topic Re: It is fine to be different.... A Friday message on Saturday.. in Among Friends

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I am stillkeeper of the — Tue, 11 Dec 2018 16:22:21 GMT

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Catty2 — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:21:34 GMT

She sounds like an unhappy, nasty person and you were her target for the day. I think you handled it very well.

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shortbreadlover — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:24:03 GMT

i think that you did the right thing. people do not have the respect that they once had. they were guests in your home and you elected to welcome them but you do not have have to put up with rudeness in your own home.\

i had a neigbor who came over to visit me me one day and he exposed himself to me while we were chatting. i had him leave and told him he was never ever welcome in my home again. he said he was sorry but that did not cut it with me. he knew what he was doing and i do not have to have people like that in my home. and neither do you.

i just feel that people today have no respect and anything that they want to say or do goes.

we did to getback to basic manners

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CAcableGirl2 — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:28:58 GMT

@I am stillkeeper of the Good for you. Everyone needs to learn to stick up for themselves.

You are a good person, and one who is an angel to all the animals that you help and provide a safe place to live. Bless you for all you continue to do.

Shame on her - she must be unhappy and trying to spread her misery around.

You did the right thing.

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Lilysmom — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:47:12 GMT

@I am stillkeeper of the , I am blown away at the churlish behaviour of an uninvited guest not just in your home, but sharing a meal at your table. I think you handled it well. LM

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Jtdmum — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:51:46 GMT

I think we share sisters--Mine acts as badly as yours appears to.

I've gone beyond caring and just ignore now. If others are around I'll ask her to leave when she becomes obnoxious. Nobody needs to be abused, and she can embarrass herself with her friends, not mine.

You can pick your friends....

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jeanlake — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 20:56:30 GMT

When you've done everything you can to keep peace and it isn't working - change the game. You asked her to leave -- changed the game. So proud of you!

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I am stillkeeper of the — Tue, 11 Dec 2018 16:23:06 GMT

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RetRN — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 21:59:15 GMT

Good for you, I sense she may have some envy regarding your life. Hope she thinks about how she acted and is embarassed.

If she has any class at all (which I doubt) she should apologize to you.

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Kitlynn — Sat, 24 Nov 2018 22:52:35 GMT

You handled this very well and you are 100% right. We as adults don't owe anyone explanations on how we live or how we choose to live and spend our time. As long as we are paying our own bills what we do is our business. We all get to write our own books. We don't write the first chapter or the last but we certainly write all the chapters in between. That is the wonderful gift about life is that we get to decide how we live it and so does everyone else.

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sissel — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 03:14:10 GMT

Good for you most hosts would just be upset and trying to be polite, well first of all you said her cousin, husband & 2 kids which is 4 unexpected people that you didn't invite into your house shame on your SIL. The nerve of this lady, yes get out. Why should she ruin your Thanksgiving. I would not be happy with the SIL she added more people & rude ones too, not a fan of your SIL and I don't know her.

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sissel — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 04:27:13 GMT

SIL should have called in advance telling you if it is OK to bring 4 extra people, also this SIL knows her cousin is rude why would she even think of bringing her & her also rude family. I blame her for all of this. Good news, you stood your ground the cousin will probably never come back & SIL knows you don't take ****** from anyone. I know your day was ruined with all of this. I would tell your husband that this needs to be controlled for the next holiday. Just watch out for this SIL she was the one that caused all this. She may cause problems in the future too who knows.

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rnmom — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 12:16:21 GMT

@I am stillkeeper of the -I am so glad to hear that you handled this the way that you did! Wonderful job!

There is absoluely no reason why you have to justify your life to anyone and there is no reason why you should be treated like that in your own home. I'm thrilled that you asked her to leave. Just from reading your posts you sound like a very lovely and caring person and I'm glad you stood up for yourself.

There are SO many people around today that think it's okay to just say whatever they want or do whatever they want to do and no one will call them on it. Any behavior is supposed to be accepted today and we're supposed to just take it. I work in a hospital and when I was still taking care of patients I saw it every day. Good for you for standing up for yourself. Hopefully this woman thought at least a little bit about how her behavior might have been inappropriate, but I doubt it.

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dex — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 13:57:16 GMT

@I am stillkeeper of the funny how she thought that you only cared for animals...seems to me her whole family was being cared for at your house.She kind of fit the “abandoned category as she had nowhere else to go for Thanksgiving.I think her heart is filled with too much misery and your love and happiness was unbearable for her...she wanted to share her misery with you.

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Allegheny — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 16:16:13 GMT

@I am stillkeeper of the Such an uncomfortable situation, however, you handled it admirably. It is a shame there are such people in the world who have no manners or filter on their mouths. I am embarrassed for her husband and children.

But why in the world would your SIL take it upon herself to invite them without telling you?

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Vivian — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 18:37:09 GMT

Your sister-in-law was absolutely wrong to bring uninvited guests. She should have called to ask. To literally add insult to injury, your uninvited guest decided to take out her own miseries in life on you...talk about biting the hand that feeds you! I absolutely understand why you asked her to leave. I might have given her a warning first, upon that call into the kitchen. However, I’d bet she would not agree and heap more insults at me, at which point I’d probably have lost my temper in front of everyone. Your sister-in-law needs a talking-to as well, albeit when you’re calm and recovered from the assault.

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SeaMaiden — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 19:21:56 GMT

@I am stillkeeper of the Your home is your sanctuary....your place of peace....place of safety.

This uninvited guest who You gratuitously took in, was rude rude... and hateful towards you in your home.

I would have have asked her to leave as well.

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blackhole99 — Sun, 25 Nov 2018 19:57:09 GMT

I didn't look at the nick before I read the post and when I got to the end and it was signed MaryAnne, I thought,"of course it is". You go girl!