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PEOPLE WONT UNDERSTAND

hsawaknow — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:37:16 GMT

Yesterday my 10 y/o lab Bo was acting funny. He couldn't walk and was in pain. Wouldn't eat or drink either so I took him to the vets emergency hospital. They ran tests and xrays gave him a shot for the pain and some pills for the week. They ruled out cancer, broken bones, anything internal. The Drs. were perplexed.

The night didn't go well, he was in pain and couldn't walk. He looked at us as to say 'please help me' I was crying so hard and my son was crying. everyone was crying. Bo was a sweet, kind and gentle dog. He never hurt anyone and was so good with kids. I remember getting him at six weeks old and him sleeping on my lap all the way home.

Before we decided to put him down we ran one more test just to make sure and there was no change, Bo had what my last dog had. Where the brain doesn't send the signal to the back legs to walk and the dogs become paralyzed. Eventually the spine gets worse and the animal spends years in agony.

I have had to have 6 animals put down in my life and 3 die naturally. Each time it hurts, its like your family and people dont understand that. They want you to snap out of it. How do you do that from someone who gives you unconditional love, is always there for you and always happy to see you.

I miss him, I told him all my secrets and he stayed with me when I was sick or just sat with me to keep me company. I have been crying all day and hurt all over. And even though it hurts and I vow to never have another dog Im sure my heart will soften one day, but as for now my heart is torn to pieces and broken.

Thanks for listening.

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Venezia — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:42:08 GMT

@hsawaknow- I am so sorry for what you've just gone through. Believe me, I know the pain you're in right now and I know that nothing but time will help to even make it possible to get through the day.

Please know that there are many of us on these boards who have gone through the same thing - more than once - and you have our prayers and healing thoughts.

Be gentle with yourself. You did the very best thing you could for Bo and you gave him years of love. Remember the love he gave you, too. We pay a high price for that love, but it is so worth it.

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Daysdee — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:42:26 GMT

@hsawaknow i'm so sorry for your loss and I totally understand your feelings. When we lost a dog we had for over 15 years, I also said "no more dogs." In time with the kids wanting another dog, we did get a rescue. The dog I have now is also a rescue and I don't think I would like to live alone without this dog. Dogs are such great companions and just so nice to have around. Maybe in time you will feel like getting another dog. Again, I feel for you at this time.

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Mustang Shar — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:42:55 GMT

Oh my gosh, my heart is breaking for you. Us doggy people are giving you gentle hugs, we understand your pain xxoo

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Diva on The Q — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:46:57 GMT

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GSPgirl — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:47:44 GMT

I know what you are going through. I’m sorry for your loss. Out pets are part of our family. I’m glad you posted because my sweet girl dog is going through this same thing. You explained it very well. My doctors are perplexed, too. My girl has lost the use of both her back legs. She is still eating and drinking, but can’t get up to pee. She drags herself to the dish. We carry her everywhere. We are deciding on when it’s time to let her go.

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OKPrincess — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:48:55 GMT

@hsawaknow I’m sorry for your loss. Yes we love our pets but you lived Bo and know his aches and pains. In my opinion you did the right thing. Bless you and your family.

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pupwhipped — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:49:25 GMT

@hsawaknow, I'm grabbing you right now and giving you a close hug from my heart to yours. I hope you can feel it. People do understand...so many of us do. It hurts so much. It's just the worst! Please know that others care and know this pain. BTW, my black lab's name was Boo Boo.

Sincerely,

pupwhipped

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phoenixbrd — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:52:53 GMT

@hsawaknow This is just the worse when we lose our beloved pets. I know nothing helps and it takes a long time to adjust to a home without our furry members. We never lose that feeling of loss. You loved and were loved by your sweet Bo. Sending you and your family much love.

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Bangor — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:58:22 GMT

I am so sorry to hear about your beloved pet and I do understand how you feel and send my sympathy to you and your family.

