topic Re: Graduation Announcements in Among Friends

Graduation Announcements

Winkk — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:03:29 GMT

Do people still send out high school graduation announcements? My grandson will be graduating next month and he does not want a party. I suggested to my daughter that they send out announcements letting family and friends know he is graduating and where he will be going to college.

She said no, that isn't done anymore. And, it would look like they were looking for gifts. If they had a party people would give him gifts so what's the difference? Anyway, what are your thoughts on announcements?

Re: Graduation Announcements

qualitygal — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:13:56 GMT

I thought in getting an announcement, that that was your ticket to being invited to the graduation ceremonies. I could be wrong. It's been ages. If parents wanted a party, they let everyone know. We usually had it in tent covers outside to accommodate everyone. Food was under the canopy, if you did a card with money in it, it was a gift handed to the graduate. No box to just slide it into. You got to tell the graduate "good job".

Re: Graduation Announcements

rolen — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:17:39 GMT

I was thinking about announcements recently also. I have 2 grandkids graduating from high school and one from college. When I mentioned announcements they had no idea what I was talking about. I told them how there used to be formal announcements with a little card inserted with the name of the graduate. They just kind of smiled as they frequently do when I mention 'olden times'!

Re: Graduation Announcements

Graysonsmom — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:20:50 GMT

We just received a college graduation announcement yesterday. My husband and I were debating if a gift should be sent. I said yes and he said no. Would live to hear some opinions. The graduate is the fiance of my husband's godson.

Re: Graduation Announcements

haddon9 — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:22:37 GMT

@qualitygal wrote:
I thought in getting an announcement, that that was your ticket to being invited to the graduation ceremonies. I could be wrong. It's been ages. If parents wanted a party, they let everyone know. We usually had it in tent covers outside to accommodate everyone. Food was under the canopy, if you did a card with money in it, it was a gift handed to the graduate. No box to just slide it into. You got to tell the graduate "good job".

@qualitygal At many large suburban high schools one needs a ticket from the school to get into the graduation ceremonies. If held indoors due to the weather one only gets two tickets...for the parents due to the lack of space. Even outdoors one can't invite as many as they wish.

Re: Graduation Announcements

OKPrincess — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:24:03 GMT

We received a graduation announcement from high school graduate last weekend.

Re: Graduation Announcements

haddon9 — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:24:14 GMT

When my kids graduated around 15 years ago no one I knew did announcements. I had a party for my daughter but my son insisted on NO party! So we took him out to a nice dinner with just the immediate family.

Re: Graduation Announcements

hovis — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:26:11 GMT

When I graduated from HS we had announcements. I don't think they do that anymore. Things were much more formal back then and now everything is casual.

Re: Graduation Announcements

Winkk — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:26:57 GMT

@haddon9 wrote:
When my kids graduated around 15 years ago no one I knew did announcements. I had a party for my daughter but my son insisted on NO party! So we took him out to a nice dinner with just the immediate family.

That's what we are doing too @haddon9. He is fine with just a dinner.

Re: Graduation Announcements

Imaoldhippie — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:30:04 GMT

Its reaching a little far but I would send a cash gift of 25 to 50 dollars.

Re: Graduation Announcements

CelticCrafter — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:30:29 GMT

When our daughter graduated from high school, 2007, you could buy announcements from the school if you wanted them.

We did not, IMO, it was like looking for a gift.

Re: Graduation Announcements

dex — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:35:26 GMT

I think it would look like you wanted gifts if you sent out cards to people announcing the graduation.I think family and close friends would be aware that he is graduating and send a gift if they choose to anyhow.

Re: Graduation Announcements

Winkk — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:40:08 GMT

@dex wrote:
I think it would look like you wanted gifts if you sent out cards to people announcing the graduation.I think family and close friends would be aware that he is graduating and send a gift if they choose to anyhow.

That's what my daughter thought too @dex.

Re: Graduation Announcements

CelticCrafter — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:55:47 GMT

@Graysonsmom wrote:
We just received a college graduation announcement yesterday. My husband and I were debating if a gift should be sent. I said yes and he said no. Would live to hear some opinions. The graduate is the fiance of my husband's godson.

I agree with your husband. If it were his godson that were graduating, it would be a different story.

Re: Graduation Announcements

Lilysmom — Fri, 04 May 2018 13:58:14 GMT

I would totally view this as a gift grab. Those close enough and important enough know what goes on in your child’s life. Those that feel it appropriate will gift anyway. Why set yourself up? LM

Re: Graduation Announcements

queendiva — Fri, 04 May 2018 14:03:25 GMT

I sent announcements only for my DS' college graduations, and only to very close family members. The announcements were photo cards stating the date of graduation, the college, major and the honor. Both graduations were out of state, so other family members did not attend. Some sent checks, others did not. Both DSs requested not to have parties. They also preferred special restaurant dinners with closest family members following HS graduations.

@Graysonsmom: There will be plenty of time for gifts for fiance of a godson ?. Were it me, I would just send a card or note congratulating the graduate.

Re: Graduation Announcements

MsChiff — Fri, 04 May 2018 14:16:56 GMT

I wish more people sent them. We have friends across the U.S. and several have had children graduate high school over the past few years. I would have liked to send a gift as an acknowledgment of their achievement, had I known. A great gift for someone is a check for the year of graduation (eg $20.18)

For the person asking about a gift -- if you're close with the godson and his fiancee, by all means get her a gift; if not, it's not necessary.

Re: Graduation Announcements

AuntG — Fri, 04 May 2018 14:19:49 GMT

Many young people aren't in to formal correspondence.

Re: Graduation Announcements

dancingwoman — Fri, 04 May 2018 14:22:38 GMT

We just received an announcement yesterday in the mail. These people lived in our town years ago. We see them maybe every two years. Never speak on the phone or email. They are friends of one of our friends but not that much us.

DH says ignore it but I feel bad doing so. Thinking of sending 50.00. Not sure what I'm doing yet as I know this was a solicitation for a gift as they live a 7 hr drive away and they know we won't be going to the party at their house....I have to decide...I don't want bad feelings with anyone....DW

Re: Graduation Announcements

CANDLEQUEEN — Fri, 04 May 2018 14:26:04 GMT

We received a High School Graduation invitation from my husband's nephew and they are having a big party. Now it may be different if you decide you don't want a party at all. But when my daughter's were in High School, you sent annoucements out to family, especially to those who wouldn't be able to attend....I am sure times have changed because this was almost 20 years ago now.....