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Husband Didn't Take Me To His H.S. Reunion

Julie928 — Mon, 01 Oct 2018 02:10:24 GMT

I decided to delete this thread because I felt it was going in the wrong direction. I'm sorry to have wasted all of your time but do appreciate the insight so many of your provided.

Re: Husband Didn't Take Me To His H.S. Reunion

Karie2022 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:30:22 GMT

Well, if it’s any consolation, my dh would probably do the same thing...who knows why?? I can see why your hurt, as women, that’s how we react, as we are way more emotional than men...most of the time they don’t mean anything by it...we just look at things and react to situations different than them, and he probably didn’t put much thought into it..please stay on your positive journey, don’t let this derail your progress😀

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CLHS68 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:29:23 GMT

I do think you are overreacting. Do you know any of these people? Maybe he thought it would be boring if you did not know anyone and would have to stay with you instead of mingling & talking to his friends. I know at my reunions many went without their spouse as they were from different classes/Schools. Sounds like you do not trust him. Has he given you reason?

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Blingqueen023 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:30:19 GMT

you have every right to feel hurt. My husband had class reunions and he never went alone. If my husband would’t Take me, I’d be mortified and angry to say the least. I’m sorry your spouse treated you like you don’t count. If my husband pulled that on me, it would be a cold day in hockey sticks before I’d ever speak two words to him again. What your husband did is unforgivable.

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Carmie — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:33:50 GMT

Normally I am not upset if my DH go places without me and I encourage him to do so, but In your case if you wanted to go and his only excuse for not taking you is a dumb sorry excuse about the dogs, I would be upset too.

I hate to even say it, but there was another reason he went alone. I am not buying his excuse.

My DH only went to one class reunion in his lifetime...I didn't want to go, so he went with a bunch of his male classmates. He did not have a good time and never went to any again.

I have never gone to any of my class reunions.

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Scooby Doo — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:30:59 GMT

I've been to those reunions. Feel lucky you got to stay home.

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bmorechick — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:31:20 GMT

Don’t know your situation but if it were me, I wouldn’t read too much into it. Maybe he wanted to scope out the scene with his guy classmates. My husband went to his last one alone, but I told him no hon, I dont have any interest in going...have at it. Go and enjoy. I would be bored stiff because I wouldn’t know anyone and then I would be egging him to leave. So he did, got home late and he just briefly touched on it the next day. No biggie but we have been together 42 years, so we go it alone a lot and we are just fine with it. I need my independence and always have.

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Lisa now in AZ — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:34:28 GMT

Hello @@Julie928, I don't know you or your history and how you have been working on yourself. To me, though, it sounds like your reactions and feelings are totally justified (not that feelings aren't - you feel what you feel). But, from your words and your perspective, it doesn't sound like your husband seems to respect you and I would wonder why he didn't want you to go with him and what he was planning to do when you weren't there. I hope you don't focus this internally and make it about you - HE was the one who was (apparently) thoughtless and unkind. You seem like you have worked hard to get out of a situation that was unhealthy - keep working on that and if he isn't helping you - well, that's a whole other issue. Please be kind to you!

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sidsmom — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:35:31 GMT

Out of curiosity....what ‘year’ reunion was it?

20 years..50 years?

Or what is his age, if you choose to reveal.

Re: Husband Didn't Take Me To His H.S. Reunion

Julie928 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:36:52 GMT

@CLHS68 ~ No, no reason for not trusting him, so-to-speak.

Maybe I've been watching too many lifetime movies but I think I should have been there enjoying the evening with him. Did I mention our anniversary was on Friday? Would have been nice to have him home earlier last night and maybe watch a movie and connect with the man I've spent 10 years of my life with.

Maybe that's not how life is. If that's the case I'd better get my head out of the clouds and get back to reality.

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chiclets — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:37:30 GMT

Honestly, he is your husband and it is your relationship. You should/have to work this one out yourself. Opinions will not resolve the issue.

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GAQShopr53 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:37:39 GMT

I read the post and do you think because of the age difference he thought you would not have enjoyed the reunion? I took my husband to my 35 year class reunion and he had more fun that I did...but I almost did not invite him because I thought he would be bored. This may be something you have to discuss with your husband and no one else...I didn't want to go to my husband's reunion and had no issues with him going by himself...I do know there could be some apprehension about his classmates and those potential girls from high school LOL...but this is a decision only you will be able to make and I don't know if I would ask on a forum for advice...I hope everything works out for you regardless of whether or not he talks about the reunion or not!

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wagirl — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:38:47 GMT

Do you know any of his friends? Did you just want to strut your stuff or really want to meet those people——- You should have gone then. Otherwise I can’t think of something more boring than someone’s reunion where I knew no one. Think you are way over reacting and next time, go! This waiting to be invited to do something is a waste of time. If you have nothing to be worried about with hubby, then what the heck—- and getting home at 12:30 is not late. I’ve never been to my hubs reunions, have no desire and we’ve been married 42 years. He got home way later than that after a few of them.

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Mom2Dogs — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:39:49 GMT

My dh and I are 17 years apart in age.....I have gone to 2 class reunions since our marriage about 40 years ago.....honestly there is such an age gap I really did not want him to go with me, and he didn't want to go! BUT his reunion....he WANTS me to go, so I do. I have been to 3 of his....I had a nice time.

I am more outgoing than he is and I know that if he went to my reunion, I would have spent time making sure he was having a was not bored, which was not why I wanted to go ...I wanted to visit with old friends and not worry about him.

At his reunion there was another wife that was just a tad older than me and we hit it off and visited with each other over the course of the evening, we had a nice time while our husbands caught up with one another.

If I was the OP I would be hurt that he did not tell me how the evening went but not sure what is meant by being late....did he say he would be home at a certain time? My husband is a terrible commnicator, I have to ask a lot of questions sometimes which is irritating, but that is who he is.

Did you @Julie928 know anyone from his class?

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Julie928 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:39:54 GMT

@sidsmom ~ 40 year reunion. He is 58, I am 46.

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Big Joanie — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:40:22 GMT

Don't give up on yourself .. keep up the good work ....

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sidsmom — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:40:55 GMT

@Julie928

Keep focusing on you!

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QVCkitty1 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:41:04 GMT

He knew you wanted to go with him, he should have taken you, period .

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haddon9 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:43:28 GMT

I would be thrilled for him to just go & have fun without me having to go along and pretend to be interested in all of those people. I would think it would be boring for those who didn't attend the school listening to all of the reminiscing.

I wouldn't be hurt but we've been married for almost 37 years. To me some alone time is nice.

Thinking about it if I went to one of my reunions (which I never have but have discussed possibly doing with an old friend), I wouldn't want my husband tagging along. I would want to get caught up with old friends without worrying about my husband sitting there expecting me to make sure he's introduced and having a good time.

I guess I don't understand those who need to do everything with their spouse.

Re: Husband Didn't Take Me To His H.S. Reunion

Julie928 — Sun, 30 Sep 2018 22:43:39 GMT

I get that opinions on this forum will not resolve the matter. I'm just curious how some of you would react and yes, I would like to know if I am overreacting. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less. Sometimes it helps to just type it out and get it out of your system.