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Please help me solve an argument with DH

slmartino — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:02:34 GMT

Heres the situtation. Im not going to say which side I'm on as I dont want it to be biased, but please read below and comment with what you would do.

First, think of the only place in the world that you want to be...such as an actual place, not with someone. Whether it be the mediterranean, caribbean, Paris, somewhere in the US, another country, etc. I mean the place that you love with all of your heart and would go at any opportunity you could get.

Now, say that your other half has friends that have invited her or him to this particular place but yet your husband or wife can't go for whatever reason and must stay behind to work.

Would you willingly go on vacation with your friends to the place that you know your husband or wife has always wanted to go or would you tell the friends that you wouldn't go without your husband/ wife.

Would like to take a poll here to just see what the consensus is....GO!

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fthunt — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:11:21 GMT

This one is a snap for me - no I would not even consider going.

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blackhole99 — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:12:10 GMT

First off, I wouldn't go on vacation with friends.I wouldn't want to go if my husband couldn't go and I wouldn't go alone.

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RainyDayGal — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:12:59 GMT

Let the spouse go without me. There's places we both want to go, but with home situation it would be hard for both of us to get away, and I would not deny him the chance to go if it was offered.

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Karie2022 — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:13:01 GMT

I probably would not go without my dh..I’d wait until we could go together...I really don’t think there’s anywhere in the world that I dream about going that would be so important I wouldn’t go with him, but that’s me😀

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bonnielu — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:13:17 GMT

I would not go without my husband and he would not go without me. We are best friends and we GO TOGETHER or not at all.

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Daysdee — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:14:42 GMT

@Karie2022 wrote:
I probably would not go without my dh..I’d wait until we could go together...I really don’t think there’s anywhere in the world that I dream about going that would be so important I wouldn’t go with him, but that’s me😀

Same here.

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Mary Bailey — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:15:40 GMT

Life is too short to live it for someone else.

go! I would tell my SO to go..... no hard feelings

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qvcfreak — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:17:45 GMT

I'm going to say no, if either one of us really wanted to see that place, I think we'd like to experience it together and not with friends.

Now, if it was a place the other spouse didn't care for, then yes I would go.

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OKPrincess — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:20:23 GMT

Easy — We wouldn’t go without each other.

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aoldgirl — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:25:03 GMT

I would go, although I would wish he were with me, I would go. and I feel the same for him. I would hope he would go where he wanted to go. Life is too short. Love last forever. He would want me to go .

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stevieb — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:27:17 GMT

I'd go. Not to is just ridiculous. If the partner isn't able to extricate him or herself from work, then why shouldn't the other one enjoy this opportunity. To expect otherwise just seems selfish to me. Marriage doesn't mean each partner gives up any semblence of being an individual.

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software — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:33:30 GMT

I don't want to make this complicated but if the "friends" were very good friends, friends you do things with often, friends for many years, almost family, the answer is GO

Next time, the situation could be reversed.

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NicksmomESQ — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:35:17 GMT

I wouldn’t go without my husband.I would be unhappy & wouldn’t have a good time.I would miss him too much.

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Desertdi — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:53:27 GMT

If it would cause a feud, jealousy, etc., between the partners, I personally would wait until BOTH could take the trip together.

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Wiscfan3 — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:56:46 GMT

Both of us would tell the other person to go, but I don't think either of us would actually go.

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Annabellethecat66 — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:59:01 GMT

I don't even have to think about it. Since my late husband and I enjoyed our life together, we wouldn't have fun or feel good unless we were together.

In fact, every time he traveled on business ( other than building houses), he'd come home and say, "I can't wait to take you and the girls there! You'll love it".

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SXMGirl — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 01:59:05 GMT

I would discuss this with my husband, who would encourage me to go. If he was invited somewhere and I was not available, I would encourage him to go. Life is too short to have regrets about not going somewhere that you have always wanted to visit. I believe in taking advantage of every opportunity to have fun. Yes, it probably would be more fun with your partner, but that is not always possible.

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maestra — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 02:04:34 GMT

sign me up-I'm outta here. My passport is ready and waiting.

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qbetzforreal — Sat, 01 Sep 2018 02:06:16 GMT

Absolutely, either one of us would go.