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on the bay — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:01:04 GMT

@hsawaknow-

There is no loss that compares.

One thing my daughter told me that really helped me, becaue I couldn't stop crying for days and just wanting to be with them again (and all of us said it was the hardest thing we'd ever been through including any family members we had lost!),

was that they gave us such joy, we owe it to them to honor that love and joy they gave us by living our lives with happiness the way they gave to us. They would not want to see us unhappy.

I feel them every single day with me.

Our love will never end. There is no other love like it.

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EdithEllenLily — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 01:59:59 GMT

@hsawaknow I am so sorry. Bo was very fortunate to have you all...and you will see him again one day in Heaven. Please take good care of yourself even though your heart is breaking now. It's never, ever easy to say goodbye to someone in your family. Sending you peace and comfort at this super sad time, EEL

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Mom2Dogs — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:02:15 GMT

awwww...it is always so sad when you lose an animal. DH and I have had to put down 3 dogs since we have been married, we cry like babies........it's so hard. Take care

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Nonametoday — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:04:35 GMT

There comes a time when some of us can no longer take in animals for reasons known to our hearts and though I said that many times in the past, I have now been --- five years --- without a kitty. I have had kitties and sometimes multiples since I can remember, but the last time I put one down, I decided in fairness to me and another animal, it is too late in life. I have severe osteoporosis and kitties like to walk right with you, often tripping you and for that reason, it would not be fair to me to have something I loved that much, trip me and cause me to fall and lose my life and then I would not be able to care for the poor, sweet baby I loved. Another reason, my kitties always lived about 20 years and I do not expect to have that many years on this earth remaining, and it would be unfair to get a kitty and leave it without anyone to care for it. For that reason, I have made the decision as unselfishly as I can, not to encumber a cat with the failing health of its owner.

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Mistic — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:05:10 GMT

I am so sorry for your loss. YES, I get it. It hurts so bad. Feels like your heart is breaking. It's OK to cry. He was a Family member, and if someone doesn't get that? Well then, I feel sorry for them, to have never had the unconditional love of a Dog.

Sending {{{Gentle Hugs}}} To You And Your Family.

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San Antonio Gal — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:06:58 GMT

@hsawaknow- I am so very sorry for your loss. I completely understand how you feel. Dogs are family members and it's devastating losing a family member. Reading your post brings tears to my eyes and I hope it gets easier for you day by day. Please take care.

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house_cat — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:07:29 GMT

@hsawaknow

Sending you a (((hug))).

You did the right thing, but I know how hard it is. It has been 3 1/2 years since I had my last one put down and I'm still not ready for another one. I hope you can find comfort in the happy memories. 🐾🐾

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mwmc — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:12:35 GMT

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a cat who lived to be 21. I had people tell me I should put him down just because he was old. I thought that was awful. I loved him. Why would I betray him just because he is old? He had arthrtis and it was managed with medicine and vitamins. He went to the vet twice a year for check ups because he was a senior. I feed him senior food.He was old but he was happy and alert. He was old but, he still wanted attention. He still wanted to play even though the he was not as agile do to his arthritis. He had throat cancer and deterioated quite quickly because he couldn't eat. He was in pain and never got mean. He used his litter box up until the end. I had to put him down to end his suffering. We were fortunate and our vet came to the house so he could pass at home. His name was Handsome and he was a wonderful, gentle cat. He has been gone 5 years and I teared up typing this. There are those of us who do understand. Those who do not understand must have never had a bond with an animal and they have missed out on something special.

Handsome Honey, My big boy

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Kachina624 — Mon, 06 Aug 2018 02:18:32 GMT

@hsawaknow I can only compare the loss of a beloved pet to a kick in the gut. You feel physical as well as emotional pain. So many of us understand the feelings you're having.

I wish all the owners of senior dogs would read the symptoms of "old dog disease". My last collie had it and my vet recognized it instantly so it's not uncommon. It is survivable.