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Question For FB Users

ECBG — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 02:57:55 GMT

Occasionally, I get a friend request from a man I don't know. I had a request from a top employee at a funeral home where I had been supporting a close friend when she lost her mother, whom I loved. Apparently, he looked at my friend's FB (whos name he obviously knew) and found me listed as her friend.

I also have an occasional marine or someone else of that nature friend me. I mark them as spam.

My filters say I'm married and a retired teacher.

Is anyone else having this?

Thank you.

Re: Question For FB Users

twinsister — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 03:03:48 GMT

I have gotten friend requests from men and women I do not know. A few have been from overseas. I do not accept any friend requests unless I know them. Most are "friends of friends", but I still don't accept them.

Re: Question For FB Users

ECBG — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 03:52:06 GMT

@twinsister wrote:
I have gotten friend requests from men and women I do not know. A few have been from overseas. I do not accept any friend requests unless I know them. Most are "friends of friends", but I still don't accept them.

@twinsisterThank you. Mine aren't "friends of friends".

Re: Question For FB Users

KitTkat — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 04:17:37 GMT

I think I'd feel uncomfortable if a strange man suddenly decided he wanted to be my "friend." 😞

Re: Question For FB Users

NYC Susan — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 04:32:05 GMT

I've been on Facebook for many years, and have only had this happen a few times, not often at all. If I don't know the person, I delete the request. And that's the end of it. If someone is persistent, you can block them, but I've never had to do that. I simply click on "delete request", and it's over and done.

I only accept friend requests from people I actually know. All of my posts are designated for "friends only". The public view of my profile shows pretty much nothing since my settings are all very tight. There's no indication if I'm married, where I live, who my FB friends are, etc

Some people use Facebook to meet new people, so it's not necessarily horrible if someone reaches out. I'm not there to meet new people, though, so I just delete the request.

Re: Question For FB Users

Kitlynn — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 05:25:06 GMT

I do get them and I delete them. The only people I accept on face book are the people I know. It is easy to get hacked also from friend request. It sounds odd but their are people out there that just thrive on that kind of thing. If you really don't know someone it is better to just not accept the request.

Re: Question For FB Users

charvale — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 06:07:33 GMT

No because I control who can request to be friends.

In privacy settings there's a section for who can send you a friend request.

Also my privacy settings on all pix, posts and personal info are strict so random people can't see any of that.

Re: Question For FB Users

LTT1 — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 08:51:18 GMT

@ECBG

I agree with these posts. Same for me and the unknown people who send requests, which only happens rarely.

My policy is generally not to reply to any posts classified as”public.”

I do “share” public posts...generally cute animal or kiddie stuff,

ie: a news channel may have a “live” broadcast in progress. If I join in with a “live” discussion that is going on, it seems more likely that someone unknown might send a friend request.

I just delete these and forget about them.

Re: Question For FB Users

ID2 — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 09:34:38 GMT

"block" them.

Re: Question For FB Users

jackthebear — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 10:31:17 GMT

@ECBG wrote:
Occasionally, I get a friend request from a man I don't know. I had a request from a top employee at a funeral home where I had been supporting a close friend when she lost her mother, whom I loved. Apparently, he looked at my friend's FB (whos name he obviously knew) and found me listed as her friend.

I also have an occasional marine or someone else of that nature friend me. I mark them as spam.

My filters say I'm married and a retired teacher.

Is anyone else having this?

Thank you.

block is your friend, use it often

and delete the descriptions of yourself

Re: Question For FB Users

CelticCrafter — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 10:57:43 GMT

If I don't actually know the person I won't accept the request, not even from someone that lived in the same neighborhood I grew up in.

I once got a request from my very first boyfriend from 50 years ago! Um, that would also be a no!

Re: Question For FB Users

TX-starlight — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 11:49:21 GMT

I get many requests daily from men I do not know. I immediately delete & block them. I am also a seller on several FB groups. If you use MarketPlace , for selling, you also gets LOTS of weird msgs from strangers (not interested in the items, if you know what I mean). I believe they stalk MarketPlace. I do not use MP anymore, due to this. I dislike MP very much. The msg usually come to the filtered requests, but being a seller, I know to look there for buyers msgs, at time.

Re: Question For FB Users

151949 — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 11:54:30 GMT

Not a big deal - delete it & forget it.

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CherryHugs — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 12:01:22 GMT

Yes and more over the past month than ever. I look at their profile page and we have no mutual friends or they have only a few pictures even military. If I add them immediately they send a message in messenger. I delete them and most of the time I block them too.

Re: Question For FB Users

chrystaltree — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 13:09:51 GMT

I had my daughter set up my FB filters and I don't get a lot of junk; not nearly what people complain about. I do get friend requests but they are from the people we both happen to be FB friends with and I don't think those people are reaching out to me. I think it's a FB feature. Some people like have a horde or FB "friends". I don't. The friend requests that do get through, I ignore.

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PilatesLover — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 13:21:45 GMT

I won't anymore. I once got a request from a "friend of a friend" and accepted it. After a few weeks I found out he was just a dirty old man when he PM'd me and said raunchy things. I reported him to FB and blocked him AND told his "friend of friends" what he said.

Re: Question For FB Users

Isobel Archer — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 14:23:50 GMT

@KitTkat wrote:
I think I'd feel uncomfortable if a strange man suddenly decided he wanted to be my "friend." 😞

Exactly. If I don't know them in RL, then I delete the request.

I've had several people I don't know - including men overseas - send friend requests. I don't know how to stop it, other than to delete the requests.

Re: Question For FB Users

Isobel Archer — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 14:27:17 GMT

@NYC Susan wrote:

I've been on Facebook for many years, and have only had this happen a few times, not often at all. If I don't know the person, I delete the request. And that's the end of it. If someone is persistent, you can block them, but I've never had to do that. I simply click on "delete request", and it's over and done.

I only accept friend requests from people I actually know. All of my posts are designated for "friends only". The public view of my profile shows pretty much nothing since my settings are all very tight. There's no indication if I'm married, where I live, who my FB friends are, etc

Some people use Facebook to meet new people, so it's not necessarily horrible if someone reaches out. I'm not there to meet new people, though, so I just delete the request.

All of my original posts are friends only. But I thought if you respond to a post from a friend that it would show up as they originally posted. So if they are "friends only" then their friends (who are not yours) would see it. And if they posted "public" then your response would be "public" also. Is that right - or is there a way to limit your response posts to your friends only?

Re: Question For FB Users

Isobel Archer — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 14:32:12 GMT

@charvale wrote:

No because I control who can request to be friends.
In privacy settings there's a section for who can send you a friend request.
Also my privacy settings on all pix, posts and personal info are strict so random people can't see any of that.

Thanks for this. Didn't realize I could do this. Just did it. Thanks again!!

Re: Question For FB Users

ECBG — Tue, 17 Apr 2018 14:35:11 GMT

@charvale wrote:

No because I control who can request to be friends.
In privacy settings there's a section for who can send you a friend request.
Also my privacy settings on all pix, posts and personal info are strict so random people can't see any of that.

@charvaleWOW! Thanks! Great info that I'm going to use now! Thank you again!