetings. My Mother died in June, I wasn't up to doing it over the summer. She was in hospice too, at home. Oct-June. I have a hospice bereavement counselor but I always have to call him. He told me he has 270 something people. I switched hospices once, the first one was awful.

The meetings I went to were in an Assembly of God church. The whole program has a religious focus. I signed up for the Grief Share daily emails I do find them helpful.

I didn't have to purchase the workbook they gave it to me for free. I can't judge by two meetings, don't know if I will go back in January.

You can try a few meetings, there's no obligation to continue.

Re: Grief Share

Misplaced Parisian — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 19:15:13 GMT

@Greeneyedlady21 Sending you thoughts of comfort and peace as well. Take care.

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Imaoldhippie — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 19:32:00 GMT

Im a skeptic at heart. I would not buy a workbook and when they tell me I have to, its time for me to leave.

Sorry to hear about your mom.

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RedTop — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 19:49:37 GMT

Grief Share saved a close friend of mine after she lost her adult child suddenly. She absolutely hit rock bottom, the day we had to go into her house, pull her out of bed, and shove her into the shower. The program helped her far more than we ever expected, and she continues to go to meetings.

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henderson — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 20:20:05 GMT

My husband and I attended Grief Share at our church. It is faith-based program. You don't have to share anything if you don't want to. We went because we lost our 33 yr old son to cancer on December 10, 2010. It helped us. We still grieve for our son, especially on his birthday. Mother's Day, Christmas. Only God has gotten us through our pain and we know we will see Ryan in heaven some day. At his memorial we played "I Can Only Imagine" and everytime I hear that song (there was a movie made) I break out crying.

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chrystaltree — Tue, 18 Dec 2018 21:21:13 GMT

Supportgroups work for some, individual therapy works for some, time works for others. I have never heard f Grief Share but I think it's probably worth trying if you feel that it will help you. If it's just the cost of the workbook and perhaps reasonable charge for the workshop itself; I think you should do it. Time doesn't always work for everyone. A lot of people get stuck and mirred in grief for years and years because they needed help in working through their grief.

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Still Raining — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 12:34:00 GMT

I have not done a grief group but have been a member of AlAnon for almost 40 years and will say that sharing with others and hearing their stories helps. There is strength in a group. It helps to be able to say what you are feeling without judgement. They understand.

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Greeneyedlady21 — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 15:10:42 GMT

@Still Raining I agree. At the grief meetings I attended I was relieved to not have to deal with trite dismissive cliches. You can be real about your feelings and be listened to without judgment.

It definitely helps to hear the feelings of others, you feel less alone. Even if that's the only benefit I think it's well worth it.

Re: Grief Share

hsawaknow — Wed, 19 Dec 2018 21:06:40 GMT

@chrystaltree wrote:
Supportgroups work for some, individual therapy works for some, time works for others. I have never heard f Grief Share but I think it's probably worth trying if you feel that it will help you. If it's just the cost of the workbook and perhaps reasonable charge for the workshop itself; I think you should do it. Time doesn't always work for everyone. A lot of people get stuck and mirred in grief for years and years because they needed help in working through their grief.

I was one of those people who got 'stuck in grief' I was barely 20 when I lost my Mom very suddenly and it took me years, over 15 to get over her. I became deeply depressed. The depression ruined my life and relationships. I tried everything, books, group talk, grief counselors, anti-depressants. And those 5 steps didn't come in order. For me it was time, unfortunately a long time.